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Do You Really Reap What You Sow?

Updated on August 4, 2016

There is a commonly heard saying that you reap what you sow, or that you get what you give, but is this really true? Do you always get praised for doing something good or punished for doing something bad? Although this is what we are taught as kids, we soon realize as we grow older that this seems more like a myth in the modern age than the truth.

Many times in our lives we spend countless hours going to great extents to do favors for people who we think are important to us, and most of the time we expect nothing but a thank you and an appreciative smile in return. Even though we ask so little we sometimes get nothing in return, not even that smile. Which makes you feel like you were just used for getting a task done and mean no more to that person than that. And I need not even say that the feeling sucks!

In all honesty the people we experience this most with are close friends and family. So heres a message to almost every human because whether you agree with or deny it, everyone was guilty of making someone feel like they are worthless at least once. Sometimes we seem to forget that people were created to be loved and things were created to be used. And instead end up loving things and using people.


Dear friend,

Just because I was always there for you, don't take me for granted because believe me every thread will break at some point. And once broken, things can never be as they originally were. You are, have been and will always be my best friend. The one person I can confide in, but that does not give you the permission to take me for granted. Because believe it or not it hurts buddy. I still remember the first time you asked me a favor, I was excited beyond words that I finally had the chance to help you out! And when I helped you out, all I cared for was the smile on your face after a job well done. But as days passed, the “favors” turned into demands rather than requests. I felt more and more like I was being told what to do than being asked kindly.

Honestly honey, you desired my attention and denied my affection. But it was not just about favors, it turned out that our entire friendship became a corporate office. I remember we used to talk for fun, laugh at lame jokes and last through any fight. Now, it feels like you only talk to me when you need something or everyone else is busy, and that my every word triggers the last nerve in you. Is it really fair? I have always been there for you at even 2 am in the morning and was always there to spend an infinite amount of hours with you through any problem. That’s what I sowed, but what did I reap? What I got in return was someone who felt that my problems were not of their concern, and that spending long hours with me was a no-no. I know that deep inside you really do care about me but my question is how much? Do you really care about me as much as I do you? I guess only time will tell.


On a wider platform, we also see through the news every day that there are many bad people who do bad things and get away with it. We sit there wondering how karma does not seem to be catching up with them. We see increasing crime and harm being done to innocent people and begin to question the entire concept of karma. Do these people honestly get no punishment in return?

We all make mistakes at some points in our lives because we are humans. What matters is how we go about fixing them. One of the hardest parts of life is deciding whether to walk away or try harder. But it is also one of the most important decisions because that will decide your happiness, value and bonds. So choose wisely and remember that life's too short to waste a single second with anyone who does not appreciate you!


Have you ever felt like you don't reap what you sow?

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      Elxar 19 months ago from Canada

      Thanks to everyone for sharing their opinions! It's nice to see the topic in different views :)

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      dashingscorpio 19 months ago

      "I still even ashamededly secretively hope that there does exist the Natural Laws of Karma. Yet similtaneously think that the idea of Karma was a religious concept to control people." - threekeys

      You shouldn't be ashamed! The reality is people should be kind and good not because they want or expect a payoff. "Love thy neighbor as thyself."

      Behavior based around having selfish ulterior motives isn't sincere.

      Ideally we should all want peace and harmony in our lives.

      One man's opinion!:)

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      Threekeys 19 months ago from Australia

      This is a huge area and I feel very emotional about it. Believing in the philosophy of Karma can increase and strengthen "your faith/hope" and the attitude that "good does eventually overcome all the cruelty to those that are at the "wrong place and wrong time with the wrong person". I still even ashamededly secretively hope that there does exist the Natural Laws of Karma. Yet similtaneously think that the idea of Karma was a religious concept to control people.

      How I am coming to terms withthe abscence of Karma is:-still give when I want to give without want. Together with me "just getting it now"( when moons ago my then 18 year old sister already understood the workings of the man made law and that is to make sure that all is clear and understood by you and the other person that "we can do great things together if we help each to get where we want to be". (And that is with the unsaid agreement that as little hurt or suffering is done directly or indirectly to another along the way).

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      dashingscorpio 19 months ago

      Karma is a myth or a device designed to encourage positive behavior.

      One should be good/kind because it's the right thing to do.

      The truth of the matter is no matter who you are or what you do you're going to experience both "good" and "bad" things in your life!

      Cruel things happen to good/innocent people and children all the time.

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      Robert T Gasperson 19 months ago from South Carolina

      I sometimes think we feel entitled to something just because we work for it. That is not really reaping. We talk and complain and expect things we want. It doesn't work that way.

      Let's say we want to earn a lot of money building hubs. Because of the expectation, we build short, weak hubs and comment on other hub ers pages with only a sentence or two. Then we get discouraged when we make very little from it.

      If we take time and write a hub or two every week, giving each one thought and research, then comment long and thought provoking comments on other peoples hubs, and we don't worry about the money, our earnings will start to creep up and impress us over time.

      I guess what I'm saying is to give without expectation and the results will come on their own.