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Doing The Things in This Hub Will Make Your Mother-in-Law Love You

Updated on April 28, 2014

Isn't she lovely, this pretty mother-n-law?


The basic reason

m--other-in-law's generally do not like their son-in-law's is that they feel that the man is not good enough for their daughters.

This is a very natural and common reaction. But although it is a natural and common reaction, still, it has caused a lot of friction between the two parties: moher and son-in-laws.

Who wins these chippy spats? No one. So why have them? I wish I had the answer to this question so I could take over Dr. Phil's show. Actually no one can really answer this question.

All I can do is isolate the son-in-law, find out his flaws and and see if I can re-mold him into a more-respectful man.

Be honest. Do you really "love" your mother-in-law?

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What common mistakes do most son-in-laws make

  • Barge in the mother-in-law's home (with the wife, her daughter) laughing like a mule eating corn, shooting off-color jokes to the father-in-law and generally, just being a butt.
  • Putting their nasty shoes up on the expensive, one-of-a-kind coffee table that her husband b bought for her in France on a recent business trip. (The husband forked-over $12,000.00)
  • Arguing with the mother-in-law every chance he, the son-in-law gets just to prove he is a better man than she thought.
  • Telling jokes in her presence that are not only vulgar, but very offensive.

What a pretty mother-in-law


The Truth of The Matter

is that most mother-in-law's really want to get along with their son-in-law's and love them. But sadly, there is a cross-section of them who are at heart, troublemakers, and thrive on making the new son-in-law feel inferior and have less self-esteem.

I suggest that the new son-in-law just do his best with "these" mother-in-law's and do not waste valuable time and energy trying to please them because "these" mother-in-law's simply cannot be pleased by you or anyone.

But the mother-in-law's I discuss in my story are the special one's who are willing to try and "make a go," of your new relationship with them.

And that is why implementing these tips is so important.

Thank you.


You have waited long enough

Here are things you (the son-in-law) can do to make your mother-in-law love you

  1. Always, when meeting her, even if it is every Sunday for lunch after church, kiss her knuckles just like in days gone by. Sure it is corny, but oh so effective. Her own husband never did this to respect her, but you did. And she will love you for it.
  2. Rise when she leaves the room or table. Rise when she returns. Another manners tool that has become lost in our selfish society.
  3. Be attentive to what she says. If you think about it. "You," are the new member of her family by marrying her baby girl, but it is her husband who dominates every conversation with his war stories mixed with how much money he has in IRA's and CD's, so listen to every word she manages to say. She will remember this kind gesture.
  4. Always compliment her on every dress, pair of shoes, even hats she might wear. You are the only male in the family who pays her any attention, so use this in a moderation because she may be secretly desiring to have a steamy-affair, so be careful.
  5. This is my favorite tip. On-purpose, do something clumsy in her presence. She will feel a motherly-nurturing toward you and any feelings of resentment for marrying her little girl will melt away.
  6. Put your wife, (her sweet baby girl) on a pedestal each time you two are with your mother-in-law. What a difference your mother-in-law will make in you, but also keep in ind that your mother-in-law, if she has taken good care of herself, may feel a bit jealous of not getting the compliments she deserves from you, so throw her a compliment every so often such as, "Hey, Ms. Swanson. These are great beans." She will glow with appreciation.
  7. Opening doors for her, pulling her chair out for her, are outdated for sure, but how they will "do the trick," if you think your mother-in-law does not like you.
  8. Always remember your mother-in-law's birthday. This is a sure-fire way to keep things warm between you and her.

I hope that you have great success with these sensible tips, but be on-guard. Your wife, who is your mother-in-law's daughter, might be a bit left-out and jealous of how you talk to and treat her mom.

Be prepared to whip-out your credit card and head to the local jewelry store and get your sweet wife a "peace offering," such as a ten-carat diamond ring.

This mother-in-law loves nice compliments


My Final Tip I Call My "Dynamite Tip,"

On Mother's Day . . .Get your Mother-in-Law a Mother's Day card.

You do not have to thank me for any of your success.

And from me

Happy Mother's Day and Mother-in-Law's Day from me. Sincerely, Kenneth


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    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hello, GrandOldLady, (and you are NOT old)

      My mother-in-law passed away a few years ago, but in the years prior to her demise, my wife and I would both write good things in the Mother's Day card we would get for her.

      She was a good lady. She treated me nice.

      Thanks, GrandLady, for your visit. Come again soon.

    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, Sheila,

      You are so right. Manners are far from (some) of the young people of today.

      I certainly appreciate you taking time for reading and commenting on this hub. I really cherish your comments and all made by my folllowers who are The BEST on HubPages.

      Please come back often.


    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hello, bethperry,

      You are so sweet and your comment proves it.

      Thank you a million times.

      Please stop by and stay longer next time.


    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, Jodah,

      Thank you, good friend, for the comment that cheered me up. Thank you for all of your interaction with my hubs.

      You are appreciated.


    • kenneth avery profile imageAUTHOR

      Kenneth Avery 

      4 years ago from Hamilton, Alabama

      Hi, DDE,

      You are a sweet, caring person to say such sincere things about someone you only met twice.

      Thank you so much, dear friend, for making the writing of this hub worth the time I put into it.

      And come back anytime.

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 

      4 years ago from Philippines

      Now about that mother in law card you wrote....

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      4 years ago

      Good manners are definitely something some people don't have any more. I don't have kids so I don't have to worry about a son-in-law trying to impress me, but any man who did those things for me would really impress me.

    • bethperry profile image

      Beth Perry 

      4 years ago from Tennesee

      Aw, how sweet :)

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      John Hansen 

      4 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Funny, but atually good advice Kenneth, as always. Well done.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I don't have a mother-in-law so my concerns are not about her. If I did she would have been great. I met her twice before she passed on and she really liked me as I did her. Great thoughts here and so interesting.


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