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Does Spanking a Child Encourage Domestic Violence or Abuse?
Thus hub involves both relationships between partners and relationships between children and parents. The dictionary defines a spank as : a blow with the open hand; a slap.
A blow? Sounds quite powerful does it not? This is where it all begins. Recently in New Zealand, a referendum asked the question: "Should a smack as part of good parental correction be a criminal offence in New Zealand?” This was met with mixed reactions as parents feared that they could be found guilty of abuse by lightly disciplining their children with, let's say a smack on the hand, or a smack on the bottom. 87% of the people voted no, and the Prime MInister John Key and Labour Party leader Phil Goff refused to vote in the poll.
The Prime Minister himself agreed that a light smack was not a criminal offence and I believe so too. Years ago, a smack was given as discipline. In today's society, a smack is unlawful and if found guilty, the punishment could range from a fine to a jail sentence.
Some parents however could take a light smack to a new level. A recent advert on national television shows a man that believed beating up people meant he loved them. This was a bad trait inherited by the man's father. This guy was married and had children who he beat up and still believed it meant love and he got the word "love" tatooed on his hand. This advert shows how easily one can be influenced by another, and the advertisment was to help those people to fight against domestic violence and to seek help for those who abuse others.
Spanking in terms of a relationship between partners is something seen as erotic and sexy, but personally, if your partner whom you have not known for many years "spanks" you, and repeatedly does it without your consent, a violent relationship has develeoped. A friend of mine looks horrible after a erotic session with her boyfriend went wrong. Spanking her once, she agreed. He persisted without her permission and she tried to fight him off. It became violent and she is in hospital because of this.
Now I am not saying every relationship which encourages spanking is wrong, but there is a fine line between spanking for pleasure, and spanking which leads to abuse.No means no, so respect that and back away.
And so I pose the question, do you think that spanking could encourage domestic violence?