- Gender and Relationships
Don't Let Him Walk All Over You
Just because you love him doesn't mean that you can let him do whatever he wants to.Yes,I specifically used the word "you" because it's all up to you. If you don't let him treat you bad he won't dare to.Men only start behaving bad once they are sure that no matter what they do,they will ultimately be forgiven.Love makes you do somethings that just can't be explained.Like even if it's his fault you are only too ready to forgive as soon as he utters the word "sorry" from his mouth.But enough of that already. You have to take control of your life and make up your mind that boyfriend or no boyfriend NO ONE gets to treat you like that!
DON'T WHINE...SHOW HIM YOU'RE STRONG
I know women are emotional and most of them don't mind showing that.While you think that he will understand that he hurt you and won't do the same thing again,he will see your week link and won't even mind using that to his advantage.Don't ever do that!Don't give him that edge over you.Don't let him ever think that he has the power to hurt you.Each and every drop of your tear is precious and if he doesn't understand that he couldn't care less.So stop wasting your tears on somebody like that.
SHOW HIM THAT YOU'RE NO LONGER GOING TO TAKE S*** FROM HIM
It's very important to let him know that you are no longer going to be mistreated by him.He might try to get you emotional by saying things like "you never retaliated to me like that before" or "i'm really hurt by the way you're behaving".Remember not to fall for this sentimental crap he's trying to pull off.
It will really help you to remember that if he really loves you and cares for you,he would never have treated you bad.Is the responsibility to make things work only your's?NO!If he doesn't even make the effort to set things right,he couldn't care less about what you both have.Just remember that if he doesn't even realize that the way he's treating you is nowhere near appropriate,you have to take things in your own hands.Take control and let him know that you will not stand up to this any longer.
If he changes his attitude towards you for the better,good for you.However,if he does nothing about it whatsoever,just accept that the fairytale you're living in is not even close to being perfect.
ARE YOU AFRAID?
Are you afraid that you will never be able to love again?Do you think that no matter what he does you are never ever going to be happy without him? Are you scared of ending up alone?
It's only natural for you to feel this way.However let me tell you this---no actually ask yourself this question---would you ever truly be happy with a person who doesn't treat you right?You've done every thing humanly possible to for this relationship and all you ever get is unhappiness and tears.So get yourself together and don't worry there is that someone out there for you.It might sound very stereotyped but it's true.Do what's best for you.Love yourself first.Make yourself happy.Don't depend on someone else to bring that happiness in your life that you truly deserve.
I don't write these things just because they sound reassuring.I write them because they're true.I've lived each one of those moments myself.All I can say is that don't let anyone treat you bad and most importantly don't ever lose hope!