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Do they really care

Updated on November 27, 2016

Do you find yourself starring at your phone for hours at a time? Wondering has the other person read your text or saw they missed your call? Do you often feel as if they don't care? Do you in result to feeling lonely go buy your favorite liquor and listen to those sad depressing songs? Do you say forget and go hang with the homies? In the mist of this chaotic confused world we live in. Do you believe that it's hard for someone to really love you? Sometimes we have to stop resulting to that way of thinking. We fall victim to lack of attention. Sometimes you have to ask yourself first. Is everything okay? Maybe they are busy. Do you remember the conversation you had when they said "hey I might be busy around this time"? Or maybe you're going through something similar to me. If your past relationships didn't require love, how can you learn to love overnight? If you've been used and played in all your past relationships do you think overnight it will be just down right easy to love because you love them? Maybe you know how to love, but to them even though it feels good it's scary. "What if I really fall in love and get hurt again"? Every relationship is different. So I wrote this article to say this. Think positive before negative.Your significant other probably had a long day and instead of just jumping into hoe they feel, they may just need a minute or two. It's not you. When a person changes they will do it for the better or the worse.I don't dwell on negativity because I don't accept it. If you are having problems pray about it also.Then make sure you indulge in positivity. Negativity causes stress, and stressing solves nothing. So does your significant other care about you? Even though sometimes they seem busier than most days? Communicate and talk about it, because communication is key.

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    • officialsiamese profile imageAUTHOR

      Siamese Completely 

      20 months ago from Mansfield, Texas

      I really appreciate you writing this. You made a lot of points and I would like to share this with others if you don't mind

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      20 months ago

      It's important to acknowledge each of us has our own idea of what love is suppose to "look like", "feel like", and how we "treat each other".

      Ultimately our goal is to find someone who loves us (the way) we want to be loved! Whenever we aren't experiencing love the way we want or expect it to be we don't feel loved.

      One the problems a lot of people grapple with is they would rather try to get their mate to change instead of changing mates!

      In the beginning of most new relationships there is an "infatuation phase". During this time both people tend to bend over backwards to impress the (new) object of their affection. They do everything they can to avoid blowing their chance to be with this person.

      The word "no" is seldom if ever used, long conversations ensue, talks and plans about spending future time together take place, token gifts, flowers, candy, and spontaneous dates/getaways "just because" can make any novice dater believe they have at long last found their "soul-mate".

      The infatuation phase usually lasts anywhere from 3-6 months or possibly a year. You really don't see each other's "authentic selves" until have you have your first REAL disagreement or fight.

      That's when you glimpse each other's "boundaries", "deal breakers", and relationship expectations. You also witness how they handle stresses and disappointments in life. Only then do can you see if they're right for (you).

      Nevertheless there are some people date this way all of the time. They come on hot and heavy until there is an emotional investment or exclusive commitment.

      Once the deal has been sealed it gives them the "green light" to RELAX. The definition of the word commitment means: "I get to gradually STOP doing all the things that won your heart and you won't leave me!"

      Having said that if you're dating someone who doesn't have time to spend with you and YOU are NOT HAPPY you may want to move on.

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      The goal is to find someone who (already is) the kind of person you want to be with. You shouldn't have to negotiate for time and affection.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary"

      - Oscar Wilde

      If you are always on the "back burner" he/she does not think you're "special". If someone is "into you" they're going to make time for you!

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