Definition of a Functional Romantic Relationship
Who doesn't want a healthy, functional love relationship that knows no bounds? I would love to have it all with my integrity intact. Going home each night to that one special person would be the best part of any day.
Love that knows no bounds
All relationships, romantic or not, are based on truth and honesty. It makes relationships solid.Therefore, reflecting on your past relationships, so one does not make the same mistakes in new relationships, is key to correcting dating history. Always keep the line of communication open and honest. Keeping your word is important in your lover's eyes.
Openness also increases intimacy in the relationship. When you say what you mean, and mean what you say. Communication is based on clarifying issues, specifying your feelings, and working together towards a satisfactory solution. One's first instinct should not be, "this is too hard. Let's call it quits." Some of the hardest things one does in life are the most rewarding.
To keep fairness in your relationship means trying to see the point of view of the other person, and validating each other's wants and needs. You do not have to agree with your partner - to respect your partner. No issue or problem is more important than your relationship. Respect is earned and kept through validation.
The Financial Partnership of who pays for dates, would be discussed, or you could take turns, or go Dutch. Depending on the status of your relationship, you should always make money decisions together when their are two people drawing on the same account(s).
Sharing responsibility and power, give as much as you receive, go places you both enjoy, make decisions in the relationship together, because each person has an equal say in the relationship. Keep in mind the needs and wants of the other. Viewing yourself as a couple brings each person more happiness and allows them to be stronger.
Respect is necessary in any relationship. Each person is valued for what each brings to the relationship. Always find ways to appreciate the other for who they are. The couples differences are accepted and respected. Pay attention to your partner, value your partner's opinion, listen to what your partner has to say, non judging, and being emotionally affirming and understanding.
Trust & being supportive, in wanting what is best for your partner, being able to rely on your partner, offering encouragement when necessary. The couple feels secure in sharing aspects of their thoughts and feelings. Feeling secure means there is no jealousy or possessiveness. Each individual can let the other see their weaknesses, without fear of negative reactions from them. Individuals are open to what the other is feeling.
Intimacy ties into respecting your partners boundaries, and being faithful to the relationship.
Something I miss - Physical Affection - hugging, kissing, holding hands, sitting with your arm around your partner's shoulder. If at home, watching a movie, laying your head down in his lap, cuddling with your hand on his chest, and staring into his eyes. (Staring into your lover's eyes actually increases passion.)
A couple that has and keeps personal Integrity continues to work on the relationship as well as on themselves - a win-win.
My hope is to have a second chance at marriage. I hear it is better the second time around. However, first, I must find that special guy.