- Gender and Relationships
Do you know who your kids friends are
I am not nosy I am involved
My house was always the neighborhood hang out, I was the experienced mom because 2 of my children were late in life kids I am 52 with a 16 year old! All of the other kids parents always came to me for advice, so I gave them the one and only important piece of advice I could, KNOW YOUR KIDS FRIENDS! I was and still am the mom who knows everyone my child hangs out with, he has more older friends than ones his own age because he had older siblings he was more mature for his age.So when my child goes out I always say to him no matter what remember you can always call me in any situation, I will not judge you or be mad I just want you to know I am here! Some of you may think if my child calls me drunk or from jail, I will not come to your rescue which is a bad mistake! Some parents are so naive they think, not my child, I for one will never say that, my kids are not troubled nor have they ever been in jail or had to call me to come get them drunk but they do know that they can count on me if the need me! So my advice to all of you is know your kids friends you can still be a parent and a friend also if you do it the right way!
Can you walk around your neighborhood and call all the children by name? Can you name all of the kids your child hangs out with? Do you know the parents of the children your child hangs out with? If you say no to any of these, its time for a reality check! I know every kid in my neighborhood, I know all of my childs friends and their parents! Does this make me a busy body with to much time on my hands, no it makes me a parent who is involved! My son is 16 now and no he doesn't want me around all the time, he even complains sometimes if I post a baby picture of him on instagram. Is he embarassed by me, no he isn't and the reason why is because his friends know who am I! Your probably thinking he has no rules or maybe I am too easy going, if you could ask him that question I am afraid he'd beg to differ. I check his grades everyday, he has a curfew, I go through his cell phone, I punish him if he does wrong. His friends know when I am serious or when I am just kidding because I am from the neighborhood and I know who his friends are!
Am I really that cool
My son sometimes just wants to go to his friends houses and to hang out away from me. It does seem that by the end of the night I always get that famous text saying some of my friends are coming over Mom is it okay! Don't get me wrong it's not a flop house for teens but it is a place where they are safe and their parents know they are not in trouble somewhere. Do I order pizza at 11 for a bunch of teen boys, of course not! I do ask if everyone has had dinner, I do take car keys and check bags brought into my house though. Am I really that cool? I would like to think that, yes I am!! Seriously though I am not trying to be the cool Mom but what I am trying to do is to be an example of what an involved parent should be. My advice to all of you is know who your childrens friends are and be friends with them also. At the end of the day it will at least make you seem really that cool!