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Do Real Men understand Real Women OR Visa Versa?
Reality or Virtual Reality
No matter where you meet up men are different from women. Yes they are. And the difference is visible even on hubpages.Just take a look at all the profiles on your fan club!
Men and women have their own styles of thinking and writing. I don't know about you, but if you think that men can't write about relationships and women can't write about technology, it would be the general accepted stereotype.
The fact is that there is a fundamental difference between the way out brains are wired. This difference is visible as young as one and half years old. It may also have something to do with conditioning. How does one react to a baby girl - aww so sweet. How cute!
Similarly how does one react to a baby boy - hey champ! How are you doing buddy. Wanna give me a punch? The messages that the babies get are so different. The initial reactions build our attitudes. Girls are conditioned to be sweet, cute and submissive. Guys are taught to be rough and tough.
Do remember the adge "Boys don't cry!"? What a horrible message to give to a two year old who has cut his toe on broken glass. He is taught to stifle up his hurt and all other emotions. So by the time he has to demonstrate his love, he has no clue how to express himself.
A real man is told not to share his emotions by society. A real woman is told to be loving and caring and sacrifice everything for family and home. Both have different priorities and both can be rather confused about what they really need to do.
That's where the differences get difficult to handle without communication. As long as you leave a line of communication open there is hope for the two to actually understand what the other wants. The minute you say "If he loves me he will know what to do" you are expecting the man to be a mind reader. Which is totally unfair on him.
At the same time a man can not expect his woman to be just like his mother. That was ideal for the last generation and things have changed drastically since 30 years ago. So giving her enough space and freedom to do her thing is a big plus point.
Plus at a young age love, lust and infatuation have a way of getting mixed up so badly that the hormones are jumping all over the place. This does have a tendency of getting cured once you are in a long term realtionship. So there's something positive to be said for marriage.
I feel it is possible to understand a Real Man and Real woman, but it does take time, patience and a willingness to communicate. Without that there is just confusion, misunderstandings and total chaos.