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EXPRESS YOUR LOVE TO A CRUSH? WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT FOR?
My God..don't do that!
Why express your love to someone you don’t even know on a personal level? You’re setting yourself up for rejection, hurt and shame. You have no clue how the other person will react, and most likely, it will be negatively.
Expressing love, real love to another human being in a relationship takes time. If you express the emotion to the other person without even knowing them intimately, or having spent quality time in their presence; you will make them run for the hills. I certainly would!
A crush is simply infatuation. Once the infatuation passes, often, there is nothing left to carry it over into a deeper level. I’ve had crushes in my younger years and nothing ever came out of them but disappointment. Even if you end up being in a relationship with the “crushee”, let time be your determining factor. Spend time getting to know the real person behind the facade you “crushed” on. Become a friend, maybe a lover, but please don’t say the “L” word. Let the other person say it first..it may take time, weeks, months, but if there is something there, I guarantee it will appear! Maybe after you DO get to know the real person, you might actually end up feeling differently and not even carry on the relationship!
The secret is to spend time together doing things like sports, work, household chores, etc. whatever couples do when in a relationship. The mundane ordinary things will bring out the real character in people! If you feel that much later down the road, the “L” word has not cropped up, well, maybe you should think about getting out and cutting your losses before you end up in a one-sided relationship.
It’s something similar to “Love at First Sight”, I feel it is the same thing. Yes, in very rare cases I have known, it has existed. But with all the “Love at First Sights” I’ve come across through people I have known, the relationships always ended up being one-sided, friends with benefits, and other cases of one person getting the dirty end of the stick.
Good luck!! :)
© 2009 K D Martel