- Gender and Relationships
Embrace the Differences: Martians and Venusians Unite
DON’T EXPECT: EMBRACE THAT EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT
Don’t expect things, because when you do, you set yourself up for disappointment when your expectations aren't met, and when people don’t act in a certain way.
Everyone has different opinions, beliefs, thoughts, views and feelings and they may be similar or different from yours. Be open-minded and don’t expect anything. Alternatively, if you are un-expecting and someone happens to agree with you or act in your favor – well kudos to you and this probably makes you happy.
Relating to this is how to deal with men. If you embrace that they are not from your planet, then you are golden. I’m not saying to treat them like they are an extraterrestrial but just realize that everyone has their uniqueness that makes them who they are.
Who is the CONVERSATIONALIST?
Two women have a normal conversation between the two of them by involving both parties equally. They both ask questions and make logical replies. They oftentimes nod their heads in agreement, make eye contact, and show that they are in fact involved in the conversation.
A woman tries having this conversation with a male but the conversation doesn’t last. It’s like he didn’t hear a word she said. His hand may be dug in a bag of potato chips (just my experience) or he may be using his phone to Google a good place to eat for lunch. Then maybe he’ll look up for a second, give her that I-have-no-idea-what-you-just-said, kind of look, make an awkward noise, or say “huh?” Or maybe yours says “ya” without a second thought! I think he may’ve watched Yes, Man one too many times.
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WOMEN QUESTION to NO END
Women ask questions such as how do you feel or what do you think? The answers to these questions go deep and are generally not one line responses. In fact they can go on for minutes, hours, days, weeks…you get the picture.
Women enjoy romantic films which they can relate to. They watch the characters onscreen and the situations they are in. They ask endless questions and torture their spouses with the questions they think up from the film. They relate films to real life.
Men don’t question it, they go with it. They don’t choose films that they can relate to, but they choose films that have violence and things blowing up and an attractive female whom they can gawk at. Generally she is totally out of place but men use her as a viable reason for the Venusians to tune in! You see, the purpose of her is to attract female viewers because apparently us women go nuts over seeing Miss Johnansson dance around as Black Widow.
Like when my boyfriend says, "but Emily you’ll love Iron Man, Scarlet Johansson is in it!”
While we question things till’ no end, men watch the same movies till no end. I swear I discover nothing new, no matter how many times I see Jason Bourne run around Russia in the Bourne Series. This is just another difference between men and women.
We are SENTIMENTAL CREATURES
Women enjoy sentimental, sensitive movies that make us say “awww”. Same with music, we prefer songs that have meaning. Guys may prefer the same songs as us; however, they listen to them for different reasons. I enjoy country music for the tunes but mostly for the lyrics. I listen to different music for the particular mood I’m in and the lyrics drive me to it.
The lyrics draw me in which bring me back to years gone by, places I’ve been, sights I’ve seen, food I’ve devoured, or a place I purchased a vintage shirt. One song can do all that for me.
MARTIANS and VENUSIANS UNITE
Men and women are different for sure. Next time you are talking to the other sex and get aggravated or confused, just remember that they are not just a little different from you – they are from an entirely different planet!
Embrace this and try to discover a bit more about the earthling you love but may not know all that much about.
Remember, I’m not a dude, and I am from Venus. These are only my direct observations. Comments in my comment box will be delightfully read and replied to and if you have any observations of your own in-reply to my hub, those will be greatly appreciated too. Remember that we are all different and we all have our idiosyncrasies.