- Gender and Relationships
Do we ever really know one another?
I don't think that we ever know someone as well as we think we do. There are always going to be secrets and lies. No one or nothing is perfect. People always looks at other peoples lives and think man the grass is greener on their side, but unless we live with them we never know what goes on behind closed doors.
I think people are great, and like to see the positive in them. People don't like that. They think that I am crazy! I should always think that people have something they want or need from me. They cannot just be a friend. I am sure a good share of that is true. I don't want to see the bad in people. I have a friend who has a ciminal record, but that is not who HE is! He is still my friend. He is a good person, father, and son. Those are what I know about him. I know there are things we don't see the same, but he is a friend and always will be.
My friends are all very different. They differ in so many ways, but I like variety. I don't know what they say about me or think about me. I know most of my friends I am going to have to go out of my way to see to be able to hang out with. It is something I have come to accept.
My best friends are very different. One I have known most of my life. She is married and has no kids. Been married just over 3 years. She is more like a sister. We can talk about anything and her family has accept me as a part of them. I don't know, she may say that I annoy her. I don't know what she says about me when I am not around. I am sure that there are things she doesn't tell me. My other best friend, I have only known a year. He is there for me. We fight and argue, but he is there for me when I need him. He is a pain and I tell him, even though he doesn't like hearing it. He is single and goes out on dates a lot. He does a lot that I don't know, cause he lives 2 hours away. I am sure that there is a lot that I don't know about him. I only know what he lets me know. I know that I will probably never know everyhing about him, and he will look down on me for wanting to see the good in people but we both know that and it is apart of our friendship. He thinks he will find the perfect person on a 1st date that will last a life time, and I don't think that exist. You have to really get to know someone, before you can know that much!
I have a friend who is a Pastor, one who is a MA and more, a few who are college students, some who are like parents to me, and I have friends in other fields of work. Our friendships vary in how much we talk and see one another. They are all my friends, even through the rough patches. I don't know what they say or think about me when we are not together. They maybe a total different person when I am not around them. People show you the sides they want to and that is it. I have known some of the greatest actors in my life and what is up with people trying to be something they are not? Just be you! People will either like you or they will not. Just be you and you will see people will respect the real and honest you!
It has been shown 33% of people will always like you, 33% will never like you, and the other 33% you help the person decide by being you.