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Reality and facts of being in a relationship !!
Everything in the present scenario everything has there own pros and cons. Before taking a step forward to do something, we should always be alert that it could turn out bad for us. Its not necessary to be aware of pros and cons of everything on this planet, but you should know enough about what you're thinking to do before you actually do it. The problem starts when it comes to the youngsters. Parents always want their children to be what they want, not to be what others want. They always pray for their children's well-being so that they can become a responsible person in the future and take care of the family and themselves. Most children spent their most time at school than home. So, school is kind of a home for them, because they get to learn a lot of things about life, health, world, how to build healthy relations with friends and teachers, how to respect their elders, and all that. They might learn these things in the bad way also, which could lead them to a very dark future. At this time, 60% of the teenagers are engaged in a relationship that doesn't make any sense to them. Yes, i agree, it is a part of life but don't make your life messed up being in a relation that you can't handle.
What is a Relationship ?
Relationship is a mixed feeling that you get when you meet someone who tells you who you are. It might be your near or dear ones or someone special. You don't need any advice to build up a healthy relation. What you really need is to make a wise decision and someone who can guide you through that. There's a saying-- " Always keep in mind what other people say, but always do what you and your inner-self think is right."
Relationship is a bond between two individuals who trust and understand each other's feelings. We hear about a new relation everyday when ywe go to school or college. The reason is-- almost all teenagers want someone with whom they can share their feelings and could trust them. It's very important to prioritize your relation when you get into it. Most difficult part is how to start a successful relationship with a right partner.
"People in a relationship tend to influence each other, share their thoughts and feelings, and engage in activities together."
Sustain your relationship
Sustainability of your relationship depends of five main reasons and those are:
Trust: "Truth is God", if you want to strengthen your relation, trust is the first key word you need to focus on. If you make yourself trustworthy, then whatever you do in your life, god will help you to make everything simple and sustainable. But one thing you should always keep in mind throughout your relationship is-- "It takes a lot of efforts and time to build up trust within two people, but it only takes a moment to destroy it."
A relationship without trust is just like a car without gas. As you have to put a lot of gas into the car for a long trip, the same you have to do with your relationship. Your trust foundation should be so strong, that doesn't matter what happens, it should not affect your relationship. That's the only way you can make your relation last longer.
Attitude and Ego: “Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” If your attitude is more than your trust, that means your sustainability graph is going down. Attitude is not only the way to solve your relationship problems, matter of fact, it makes it more difficult to solve.
" Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is called attitude".
There are two types of attitude- Negative attitude and Positive attitude. Attitude can take your relationship to the peak but it depends on you and your partner, which attitude you choose. If you did something wrong just admit it and apologize. Never argue with your partner or criticize him, fight fair. Always try to make everything easier and you can do that by directly talking to your partner. As i said earlier, listen and take everyone into consideration but don't let anyone ruin your attitude towards your relationship.
Love and Affection: "Do he/she deserves my love and affection?" This is the most common question in all relationships. It's something that you have to build up for someone whom you think is capable of. It is very very important to choose a right person for it because if you do not, then anybody can take chance to ruin your relationship. And you definitely don't want that.
If you love someone, find new ways to express your love for them because love is the most integral part of a relationship. Express your love and affection for your partner willingly, liberally, and as often as you can. Mens especially, should show their love genuinely and openly so that your partner can feel comfortable with you. Look at each other with love and admiration, talk in happy and calm tone: you would feel like your relation was made heaven. "Love melts situations that seem impossible."
Respect: To gain something, you have to give something. That means, if you want to be truly respected, you must also respect. If your foundation of trust is strong, the there is no way you can undermine the respect for your partner. Because if you lie to your beloved, your foundation starts eroding and it can lead your relationship to fall. To keep flexibility in your relation, you need to respect your partner's feelings and personal boundaries. Giving someone respect seems similar to valuing them and their thoughts, feelings, etc. It also includes acknowledging them, listening to them, being truthful with them, and accepting their individuality.
Nowadays most people think we can survive without being respected. It might be true in some aspects but not in all. Being respected is something great that everyone doesn't get. In a relationship, respect is much more important than we think.
Support: "You wasn't there when i needed you." I hear this from a lot of people who are fed up from their relations. Reality is, they are not fed up, they are just overwhelmed by their friends, family, studies, you (partner), etc. They can't decide what to do at what time. Don't let your real life come in conflict with your love life. Always give priority to your partner if you want your relation to be successful. Never let anything come in between you and support needed by your beloved. Be there whenever he/she needs you. If he/she needs your support, that means you're are someone special to him/her, that's why he/she needs you at that time. If you do keep this in mind and apply it to your life, make sure you expect the same. You're not doing any social service here, you're trying to make your's and someones life into one body and soul.
The reason support is so critical to a healthy relationship lies within the concepts of success and achievement. For two people to build a life together, it is critical for each of them to maintain their own identities while at the same time work together toward common goals and aspirations.