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Domestic Violence Is Still An Issue
Not Enough Being Done
During the course of my day to day activities, I tend to be focused on my current task at hand, though I do notice when I see, hear, or read something that catches my attention. That can be any number of things from something business related, hobby related, aimed at kids, or strikes a nerve. Domestic violence and rape are two of the top ten things on my list of what strikes a nerve.
It occured to me that I have not noticed a whole lot of verbal affirmation against domestic violence. What I have noticed is that there is a good deal of written media regarding domestic violence. It is shown in some movies but oddly, not a whole lot. On the opposite spectrum, there is a LOT of rape and other sexually motivated crime on the big and small screen. It makes me wonder why it is seemingly acceptable to watch a female be violated but it is not okay to show a man beating his wife. Are they not equally offensive? There are ways of proving rape and molestation. Domestic abuse is not always that easy to prove.
I have seen articles and advertisements discussing the unacceptable nature of domestic abuse. I have seen brochures for victims and abusers alike. All of the information is generic. It is all accurate, yes, but it is not doing enough to be effective. The only cases that make it to the evening news are the ones that end in tragic death. There are ribbons for every type of cancer and physical illness. Where are the ones for domestic victims? Where are the ones for rape survivors?
They do not exist because it is still socially unacceptable to speak of such things in public. That needs to change. If I can go to the theatre and watch a woman fight for her life, struggling against her husband, then I can stand on a podium at a public forum and tell my story. If I can read about the options a victim has at the health clinic, the library, the police department, and the hospital, then I can write about it in my local paper.
Until people start speaking out in their hometowns, domestic abuse and violence will still be swept under the rug. There will still be victims who do not know there really is help. There will still be ignorant abusers who do not believe that their actions really are punishable by law. For those of us that write about this dirty little secret on the Internet, there needs to be more of us speaking out in public! We need to address our town councils, our county officials, our state governments, and do everything in our power to pull that heavy, dust covered blanket off of the eyes of the general population.
For those of you who join me in writing about this topic, thank you. For those that feel they have nothing to contribute by not having been in those shoes, speak out anyway if it you believe domestic violence is wrong. Victims need a lot of support and abusers need a lot of help if they are to be rehabilitated. Sometimes the only strength a victim needs is found through the voice of another. Be that voice!