Does He Even Hear Me?
It's been a few months...how are things?
You've been dating for a few months and things are great. You're having fun together and at this point questions are going to start running through your mind. You start to wonder where things are going and if he can see the two of you together for the long haul. This is when you start to over analyze every detail of the relationship.
STOP!
Before you drive yourself crazy you need to stop and take a step back. Over analyzing things is going to make you crazy and you're going to start doubting everything that's happened in the relationship so far. If you start doing that you're going to become clingy and lose your confidence which is going to make things difficult for the both of you.
Whatever your doubts and fears are you're going to need to figure them out. By figuring them out I mean spending some time by yourself thinking. One of the best ways to work through these feelings is to write things down. You'll be able to write down your thoughts and fears and work through them on your own without dragging anyone else into things. Once written out on paper, most of the time a majority of those doubts will look silly and you'll be happy that you didn't bring them up. If there are still any doubts that you can't work through on your own then it's time to possibly have a conversation with your significant other.
You Still Have Doubts...Now What?
If you still have doubts after analyzing your thoughts and feelings than you now have two options. You can talk to a trusted friend that will give you an honest opinion or you can talk to your significant other. Both of these are good options, but if you choose to talk to your significant other you're going to have to approach things in a manner that doesn't make them feel threatened or trapped.
Talking Things Out With a Friend
Talking about your doubts with a friend that you know will give you honest feedback is a great place to start. They may be able to ease your doubts and your mind about things. They may be able to tell you that you're overreacting about nothing or that your doubts are valid and that you should talk to your significant other about them. This friend might even be able to help you come up with a plan or strategy of how to go about talking to your significant other about things. It's better to have a strategy in dealing with these things because you'll be able to stick with where you want the conversation to go. Something else to remember is that you need to breech the subjects you want to discuss slowly and in a manner that seems calm and not in any way pushy or clingy.
Timing is Key!
Timing a conversation about something serious is always key. You don't want to bring things up when the two of you are tired after a long day or if one of you has had a bad day. You need to choose a time when the two of you are calm and relaxed like when you're just hanging out watching television or a movie. You can also bring things up in a way that makes it seem like it's just another normal conversation and not something that's bothering you.
Remember Whatever Happens Happens
Talking about things is always the best idea, but sometimes things don't always go the way that you would want them to. If things don't go your way than just know that it's for the better because it's better to know now than to put in more months or maybe even years before finding out that things aren't going to go anywhere and you're not on the same page.
You have to move forward with your life no matter what the outcome of that conversation. Relationships take work and sometimes it's not always easy, but if the relationship is something that both parties want than putting in the work will be well worth it in the end. Something that you always have to keep in mind is that nobody is perfect and everybody makes mistakes. Some days are better and easier than others, but you have to choose to either stick with it or walk away. Nobody can make that choice for you.
