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Do Men Stop Wearing Women's Clothing?

Updated on October 13, 2009

Ah, the other side of the coin, how shiny and new it is here. Many men who wear women's clothing and their partners wonder if this will be a life long thing for a man. The good news (if you're of the mind that you shouldn't be wearing women's clothing, or that your partner shouldn't be,) is that men quite often lose interest in wearing women's clothing.

The bad news (if you happen to be of the mind that you shouldn't be wearing women's clothing, or that your partner shouldn't be,) is that this normally only happens when a man has explored every inch of what he enjoys about women's clothing and it has thoroughly lost its taboo and become almost mundane.

If you're constantly fighting yourself, or if you force your man to hide what he is doing, it is actually more likely that he (or you, if you're the one reading this and you're the one fighting your desires) will wear women's clothing for his entire life.

Please realize, this applies to some men only. Those men who wear women's clothing because they get a thrill from the taboo of it all are the most likely kind of men to quit women's clothing quite naturally and of their own accord once the shiny newness of it all wears off.

Like anything in life, things that are forbidden seem exciting and often become self rewarding behaviors. If it's always a taboo, then he'll always get that rush when he puts panties on. If it becomes just another ordinary every day thing, then sooner or later he may simply tire of it. Or, he may not. Some men love lingerie their whole lives simply because they like the way it looks and the way it feels. Let's face it, men's underwear is not all that appealing. In some cases, you have to get to the point where you no longer really care all that much to find out what kind of man you are. And by that time, it doesn't matter.

So what can you do if you want to stop wearing women's clothing? Well, simply stop beating yourself up about it and do it. Seriously. A desire that is repressed becomes a thousand times more powerful than a desire that is expressed. Don't make a big deal out of it, just lounge around in it for as long as it takes for the novelty of the feeling to wear off. If you want to wear women's clothing again, don't stop yourself. Cross dressing doesn't harm anyone, so it's not something you need to concern yourself with quitting cold turkey. Oftentimes, if you know something isn't an issue and you can do it whenever you want, the desire to do so will fade.

Your mind is a powerful beast, but it can also be tricked quite easily. That ginsu knife you bought? You bought that for the same reason you wear women's clothing, because you thought it would be special and make you feel good. The fact of the matter is though, at the end of the day, the ginsu knife is just another knife capable of cutting through a shoe, and a dress is just another expanse of fabric, like your drapes, or the carpet.

It is attachment to objects that gives them power over us, and you can dissolve your attachment to anything if you want to, even pretty women's panties.


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    • KyonSOS23 profile image

      KyonSOS23 8 years ago from Nabon

      Many men like women when first meet because clothing.Man like both women and Women's clothing .

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      Mike 8 years ago

      Makes perfect sense, Hope. While I haven't yet given up my "alternative wardrobe," I have given up the guilt and the secrecy. It's so much more fun to go shop where I please, wear what I please... and not beat myself up about it.

      And, since the vast majority of my time is spent dressed as an ordinary construction worker, it would be hard to make myself sick of it. Dressing girly is just a fun thing I do on weekends... some weekends. I don't want it to get boring -- then I'd have to get a new hobby, and there's all that money in clothes and shoes down the drain. :-P

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      Chris_S 8 years ago from Texas

      This hub made me stop and think. If guys wearing women's clothing became quite common, would it still be a thrill to wear it? For me the answer is yes.

      I've been doing it for a while now and it hasn't lost favor with me. I rekindle the excitement every time I buy a new outfit and wear it out. It's like starting all over again.

      Plus the fact that I prefer women's clothing so much to mens means I'll be doing it for life.

      I'd stop temporarily and wear men's clothing to a wedding. The attention should be on the bride, not me. This is out of simple respect for someone else's special day.

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      Dr.S.P.PADMA PRASAD 8 years ago from Tumkur

      Let men also feel change! while women since long are wearing men's outfits, why not men? Everything will be a bore. Let little time pass

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      David H 8 years ago from England

      For some men, they will give up - but I think this is a minority.

      Most crossdressers get interested in lingerie as they are sexually interesting (I know they are just pieces of fabric but they represent covering up a woman's most intimate areas). After this sexual interest has worn off, a lot of men still wear lingerie because they are pretty.

      I like to wear women's underwear because they look nice and feel nice. My desire is not going away.

      I understand what you are saying though, as this attitude even appears on cd forums.

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      pauls_boat 8 years ago

      when i tried to hide the fact i wore womens clothing i tried to stop several times but i found out i always went back to it now i dont try to hide it i still wear womens clothing around 90% of the time and when i wear "guy" clothes they are still womens cloths but in more of a guy style.

      most womens clothing is made of better material and if you put simular items of guy clothing next to womens clothing the womens clothing is cheaper.

      i doubt i will ever stop wearing womens clothing even though it has become mundane as you say as i do it every day.

      i know many men who wear womens clothing and only one of them has stoped doing it to my knowlage.

      there should not be womens or mens clothing only peoples clothing, with the sex discrimination laws it should be against the law to call any item of clothing womens or mens.

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      starfiend 8 years ago

      I haven't worn a pair of men's underpants since about 1987, when I moved from Liverpool to London. Since that time it's been women's knickers for me all the way. Don't wear stockings or suspenders, tried it for a year or so. Never worn bra's or outerwear as not interested. Still not bored wearing knickers/panties. Indded, I've just bought some stuff from ther M&S website:

      Thinking about these ones: