- Gender and Relationships
Does he really want to be left alone?
Your boyfriend tells you to "leave him alone" and you don't believe what he says. "He doesn't mean it," you say to yourself which causes you to call him consistently and possible even go over to his house unannounced. As a result, he doesn't answer his phone when you call and he doesn't even open the door when he sees you standing outside. This leaves you feeling hurt, rejected, and afraid that you are losing the one you love. The truth? When your man tells you to leave him alone, LEAVE HIM ALONE!
Guys sometimes do say things they don't necessarily mean like, "I'll call you" or "no you don't look skinny in those jeans." But when he wants to be left alone,he really wants to be left alone.He is not telling you this because he wants you to blow up his cell phone or knock down his front door. He is telling you this because he doesn't even know how he feels. He needs time to process his thoughts and feelings. Men have emotions too and no, it is not that easy for them to talk about them, so don't pressure him. If you do, you will end up losing him, which is what you don't want.
When a man insists on being left alone, women's insecurities start to shift in. Don't take it personal! Instead, leave him be, call up some friends, and have a girl's night out. When your man is ready to talk, he will come to you. And when he does, don't push him away or judge him. Just listen to him and try to understand him. If he doesn't come around.... then move on. But the moral of the story is "When someone tells you who they are..believe them!" - Maya Angelou