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Do You Focus On Petty Issues?

Updated on March 8, 2016
Most things in life can be shrugged off.
Most things in life can be shrugged off.

An incredible amount of focus is put on extremely petty issues that people obsess over today and completely forget tomorrow.

Do you really think that you will remember what you were wearing today ten years from now? Do you really want to? Wouldn't you rather be remembering a loving moment with a friend or romantic acquaintance that stirred your soul and helped you and even perhaps them to become a better person who was able to do better things in life because of the encouragement that you provided one another?

Every moment in life counts and if we spend our moments worrying about, or even merely thinking about matters of such little significance as what we might consider our favorite material possession or whether or not someone slighted us by way of a very small action or lack thereof, then we are losing precious time that we could have use to feel good about and which could have moved us in a positive direction in our life.

When I die, I would like to be remembered for having helped other people in some way, shape or form. I do not want to be remembered for being stylish, not that I am in any danger of that...

Nor do I want to be remembered as the one who was harsh to others regarding their human mistakes, while I, of course, made plenty of my own.

The concept of living every day as if it is your last may have to do with such things. If it is your last day of this life, what would you like to be doing or thinking about? Would it be a temporary, fleeting, empty material seeking time or would it be a time of valuing the ones you care about and helping others to live more fulfilled lives as well?

Would you spend your last day arguing about who left the toilet seat up or who ate the last piece of cake?

Would you spend your last day of life upset over whether or not dinner was ready by 6:00 PM or whether the bed was made?

Do you spend a lot of time wishing for some material posession that you may or may not acquire? What else could you be spending that exact same time thinking about or better yet doing?

Every one of us is guilty of petty thoughts at some point or another in our lives, but we do have the ability to stop and start over, thinking about what is important right now and continuing the process of growth toward becoming someone that we can really feel respect and admiration for based on the beauty that cannot always be seen from the outside, but is actually the beauty that is most appreciated and remembered when time passes on.

© 2009 Alicia Crowder


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      Alicia Crowder 8 years ago from Everywhere

      Thank you for the comment!

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      isaverelationship 8 years ago from Kansas City, MO

      Thanks for saying this, because it needed to be said. I think back to the tv show called "roseanne" they fought, but they added laughter to everything to keep it from getting so serious. We sometimes get in the middle of such big arguments of stupid stuff like "where we should park" or "who left the cap off the toothpaste"...when really, who cares. Time to lighten up. Thanks for sharing!

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      issues veritas 8 years ago

      I have no petty thoughts, I always upgrade them to grand thoughts.