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Does Technology & Social Media Improve Relationships?

Updated on May 12, 2014

In an age where we can "check in" at our current location and "tag" who were with, it's possible for anyone to check up on us at any time. Mobile phones create a constant availability which means that our friends can become upset if we don't respond to them instantly. Text message senders can be informed if you have read their message, and can again feel quite hurt and insulted if you don't promptly respond.

Our constant availability while on the move can certainly make life easier, but does it actually help our relationships?

Here's a question. How many of your Facebook friends do you actually see on a regular basis? Personally, I'd say I see about 10% of them. That's not to say that I don't know at least some of what's going on in all of their lives. Then again, the snippets that I do know are from reading their status updates rather than conversing with them.

Personally, I find it a tad strange when I bump into someone who I haven't spoken to in years, and they know everything I'v been doing. They begin asking how my last night out was, and how my family are doing, or if I've managed to overcome some crisis that happened last month... But I am guilty of it myself.

If it wasn't for Facebook, Twitter or IM services, I doubt that I would have ANY kind of relationship with most of my so-called "friends." But- would that really be a bad thing?

Don't get me wrong- technology is fantastic in linking people over the miles without waiting years on a letter.It allows distant relatives to keep in touch and watch each other grow up. In some cases, it reunites people who would otherwise remain separated.

So many heartfelt messages are sent every day at the click of a button- but can it all be too much sometimes?

If my friends and family are reading about what's happening in my life, and vice versa, then how can we have an interesting conversation when we see each other? Even when forming new acquaintances, so much information is on a profile page that it seems silly to ask questions. So is the art of conversation lost?

It has now become so common to add new acquaintances on Facebook or other social sites just after meeting them, that by the time you meet again, you know their history, their hopes of the future, their pet's name and even their bra size!

And even so, returning to existing friends, there doesn't seem to be the sense of exclusivity. It can sometimes feel as though the whole world knows something that, perhaps would have remained private between you, had technology been less evolved.

As well as limiting conversation possibilities, technology can impact relationships in many other ways...

It only takes one episode of Jeremy Kyle to show how the use of technology can cause jealousy between lovers, or fuel a feud that would have fizzed out otherwise. Suspicious partners can spy on their loved ones, often misunderstanding innocent messages between friends. Ex- partners can appear on the scene after 10 years or so. Inter-city affairs can begin, whereas before the world of the internet, those two people may never have met.All of this leads to a world of secrecy. Separate online lives. Multiple email accounts. Different Mobile phones...

If we returned to life before all of this stalker technology, we could go out and just be out. No GPS navigation in your pocket checking you in. No calls every 5 minutes to ask where you are, or to ask you to pick something up on the way home... I also think that we would re-gain some of the satisfaction of being asked how our day was, instead of everyone already knowing. As well as building relationships that are dear to us, rather than spending hours trolling through the doings of someone we once worked with/ went to school with/ met in a pub etc..

In saying all of that though, I can't say that I would give it all up. Which may sound rather hypocritical...

I enjoy being able to speak to relatives across the pond- and being forever able to discover new ones! I love getting a text from my boyfriend to cheer me up on a bad day. I like those close to me knowing how my life's going... But after thinking about it, I may have a clear out of my "friends" list.

I think that i'll also make a point of visiting people more often for a chat, for I fear that I may be seriously out of touch with some of my "closest" friends.

© 2012 Lynsey Harte

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      lavenderLove 2 years ago from Philippines

      yes..the 'unfollow' 'unfriend' 'block'...

      lol..

      its just sad to say that technology has had so many great things about but at the same time had its own share of disadvantages too..

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      Lynsey Harte 2 years ago from Glasgow

      Oh I know what you mean... I use the "unfollow" button A LOT! Lol

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      lavenderLove 2 years ago from Philippines

      yes..I am not really a big social media person..I had too many on my friends list before too

      .but I had to get rid of them due to the reason that I don't know them personally and that sometimes they're crowding my feed with such irresponsible and senseless posts....so better drop them off my list..

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      Lynsey Harte 2 years ago from Glasgow

      Thank you, Lovely C. My facebook was all people I knew until recently. I have added others for games and also for exposure for my hubs. Absolutely shameless, I know. I'm also guilty for having people in my friends list who I haven't exactly seen since school, nor would I even recognise them in the street!! Oops!!!

      It's nice that you use the site for what it is best intended for, keeping in touch with friends and loved ones.

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      lavenderLove 2 years ago from Philippines

      this is a very good article..technology has caused lots of traditional ways to slowly disappear like dating..now it is very easy to find someone online..but we are not even sure if it's a scammer you are talking to..

      I have a Facebook account but believe it or not I only have 68 on my friendslist..all are my family,cousins,and loved ones that live close to me and I know them all personally..

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      Lynsey Harte 4 years ago from Glasgow

      Yeah, i agree! And, as you said, it gives people new ways to make people feel insecure- as if there aren't enough things out there to contend with! I notice you said HAD a husband... well done in getting away from that :) and thanks! :)

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      It also causes relationship issues in kids with cyberbullying haunting them everywhere they turn. I had a husband that every time we got in a fight he jumped online or texted. He said it made him feel good about himself. I know someone who's married and they both hardly see each other because they each have a virtual husband and wife online. I thinks its sort of sad and scary at the same time. Your welcome, it was a nice read:)

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      Lynsey Harte 4 years ago from Glasgow

      I agree- definitely can cause more harm than good! Thanks for reading my hub :)

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      I think it has really hurt relationsips in a lot of ways...its opened doors to virtual cheating in a way.