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Does He Even Hear Me?

Updated on March 9, 2020

It's been a few months...how are things?

You've been dating for a few months and things are great. You're having fun together and at this point questions are going to start running through your mind. You start to wonder where things are going and if he can see the two of you together for the long haul. This is when you start to over analyze every detail of the relationship.

STOP!

Before you drive yourself crazy you need to stop and take a step back. Over analyzing things is going to make you crazy and you're going to start doubting everything that's happened in the relationship so far. If you start doing that you're going to become clingy and lose your confidence which is going to make things difficult for the both of you.

Whatever your doubts and fears are you're going to need to figure them out. By figuring them out I mean spending some time by yourself thinking. One of the best ways to work through these feelings is to write things down. You'll be able to write down your thoughts and fears and work through them on your own without dragging anyone else into things. Once written out on paper, most of the time a majority of those doubts will look silly and you'll be happy that you didn't bring them up. If there are still any doubts that you can't work through on your own then it's time to possibly have a conversation with your significant other.

You Still Have Doubts...Now What?

If you still have doubts after analyzing your thoughts and feelings than you now have two options. You can talk to a trusted friend that will give you an honest opinion or you can talk to your significant other. Both of these are good options, but if you choose to talk to your significant other you're going to have to approach things in a manner that doesn't make them feel threatened or trapped.

Talking Things Out With a Friend

Talking about your doubts with a friend that you know will give you honest feedback is a great place to start. They may be able to ease your doubts and your mind about things. They may be able to tell you that you're overreacting about nothing or that your doubts are valid and that you should talk to your significant other about them. This friend might even be able to help you come up with a plan or strategy of how to go about talking to your significant other about things. It's better to have a strategy in dealing with these things because you'll be able to stick with where you want the conversation to go. Something else to remember is that you need to breech the subjects you want to discuss slowly and in a manner that seems calm and not in any way pushy or clingy.

Timing is Key!

Timing a conversation about something serious is always key. You don't want to bring things up when the two of you are tired after a long day or if one of you has had a bad day. You need to choose a time when the two of you are calm and relaxed like when you're just hanging out watching television or a movie. You can also bring things up in a way that makes it seem like it's just another normal conversation and not something that's bothering you.

Remember Whatever Happens Happens

Talking about things is always the best idea, but sometimes things don't always go the way that you would want them to. If things don't go your way than just know that it's for the better because it's better to know now than to put in more months or maybe even years before finding out that things aren't going to go anywhere and you're not on the same page.

You have to move forward with your life no matter what the outcome of that conversation. Relationships take work and sometimes it's not always easy, but if the relationship is something that both parties want than putting in the work will be well worth it in the end. Something that you always have to keep in mind is that nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes. Some days are better and easier than others, but you have to choose to either stick with it or walk away. Nobody can make that choice for you.

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    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      3 weeks ago from Chicago

      In order for (him) to be "the one" he would have to see (you) as being "the one". At the very least a "soulmate" is someone who actually wants to be with you!

      Never confuse a "situationship" with a "relationship". If you've never discussed and made a mutual decision to become an exclusive couple don't assume that you are.

      Keep your options open by dating other people. If you were seeking a job you wouldn't stop sending out your resume just because you've had a few great interviews with one company!

      Until an offer is made and accepted both you and the company are within your rights to conduct interviews with others!

    • dashingscorpio profile image

      dashingscorpio 

      3 weeks ago from Chicago

      Over time you're either "growing together" or "growing apart". There is no neutral. Communication is the GPS for relationships which lets you know which direction you are heading in.

      The problem many women have even in our modern era of 2020 is they want "the man" to define the nature of their relationship. Essentially the woman is a "passenger" in her own life.

      Generally speaking if you have to "figure out" how someone feels about you it means he/she isn't all that into you!

      Truth be told most women would rather give a man an "ultimatum" than to (ask) him for a commitment or propose marriage to him.

      As one old adage goes:

      "If it ain't worth asking for it ain't worth having."

      In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!

      There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships. We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Accept them (as is) or move on.

      If you're unhappy in a relationship and choose to stay then you are choosing to be unhappy. No one is "stuck" with anyone!

      Suffering is optional.

      Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

      The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want.

      "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."

      - Oscar Wilde

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