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Domestic Violence Is Still An Issue

Updated on March 23, 2010

Not Enough Being Done

During the course of my day to day activities, I tend to be focused on my current task at hand, though I do notice when I see, hear, or read something that catches my attention. That can be any number of things from something business related, hobby related, aimed at kids, or strikes a nerve. Domestic violence and rape are two of the top ten things on my list of what strikes a nerve.

It occured to me that I have not noticed a whole lot of verbal affirmation against domestic violence.  What I have noticed is that there is a good deal of written media regarding domestic violence. It is shown in some movies but oddly, not a whole lot. On the opposite spectrum, there is a LOT of rape and other sexually motivated crime on the big and small screen. It makes me wonder why it is seemingly acceptable to watch a female be violated but it is not okay to show a man beating his wife. Are they not equally offensive? There are ways of proving rape and molestation. Domestic abuse is not always that easy to prove.

I have seen articles and advertisements discussing the unacceptable nature of domestic abuse. I have seen brochures for victims and abusers alike. All of the information is generic. It is all accurate, yes, but it is not doing enough to be effective. The only cases that make it to the evening news are the ones that end in tragic death. There are ribbons for every type of cancer and physical illness. Where are the ones for domestic victims? Where are the ones for rape survivors?

They do not exist because it is still socially unacceptable to speak of such things in public. That needs to change. If I can go to the theatre and watch a woman fight for her life, struggling against her husband, then I can stand on a podium at a public forum and tell my story. If I can read about the options a victim has at the health clinic, the library, the police department, and the hospital, then I can write about it in my local paper.

Until people start speaking out in their hometowns, domestic abuse and violence will still be swept under the rug. There will still be victims who do not know there really is help. There will still be ignorant abusers who do not believe that their actions really are punishable by law. For those of us that write about this dirty little secret on the Internet, there needs to be more of us speaking out in public! We need to address our town councils, our county officials, our state governments, and do everything in our power to pull that heavy, dust covered blanket off of the eyes of the general population.

For those of you who join me in writing about this topic, thank you. For those that feel they have nothing to contribute by not having been in those shoes, speak out anyway if it you believe domestic violence is wrong. Victims need a lot of support and abusers need a lot of help if they are to be rehabilitated. Sometimes the only strength a victim needs is found through the voice of another. Be that voice!


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    • Chaotic Chica profile imageAUTHOR

      Chaotic Chica 

      8 years ago

      Thank you, Nick!! No appology will be accepted for ranting about this. Getting upset about it means that you honestly care and that makes a world of difference. You are right on target when you say that the mental abuse can be far more diablitating (sp). I really appreciated your comment! :)

    • Nick B profile image

      Nick B 

      8 years ago from Normandy, France

      Stand by you? Of course I will. There are too many out there who feel it's okay to beat or otherwise abuse.

      It's wrong - pure and simple. There are no if's, buts or maybe's it's just wrong.

      I spent my childhood wondering why my mum put up with her philanderer of a husband, who towards then end, got violent and kicked his way through a glass panelled door to get at me when I stood up for mum against him.

      Abuse doesn't always have to be violent though, it can be that insidious "mind game" behaviour that ekes away at someone's self respect and even sanity, leaving them a nervous wreck; a shell of their former vibrant selves.

      Not only is too little done, there are too few who believe it's a problem at all. A wife should love, honour and obey, right?

      Perhaps, but the limits are all too often breeched.

      Nuff said, sorry about the rant.

    • Chaotic Chica profile imageAUTHOR

      Chaotic Chica 

      8 years ago

      Thank you all for showing your support! It is appreciated more than you know to hear that there are other people out there who would stand by me on this topic!

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      8 years ago from Upstate New York

      Excellent hub, and I couldn't agree with you more. People have to speak out in their hometowns, stick up for the people being abused. Even though it's a sticky situation.

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      8 years ago

      excellent hub! unfortunately I have been through domestic abuse and a lot more .. you are right there needs to be more done and there should be ribbons for these causes but as you said they are taboo to talk about and therefore get swept away. its sad.

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      8 years ago from US

      I can see what you mean and it is an issue as long as both parties women and men learn to respect each other, thank you, Maita

    • Ladybird33 profile image


      8 years ago from Fabulous USA

      this is an extremely important issue and awareness is critical. Thanks for sharing and I feel ya!!!

    • sagbee profile image


      8 years ago from Delhi

      I have seen many victims who are the sufferers of domestic voilence.. this is a very important issue to give importance to. It is increasing day by day in our neighbour and our own home.. We should stop them by different acts.. thanks for sharing the experienc

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      8 years ago from Sunny Florida

      The laws need to continue to change and be upheld. Abusers need to serve time in jail. No special deals for them I don't think this still happens as it should. Personally I don't watch shows with domestic violence as it is on Lifetime channels because I lived it and chose not to see it. I avoid other violence on TV as well. There is a lot more help for abused women now than there as many years ago. I think we need to educate young people as to the symptoms to look for when they are young because the signs are there long before the actual abuse in many cases.


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