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Reasons to NOT Be a Hater
My Definition of a Hater
One that can not be genuinely happy for another person’s efforts or well doing. As a result, the "hater" may not be supportive, be discouraging, or even in some cases look for the other person to mess up. In extreme cases, a hater will go out his/her way to sabotage.
Why Do People Hate?
There really isn't a legitimate reason for someone to "hate" on another person. Yet, the following are some conditions that may stir up these feelings:
- Personal insecurities
- Competition -Wanting to keep others from being better than themselves
- Comparing themselves with others
- Envy or Jealousy
- Unforgiveness; Not wanting to support others because of previous hurt
Why You Shouldn't Be a Hater
Nobody's perfect, and it may be difficult to suppress feelings. However, you can get over it and avoid being labeled a heater. Considering the following may just change your way of thinking.
- You don’t really know what people go through or how much work was put in to get what they have.
- Everybody goes through different seasons (ups and downs) in their lives.
- Everybody has different characteristics, gifts and talents that make them unique.
- We should rejoice with those who rejoice (Romans 12:15). In other words be happy for others when something good happens to them...period. We definitely should not rejoice in failure or wish for other people to mess up.
- Focusing on what someone else is doing is a distraction that can actually set you back. Is it really any of your business anyway?
- It’s much better to be kind to others and genuinely wish others success.
- You may not like what someone else is doing, but you can still remain positive.
- It’s easier on you to be kind than it is to fabricate ill feelings toward others for selfish reasons.
Why Not to Worry About Your Haters
If you have been a victim of this, here are a couple of reasons why you shouldn't sweat it:
- Two wrongs don’t make a right...right? Practice love despite how you are treated. People reap what they sow. Continue to bless those who curse you and pray for those who despitefully use you (Matthew 5:44). That person may just come around and be changed in response to the kindness you give. If not, at least you'll be at peace.
- God is able to prepare a table before you in the presence of your enemies (Psalm 23:5) and make your enemies your footstool (Psalm 110:1).
When You Realize that You're the Perpetrator
Hey, it can happen to the best of us…when we aren't even expecting it. However, we can choose to turn it all around. You can do the following:
- Take a dose of humility.
- Make a conscious effort to practice gratitude.
- Give compliments to others.
- Be supportive.
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