ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Divorce Prevention - and When You Need a Divorce Attorney

Updated on January 9, 2018
tamarawilhite profile image

Tamara Wilhite is a technical writer, an industrial engineer, a mother of two, and a published sci-fi and horror author.


What can you do to reduce the odds of divorce? What steps can you take to try to keep the marriage together? And when do you need a divorce attorney?

In a perfect world, no one would ever leave their spouse except by death.
In a perfect world, no one would ever leave their spouse except by death. | Source

Divorce Prevention

  • Marrying after the age of 20 reduces the risk of divorce for the young couple. Waiting until age 25 reduces the odds even further, especially if you haven't had a lot of sexual partners prior to marriage.
  • Enjoy a long courtship; this involves waiting at least a year before you get married. Taking time to get to know one another helps each side determine if the other side is a match. It is better to break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend than it is to get divorced later.
  • Never get involved with someone who is currently married to someone else. Use caution when getting involved with someone who has a child by someone else. Marriages with step-children are more likely to end in divorce than first marriages without unrelated minor children.
  • If you are faced with marital strife, never have a baby in the hope that it will make everything better. This is more likely to drive someone away than turn a fighting couple into a loving family.

Tips for the Breakup

  • Always consult with divorce attorneys before you transfer any assets. Do not sign quit claim deeds, give property to family members or sign any ownership paperwork without professional legal advice. In the best case scenario, you have moved assets to the other spouse’s name and must account for this in the divorce filing. In the worst case scenario, you’ve given up your rights to assets such as the family home or cars while remaining liable for the debt.
  • Always get your own legal counsel when facing separation or divorce. Spouses should never use the same divorce attorneys.
  • Make your own copies of all legal documents. Make copies of credit card statements, prenuptial contracts, car titles and deeds. You will need proof of ownership to ensure that the full value of the assets are listed in the divorce filing and to show proof of ownership in case your spouse attempts to sell them prior to the divorce. Copies of all debts such as mortgage payments, utilities and credit card statements are used to show the current financial state of the household and can be used as evidence in case the other spouse attempts to run up debt in your name prior to the divorce.
  • Always seek the advice of a divorce attorney when someone files for separation. While this may not result in divorce, separation affects your taxes and living arrangements. It can also generate alimony and child support orders, areas in which divorce attorneys have significant experience.

When Do You Need a Divorce Attorney?

  • You need a divorce attorney the moment the other spouse says that he or she wants out. It is rare for a spouse to say this without having thought of leaving for a long time. When someone says they want to end the relationship, you need a divorce attorney immediately to secure your rights to your children, your home and your assets.
  • Has your spouse accused you of sexually abusing the children? Unfortunately, this tactic is used by the wife to force the man out of the home, denying him access to critical documentation or the children. Whether your spouse says she wants a divorce or not, you should consult with a divorce attorney the moment the accusations are made. The divorce attorney can help you gain access to critical legal papers such as deeds and bank statements, arrange visitation with the children, and start gathering evidence that can prove your innocence against the sexual abuse charges. While levying sexual abuse charges forces the father out of the house and gives her temporary, full custody of the children, it also affects the man's ability to retain a security clearance, get another job and even land an innocent man in jail.
  • Has your spouse said he or she “needs space”? This statement may be a sign of growing emotional distance or the first step toward an actual divorce. If the spouse has asked for space and asked to go on a long trip or move out, seek legal counsel. An attorney may be able to find evidence of an affair that strengthens your rights during a divorce.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)