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Eight Reasons to Get Married

Updated on October 17, 2015
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Muhammad Rafiq is a freelance writer, blogger, and translator with a Master's Degree in English literature from the University of Malakand.

Reasons to Get Married
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What is Marriage

Marriage is an institution, wherein a man and woman pledge to live together for the rest of their life. It is a sort of agreement between them under social and religious norms. Marriage is a unique relationship when compared to other relationships. Marriage is consummated because of religious directives, while friendship and different relationships are dependent upon common objectives. That is the reason, its exceptionally imperative. Life without marriage is like wandering in the wilds. It is dull and boring. According to Socrates, “By all means, marry. If you get a good wife, you'll become happy; if you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.” There are some reasons as to why Socrates impressed upon the importance of marriage. Studies have proved that marriage has fundamental impact on our mental and physical health. That is why; most of the strata of our society like to get married, have children and raise their family. Moreover, it’s a natural phenomenon and it will continue till doomsday. Following are the reasons as to why you should get married:

Importance of Marriage

Jennifer Smith says:

“Marriage is a mosaic you build with your spouse. Millions of tiny moments that create your love story.”

Marriage Changes Your Life

Marriage brings about a remarkable change in your life. This change is apparent not only in your behaviour but in your attitude as well. This change takes you out of your present world into another world, which is totally different from the former. Gone are the days when you used to be à la mode, chic, foolhardy, impertinent and saucy. Now, you will have to think and act differently. In reality, marriage makes you what you ought to be. O'Connell, author of the Marriage Benefit: The Surprising Rewards of Staying Together in Midlife, told WebMed that "Marriage is an enduring relationship, and it should create an environment in which you can change and grow.”

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Marriage Boosts Up Your Performance

You might have heard that behind every successful man, there is a woman. Woman plays a pivotal role in the success of a man. Why is so much importance given to woman in this case? The reason is that it is all due to marriage. Marriage is the driving force in this case. Marriage provides an opportunity to get necessary support and appreciation from your partner i.e., your spouse. She boosts up your efforts and encouragement. She realizes your sorrows and happiness in much the same way as you feel. Once you have got married, you become a part of a family. Then there are some responsibilities which you would have to shoulder. Otherwise, you will lag behind others. That is why; you will have to double your efforts and work hard just for the sake of your family. An obvious improvement is shown in your performance. That is a great thing! Isn’t it?

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Marriage Makes You Happy

Marriage is a spiritual bond between two people. It is a fusion of two souls and hearts. It gives you more joy and happiness than ever. It gives you an opportunity to give catharsis to your emotions. You enjoy your life within the sphere of law and religion. That is why, it results in happiness for you and your spouse. When you are single, you cannot enjoy your life a great deal. You feel alone and having no one to talk to and lighten the burden of your heart. That is why; you need to think about marriage.

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Marriage Makes You a Responsible Person

When you enter into matrimony, you are not alone. You become a part of your beloved life partner. Now, you will have to take every step with great caution, because you will have to prove yourself an ideal personality. You will have to walk up to the expectations of your life partner. Sometimes, you will have to sacrifice your feelings and desires just for the sake of happiness of your life partner. This sort of caution makes you a responsible person in every respect. When a person is single, he doesn’t know the value of money. He spends the money extravagantly. When you get married, you will try to save as much as possible so that to support the family. That is what makes you a responsible person. Those who are single should give it a try.

According to RAND Corporation, “As men age, their health declines and the risk of mortality increases. Not surprisingly, however, the level of risk is tied to marital status: married men in their 50s, 60s, and 70s have lower mortality rates than those who are unmarried (never married, divorced, or widowed).”

Marriage Keeps You Healthy

Various studies have proved that married men tend to have good health and longevity in contrast to those who live single. According to RAND Corporation, “As men age, their health declines and the risk of mortality increases. Not surprisingly, however, the level of risk is tied to marital status: married men in their 50s, 60s, and 70s have lower mortality rates than those who are unmarried (never married, divorced, or widowed).” In another study, the Japanese scientists have proved that marriage has very conducive effects on the heart. They reported that unmarried men have the tendency to die more from heart diseases than the married men. Studies have also showed that married patients with Cancer live longer.

Marriage Makes You Financially Better
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Marriage Makes You Financially Better

Apart from the above mentioned benefits, marriage is also associated with financial perks. Marriage can make you financially better and more stable than ever. Marriage provides an opportunity to couple to share their wealth with each other. You have full access to financial resources of your life partner. You might have seen that many men have benefitted from the financial assets of their life partners. Two wallets are better than one. When you get married, your income also doubles as your life partner also contributes a lot to your monthly income. That is why marriage is a means of getting financially better.

Marriage Keeps You Morally Good

Marriage assumes a key part in reducing ratio of crimes in a society. It has the potential to keep you away from illicit activities. It can prevent you from drinking, taking drugs and other addictions. Marriage brings a certain change in your routine life. It completely affects your way of life. That is why; it results in keeping you away from crimes and illegal activities. According to National Longitudinal Survey of Youth data, Duncan, Wilkerson, and England, “Both marriage and cohabitation were associated with decreases in binge drinking and marijuana use.” A sudden transformation takes place in the behaviour of a married person, which compels him to stay inside his house and enjoy his life with his partner. Social bonds and parenting influence compel a married man to spend most of the time in family centered activities. Your spouse is a great shield in this regard. She has the power to prevent you from doing anything wrong.

Marriage Makes You Immune to STDS

One of the most important benefits of marriage is that it prevents you from Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Everybody knows that AIDs is increasing day by day in the world and in many countries like Africa it has increased to an alarming situation. Unmarried person has no one to put out his carnal desires. Eventually, he will have to go to brothel or get laid with someone else so that he may satiate his carnal drive. Thus you are more prone to STD than married man. The only safe sex is with your spouse. Think about it and make your own decision!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Well, I know I love being married, so I definitely agree with your points.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks billybuc for your comments. Remain blessed.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Marriage does have its benefits, including (since it's tax season) potentially reducing your tax burden with the IRS.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Yes, I agree. Thanks for commenting.

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      dashingscorpio 3 years ago

      Life is a personal journey.

      As with everything in life there is no "one size fits all" approach to happiness. I don't believe marriage is for everyone. The same could also be said about having children. I personally have never had a desire to have children and I firmly believe people who don't want them should not have them which is why elected to have a vasectomy many years ago.

      In the U.S. our divorce statistics hoovers around 50% and (women) initiate 66% or 2/3rds of the all divorce filings. Clearly this would suggest that at least half of the people who get married are (unhappy) about it some point. God only knows how many couples are married in (name) but actually live in separate quarters of the house or in separate residences altogether. Most marriages fail because people chose the wrong mate for themselves or they got married for the wrong reasons.

      Women of today have higher incomes and better career opportunities than women did in the 1960s, 50s, 40s and prior. The more options one has the less crap they're going to take! LOL!

      According to Newsweek Magazine 15 to 20 % of couples have sex no more than 10 times a year, which experts define as a sexless marriage. One of the most common complaints about long-term relationships and marriages is a decrease in sexual desire and passion. People spend millions of dollars on books and workshops annually trying to find ways to "rekindle the passion" in their marriages.

      I suspect a couple dating but (living apart) is likely to have sex more often taking turns visiting each other a few nights a week than if they lived together or were married. Most couples have even less sex if they decide to have children. Getting married with the belief of having more sex is a mistake.

      Ideally you want to marry someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for the marriage as you do, (naturally agrees) with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a (mutual) depth of love and desire for one another. One man's opinion! :-)

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks dashingscorpio for your comments! You are pretty right that the divorce rate is very high and least people want to enter into marriage, but if you go deep into the crux of the matter, you will come to know that it's all due to liberalism and secularism prevailing in the Western Society. The divorce rate is totally different in the Asian countries. Where there is an influence of religion in a society, the divorce would be very low. For example, in Muslim countries, the divorce rate is very low. Why? The reason is that they know the sanctity and value of marriage. Marriage is a holy thing to Muslims, while to others it is an agreement, a piece of paper, a custom and a norm. So, it has taken a shape of daily commodity in the Western countries, that is why people are afraid to get married. They suspect each other that they would be cheated. Just have a look at the Muslim society! You will be surprised to know how people live with their life partners forever.

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      dashingscorpio 3 years ago

      Rafiq23, I agree that culture and religion play a large part in who stays married (even when unhappy) than those in Western Society. I also believe Muslim women have less (options) and freedoms than women in the U.S.

      Oftentimes when couples move here from other countries it is the (men) who have a more difficult time adjusting to Western Civilization. It's not uncommon for the women to embrace their newfound freedom and career opportunities. Once again I believe the more "options" one has the less likely they will settle for staying in an unhappy marriage. Women in the U.S. have more options!

      In the U.S. most men do not file for divorce. If they're unhappy they're more likely to cheat on their wives than file for a divorce.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Yes, I agree. Remain blessed.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

      Very nice hub, Rafiq23, excellent presentation and format. You did some thorough research, too. I like how you've emphasized the traditional aspects of marriage. I just did a similar hub but it focuses on the generic aspect of having a long term companion. Very similar points made here as well as to the advantages of having a sacred relationship. I'm glad I came across you hub, well done. Voted up and useful.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks janshares for your comments! I am glad you liked it. Remain blessed!

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      Emmyboy 3 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks Rafiq23. I have every reason to say you are so right. By the way, that's coming from a guy who is not yet married!

      Anyway, you have just convinced me to get married!

      No, wait, you have just convinced me to convince myself to get married!

      Yeah!!

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      Muhammad Rafiq 3 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks Emmyboy for your comments! Dear friend, I have already got engaged and ready to get married very soon. I'll invite you to my wedding ceremony. Remain blessed.

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      Sunil Kumar Kunnoth 2 years ago from Calicut (Kozhikode, South India)

      Interesting read. I enjoyed well. Shared.

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      Muhammad Rafiq 2 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks Sunil for your comments!

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      SS 2 years ago from Colombo

      Totally agree!

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      Muhammad Rafiq 2 years ago from Pakistan

      Thanks for your comments Traveloholic!

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