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Do Men Like Smart Women?
Does IQ Matter?
Do men really like dating intelligent women? Recently I met an old friend of mine. We aren't exactly best of friends but back in school I always used to ask for her help in studies. She was far more mature than her age, and needless to say uber intelligent! My friend can debate about any topic under the Sun and prefers "intelligent conversations" over gossip. This makes her a little different from the rest of the bunch because girls as you know -- love to gossip! I try to stay away from gossip as far as I can but at times I get tempted to join in a juicy conversation. But this friend of mine is adamant to stay away in such cases.
She got married recently. It was an arranged marriage. If you don't know, arranged marriages are fairly common in India. She was telling me her husband gets bored instantly whenever she talks about her subjects of passion (her work, her medical career, the latest news or anything of the sort). He just likes talking about his friends that she have never met, asks her what she has cooked today, or places his numerous demands in front of her. They don't have anything much to talk about she says. Obviously, they are both bored of each other. You cannot say that either of them are introverted in any way. One is a smart woman who can talk about anything under the Sun, while the other is a man whose general knowledge is not that sharp as her's. She wants an intellectual conversation whereas all he wants is talk abt everyday things like "food", "friends" and "home". He doesn't know what to say when she comes up with topics like politics, science or technology.
Do Men Really Like Intelligent Women?
This question can be asked the opposite way too - "Do women like extremely intelligent men?".
Smart men need to marry smart women. This is to ensure an easy flow of conversation. You will have things to discuss about and you won't ever run out of topics. But this does not necessarily happen all the time. Arranged marriages in India makes such things even more difficult. In India, a single meeting is set up with prospects to make that major decision. Doesn't sound fair to you? But this is what has been happening in our culture for a long time! And by the looks of it, it is not going to change any time soon. In that one meeting you are occupied with knowing the other person's likes and dislikes so much so that you don't have time for discussing things in length. How can you decipher someone's intelligence in just one meeting? To an extent yes, but first impressions do not always reveal the "true" side of things. Probably because both parties are doing their maximum best to impress each other and all they do is avoid further discussion on subjects with a "yes", "obviously", "of course I know all that!".
Do Men Get Turned Off By Intelligent Women?
If a man doesn't know what the hell his brainy wife is talking about -- does he get turned off?
I know this friend of mine doesn't giggle unnecessarily for each and every thing. Her husband seems to prefer such type of girls though - she says. She even goes on to add that it goes against her intelligence to giggle for such silly things. Do men really like it when their partner says - "ok, that wasn't so funny..."?
- Is It Time To Think About Getting Divorced?
In a marital relationship there are times where you might find your partner overbearing, but is it happening way too often? Have you started hating your partner and do you find sharing a future with him/her overwhelming?