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Dealing with Break Ups - The No Contact Rule
Have you just broken up with your ex? You are heart broken, you want this person back in your life or you just want to be friends with him/her. Well, let me break it to you - friendship between exes never works as doesn't renewal of the relationship. You are in serious need of a large dose of the no-contact-rule.
What is the no contact rule?
It is as simple as this - don't call or chat with your ex. Just don't get in contact with him/her. It may sound a hard thing to do in the beginning, but you better believe it! The no contact rule really works and it will help you easily overcome the pain (if any), heal yourself and move on.
How to apply the no contact rule?
The no contact rule basically requires strong will, but if you feel like you are not strong enough then you should take emergency measures. Get your pone right now and delete the phone number of your ex. Bock him/her in the social media sites and wherever you feel you may contact said person.
Why and with what will the no contact rule help you?
To start off, applying the no contact rule is one of the biggest steps to take in closing a chapter of your life. Yes, you may have had some wonderful times with your ex, but they are history. If you don't leave everything in the past you won't be able to open yourself and experience new emotions, friendships and who knows, maybe even new love.
You've decided to take up the no contact rule, now what?
We've all been in the situation where we've shared most of our time and moments with just one person, but him/her is out of our lives. So what do we do? Well here are just a few examples:
a) Go out more - even if you don't have anyone to call, just go out! Going out is really helpful when applying the no contact rule. Don't let depression get to you and wear a smile on your face wherever you go. To the market, to the park, to the bar - there are people everywhere. You will see how fast things will turn around. You will be able to meet new people and build new relations.
b) Get in touch with forgotten friends - We all have these old friends that we never call, but we still keep their numbers in our phone books, just in case. If not now, when is the right moment to call them? Get together, discuss old stories, but remember - don't talk about your ex. If you think of calling someone just to sob on their shoulder - don't! It will be painful for both of you. Remember about the no contact rule, and just enjoy life and let happiness get to you.
c) Tell your best friend - If you have a close friend you can trust, you can tell him/her about the no contact rule you are applying to yourself. They will surely help you and support you.
d) Be yourself - People change when they are with someone and even if you don't want to admit it, you've changed too. Well, the person who made you change isn't around you so now you are able to focus on being yourself. Remember the no contact rule and just embrace the old hobbies and habits you've had, before meeting your ex. Embrace what used to make you happy and do just that. There are no rules, now that your ex is gone. And keep in your mind - the no contact rule is good for you. If you are yourself, you will be with someone who appreciates who you are in no time.
e) Go on the rebound - It may sound as a stupid idea, but it really isn't. It will help you a lot. You will be able to follow the no contact rule more easily and you will be able to let go of your past. And sex always helps. Most of the time we are not admitting it, but sex is a really powerful thing. As you are now free, you can go on the rebound and meet someone for just the pure joy and excitement of a sexual relationship.
Follow the no contact rule and don't give up
Whatever you are thinking, there is just no point in applying salt to the open wound. The no contact rule applies to everything. Avoid places that remind you of him/her, avoid "casual" meetings, throw away old gifts, photos and notes. Don't call and contact said person and just delete them from your life. In the beginning it is always hard, but you will see that it is the most wonderful thing you can treat yourself to, after a harsh break up.Go out and enjoy life, because it's there! Love and Happiness are everywhere around us! Don't give up, apply the no contact rule and help yourself with healing the old wound!