- Gender and Relationships
Why do women (mainly) distance themselves from their friends & social gatherings when they begin dating a man? This also applies to both genders; however the majority of this behavioral issue is of women. Really, everyone knows of or has a friend who loses interest in their lifelong friendships once they start dating a man/woman. This is something I personally have seen many times. When you’re dating someone new or rekindling an old romance, why do women/men ignore & distance themselves from everything & everyone else?
This is truly a sign of insecurity & desperation to keep a man/woman; they seem to be denying themselves of the life they had before the person. It isn’t so much of changing your lifestyle; let’s say that you are a good, hard working, single/divorced mother/father living a decent life. To what point do you go to keep a new love in it? Do you listen to them when they tell you your friends cause drama? Your partner asks you to have less contact with them. Do you avoid hanging out with your friends at social gatherings? Do you only go to their outings & family events? Is everything all about them?
Well, ladies & men a bit of advice here. In this world of today it is hard enough to gain respect as an independent woman already, when you subject yourself to this kind of CONTROL you are displaying that you have no respect for yourself or your choices when you allow this behavior to occur. For men being treated as such by women only shows you love being controlled also & shows who wears the pants in the relationship.
It is great to love & be loved. Is it worth losing everything about you to keep it? Everything in life should be fair; unfortunately most of the time it’s not. Love is a gift & should not be taken for granted or taken advantage of. Keep this in mind every time your partner asks you to keep your distance from your friends, or tells you what not to wear and questions your every move without their consent.
You may feel that it’s “flattering” when they want you all to themselves. Do yourself a favor and question their motives. When they begin to say “he/she can’t stand for any other men/women to look at you, or your friends gossip too much and cause problems between us”; this is insecurity on their behalf & can become overbearing when you allow yourself to be controlled. If you fall into this pattern then the issues at hand would be why YOU are letting this happen.
Ladies & Gentlemen you don’t need to live in seclusion with him/her in order to keep a relationship. Open your eyes & see what everyone does from the outside. Sometimes when women/men behave “desperate” and fall into this pattern. You abandon everything & everyone you know in life; only to be left alone at the end when they leave you.
Well people, keep this quote in mind always. “People think the most painful thing in life is losing the one you value the most.
The truth is, the most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of valuing someone too much and forgetting that you are special too.”