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Are Divorce Ceremonies really Necessary?
I was about to start an ESOL lesson (English for Speakers of Other Languages) on writing Informal Party Invitations and asked learners what types of parties people celebrate. There were so many responses but one stood out. “Divorce Party!” someone shouted.
That really got everyones attention and I asked the student to describe what it was to her peers, as some had puzzled looks. She did. We discussed it a bit more and I said that it would be a happy/sad time for couples. From the little I know, it seems Divorce Parties are most common in the West.
"I said I do, but now I don't."
Why do people have Divorce Parties?
If it was an abusive relationship, I can understand why people would want to celebrate their freedom. However, what if there are kids involved or it was an infidelity issue? There really isn’t much to be happy about or celebrate because in such situations, the person could still love their other half deep down. I also notice that it’s women who tend to have these celebrations. They use it to reclaim their single status and thank the people who have supported them through married life and now back to single life.
Could it be that Divorce Ceremonies give couples a happy closure?
These are also growing in popularity, with officiated ceremonies that include both parites and even a “divorce-moon” (instead of a honeymoon), where parties go on holiday with their kids but ofcourse sleep in different rooms. Sometimes, it’s just one parent that travels. Below is an example of what is said in a Divorce Ceremony.
A couple: Zach and Rachel's Divorce Ceremony
In my opinion, it's not a happy time and a Divorce is like a time of mourning or reflection. Infact, for some cultures it's a shameful thing, which is why Divorce ceremonies are popular in the Western side of the world.
I don’t know what your situation is in life right now, but I hope you find Happiness and True Love.
Thank you for reading. ツ