Eight Elements of a Happy Marriage
A Happy Marriage
Marriage is an integral part of human life. Life without marriage is absolutely nothing as it’s an all-natural process for continuation of human life on earth. It’s been observed that a majority of matrimonial relationships don’t survive for a long time and fail at a particular juncture. There are many factors, which hasten failure of matrimonial relationship. A happy marriage is not the duty of a single person, it is the result of efforts of both the husband and wife. “In a happy marriage it is the wife who provides the climate, the husband the landscape,” says Geral Brenan. A happy marriage is dependent on mutual understanding, attention, romance, communication, humour, trust, separation and tolerance. However, these are the components which contribute to a healthy and balanced marriage. There is an anonymous quote, which says that “Marriage does not guarantee you will be together forever, it’s only paper. It takes love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship and faith in your relationship to make it last.” The question arises as to why most of the marriages remain unsuccessful. Let’s play the devil’s advocate!
Many matrimonial relationships come to a dead end on account of lack of understanding between life partners. Mutual understanding assumes a fundamental part in ensuring a happy marriage, because it bridges the gap between the husband and wife. It is to understand the personality of your better-half. It is imperative to try to know a good deal about the mindset, tendencies, manners, preferences, habits and mood of your spouse. When you are thoroughly conscious of your spouse’s mood, then, it is unlikely that your matrimonial relationship will stumble upon failure. Before marriage, it is mandatory to pass plenty of time with your partner to familiarize yourself with him or her. “Two people can only live as one when each is prepared to give and receive trust and understanding. Above that lies respect. Without respect for how the other feels, no marriage is worthwhile,” says Helen Hollick. Once you have understood your life partner, then it is mandatory to respect his feelings and emotions.
Indifferent attitude towards your partner can lead to failure of matrimonial relationship. Your attitude towards your spouse is of paramount significance. Just imagine! What would be your response, if your spouse ignores you? You are likely to get displeased with your spouse. Therefore, you will likewise retaliate in much the same way. Accordingly, the relationship will come across failure. So pay more and more attention to your spouse to ensure that your love her very much.
Matrimonial relationship can last longer through:
Romance is the backbone of a happy marriage. Every person desires to be loved by his or her spouse. Love is the most important thing to maintain your matrimonial relationship forever. Ensure your spouse that you have had a great crush on her. A simple kiss on cheeks or a hug can do a lot in this regard. It will provide a testimony to the fact that you are really in love with your spouse. Romance keeps the fire of love burning in your spouse and she feels increasingly more hooked up to you.
Many couples see their matrimonial relationships gradually breakdown because of communication gap. Communication gap widens the distance between you and your spouse. Never let communication gap come your way. You might have observed that communication is the first step in establishing an exceptional and cheerful relationship. Make sure to engage your spouse by sharing your experiences and what you have in your heart. Couples who never shy in expressing their ideas, thoughts, emotions and feelings definitely stay successful in their relationship.
Those couples who attempt to keep their spouse cheerful by sheer dint of humour will remain auspicious in their relationship. Humour can make your spouse feel a sort of attachment with you. Funny individuals have the capability to keep their relationship stronger because of their sense of humour. Their spouses feel considerably more attached to their husbands. Studies have found that those male individuals who have humorous bent of mind prove to be successful husbands.
Trust your life partner and never question her character. Mistrust and suspicion about the character of your companion may stir disturbance in your matrimonial relationship. Ensure that you have full trust in your spouse. Trust harbours feelings of attachment and love in your spouse and she will trust you as well. On the other hand, trust deficit result in failure of matrimonial relationship.
You might have observed that there are some moments when couples get bored due to very long relationship and living together for very long. It is necessary to bring about some change in your routine life. Think out of the way, spare some time and spend some days outside your home somewhere in a pleasant spot replete with natural beauty. It will add to your love with your spouse. “I fell in love with her when we were together, then fell deeper in love with her in the years we were apart,” says Nicholas Sparks. Separation is sometimes mandatory to keep alive your matrimonial relationship.
There are moments in life when your spouse may hurt your feelings, but you will have to keep cool and accept it with a smiling face. “Discord is the great ill of mankind; and tolerance is the only remedy for it,” says Voltaire. If you want to keep your marriage healthy and happy, then try to cultivate the seeds of tolerance in your personality.
I am pretty sure that the above-mentioned tips will help you maintain your matrimonial relationship. Try to follow them in letter and spirit.
© 2013 Muhammad Rafiq