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Updated on September 15, 2016

Bad Relationship


How to handle your relationship?

I do wanna put this article I guess my general opinion on what I can do on the problem of love relationship if you just the one trying to fix it and having an effort.

A lot of you girls are not respecting yourselves or your own happiness I guess.

You keep on asking these questions just to keep the relationship going.

* My boyfriend has been cheating on me for 3 months, what should I do?

* My boyfriend never calls me or never pays attention on me, what do I do?

I feel that the problem is, a lot of girls rely on relationships in order to be happy and I feel like guys can sense that.

Obviously, I can't say immediately dump him because clearly it is not what you want to do. But I do wanna say this... Until you value yourself, until you have self esteem, until you can enjoy life without a relationship, you're always going to deal with relationship problems.

A lot of you girls are afraid to voice out your opinion in a relationship because you think that what? You gonna get dump? Personally, just me, If I was in a relationship and something start happening that I didn't like, I'm gonna say something and If I get dumped because of it? Whatever! Obviously, that was the wrong person. I would never stay in a relationship to anyone who didn't value my own happiness because in relationship you know, you guys should both give, you know, in trying to make each other happy as possible and if you are the only one trying and they are not then, the relationship needs to end.

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Like day after day, it's going miserable all over again and It's a miserable relationship, so why would you not want to end it? Because you gonna be sad for a couple of days afterwards? or because you are afraid of what? They are gonna go to someone else and do the same thing with someone else and not you anymore? I don't understand.

You need to respect yourself. And you need to tell that to yourself. And if you can't do that, everyone that you date is probably going to walk all over you or dump you. Trust me!

I know a lot of girls that would, you know, come crying to me because they discussed that they got dumped again. They go and date someone and be so obsessive because they had no life they always give up their girl friends, give up their lives for this guy. He would get turned off obviously, dumped her and then what? what would you do? Immediately, be in the hunt for another relationship again, there is no time anymore to enjoy yourself. It is just like a vicious cycle that just needs to end now. And if you are one of those girls, you need to snap out of it now because it is not going to end until you learn how to appreciate yourself and value yourself and value your life and enjoy your time with your girl friends and figure out what you like to do to make yourself happy. And until you can't do that you're always wanna be a slave to whatever relationship that you had.

Anyways, for the ones that are in a relationship right now and someone has been cheated on and I guess if you don't want to leave, then you need to say 'hey I don't want like that! Doesn't make me happy, I don't like been cheated on, and if you're not gonna stop I'm gonna walk away'. Then, if they say 'fine!', obviously they don't care about you that means that is the time to walk away, what's gonna happen? You gonna spend a week or two weeks crying on the couch? Hey that's normal and really healthy to do that and I recommend everyone let out a good cry, give me a good cry. Then, after that move on with your life, you know, so that you can be happy after that, trust me. It's worthy after all!

Appreciate life without a relationship and stop so being desperate to be in one and hopefully you get through it if you are a heartbroken girl. Life just go on and there is life after every relationship.

I really hope this article helps.


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      Robelyn Yambao 4 years ago from Philippines

      hello dashingscorpio, thanks for your advice and can help a lot for women out there not only girls but men for choosing to be happy in life.


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      dashingscorpio 4 years ago

      In my book: My Cat Won't Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany) I constantly remind people that: Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse.

      If you went to the grocery store to purchase an apple but bought an onion instead, whose fault is that? Do you curse the onion for not being an apple? No! You learn to become a better shopper!

      We live in an era where no one wants to take responsibility for (their) choices in life. Blaming others for your unhappiness makes you powerless. Learning from one's mistakes as well as how to make better choices is what self-empowerment is all about. Last but not least:

      "The beautiful thing about a door is it lets those who want in (in) and those who want out (out). No one is (stuck) with anyone! We are always where we (choose) to be. If someone is unhappy in a relationship and they choose to stay then (they are choosing) to be unhappy.