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Show Determination And Courage in Your Affairs Including Marriage
Don't Give Up
Are you a married couple so exhausted from the constant demands of work and parenting that your marriage is slipping? Are you having problems having kids? Are you facing tough times? Overwhelmed by financial difficulties? Everyone, regardless of his/her condition in life, should cheerfully take up the trials and burdens that life has in store for him/her, and try to overcome them. Learn to persevere in carrying out any plan of work which an enlightened judgment decides is the best and you will force life to yield you its grandest triumphs.
Don’t fight a problem. Sidney Newton Bremer wrote, “The best tools receive their temper from fire, their edge from grinding; the noblest character are developed in a similar way.” Difficulties call out great qualities, and make greatness possible. The man who has triumphed over difficulties bears the signs of victory in his face. An air of triumph is seen in every movement.
When everything is going well for you, better watch out. If everything is going smoothly with your marriage at the beginning it is fine. But if things are taken for granted, it may prove a failure. Many marriages been ruined by over-confidence born of good relationship at the early point of the marriage.
And never complain when a problem strides you. Instead, start asking questions about the problem. Actually, a problem is one of God’s methods of teaching you, for helping you to develop. Norman Vincent Peale in Six Attitudes for Winners wrote, “Our tendency often is to feel inferior and inadequate in the presence of a problem. In the mind one tends to blow the problem out of proportion to its actual size. It scares and frightens, not because it is too big for us, but because our fearful thoughts have invested it with a difficulty it does not really possess.”
You can bring great accomplishment out of what first seemed overwhelming failure. When you experience failure, take a perceptive look at it. Then go back, at it again wiser, more competent.
Mr. Shoaff said, “The key to happiness is not more. Happiness is an art to be studied and practiced. More money will only make you more of what you already are. More will only send you more quickly to your destination. So if you’re inclined to be unhappy, you’ll be luxuriously miserable with more money. If you’re inclined to be nasty, wealth will make you a terror. And if you’re inclined to drink a little too much, more money will enable you to waste yourself in booze.”
The world is divided into those who look at others enviously and those who look at others as motivational tools.
Don’t quit now. You have not finished so you can’t give up. Develop hang-on power, mountain-moving faith, problem-solving faith, and situation-changing faith and you will succeed. Knute Rockne wrote, “When the going gets tough, the tough get going.” When the going gets tough, the tough rise to the occasion. They win. They survive. They come out top.
Positive thinking works. It has worked for me. I’ve seen it work for men and women. Couple was married for eighteen years before they had a child. Instead of feeling bad and giving up, they continued to pray to God and did all that was necessary. The man’s family was very disappointment and did everything they could to make the man divorce his wife and marry another woman, but the man refused. When all their efforts failed to move him, they left him alone. After eighteen years, they had a daughter. A year and half after, they had twins –a boy and a girl. Those who condemned him were there to celebrate with him.
Hope redeems lives from destruction, and brings sunshine back after the rain. Tough people have it. They can weather the worst storm.
There was a man who failed in business at 21; was defeated in a legislative race at 22; failed again in business at 24; had his beloved die when he was 26; had a nervous breakdown at 27; lost a congressional race at 34; lost a senatorial race at 45; failed in an effort to become vice president at 47; lost senatorial seat at 49; was elected president of the United States when he was 52. This man was Abraham Lincoln. He regarded defeat as a detour, not a dead end.
Sidney Newton Bremer wrote, “You cannot keep a determined man from success. Place stumbling blocks in his way and he takes them for stepping stones, and on them will climb to greatness. Take away his money, and he makes spurs of his poverty to urge him on. Cripple him, and he writes the Waverley Novels. Lock him up in a dungeon, and he composes the immortal “Pilgrim Progress.” Put him in a cradle in a log cabin in the wilderness of America, and in a few years you will find him in the capitol at the head of the greatest nation on the globe.”
No man or woman can rise to anything very great who allows himself to be tripped or thwarted by obstacles which he meets up with on life’s highway. His achievement will be in proportion to his ability to make stepping stones out of stumbling blocks.
There are people that easily give up. These are the people that will never make it until they change their thinking. It is us that create our own circumstances and it is us alone who can rise above them. H. Ross Perot wrote, “Most people give up just when they are about to achieve success. They quit on the one-yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game, one foot from a winning touchdown.”
ShivK hera wrote, “Trials in life can be tragedies or triumphs, depending on how we handles them. Triumphs don’t come without effort.”
Mental attitude is the key. Dr. Marden wrote, “I always watch with great interest a young man’s first failure. It is the index of his life, the measure of his success-power. The mere fact of his failure does not interest me much; but how did he take his defeat? What did he do next? Was he discouraged? Did he slink out of sight? Did he conclude that he had made a mistake in his calling, and dabble in something else? Or, did he get up and go at it again with a determination that knows no defeat?”
William James of Havard University said, “The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind.” It depends on whether our outlook in life is with a positive mental attitude or negative mental attitude. Every man has within him the power of changing the unpleasant into pleasant, the disagreeable into agreeable, worry thoughts into confident thoughts, and despair into hope and ambition. So when you are confronted with obstacles in life, as surely you will, just remember that there is no such thing as failure unless and until you accept it as such.
When I assert that you can overcome any problem, I am taking into account that you do not have to do it entirely on your own. For, you have the advantage of insight and strength greater than any human being possesses. What probably can possibly be too much for God and you acting together in perfect harmony? It is the greatest combination of all.
With God’s presence, there is no limit to what you can achieve if you govern your actions, and make all your exertions contribute to the fulfilling of some great purpose of life, which you took up with a brave heart, and with a determination to persevere therein until success crowns your efforts.