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Emotional Entanglement A Story of Domestic Violence
I wanted to post one of my articles or poems that I had already written about Domestic Violence, but since I cannot use content that is already published, I decided to write something new. As a young adult who has been through a lot when it comes to relationships and as a domestic violence advocate, I realize that when it comes to emotional abuse, it is usually not accepted or looked past. Many do not know that emotional abuse is domestic violence. I would like to share something with my readers.
There was a time when I was emotionally entangled in a relationship. I mean I really loved this man and I was willing to make it work no matter what. I saw signs that some things were not right EARLY but I continued to stay. Mainly because I had witnessed such things growing up and I thought for the most part that it was okay. Secondly, I thought that he just had some issues and that maybe I could help him and eventually they would go away, WRONG. I do have a child with this man so it was even harder to deal with.
I felt myself being tugged in many ways, he would constantly disrespect me, he was controlling, he was jealous, he didn't want me to have friends and always wanted me to be around him. He didn't accept the fact that we enjoyed different things. We did have some good times so I tried to focus on those, but things did not change, although he said that they would. I use to pray and pray and sometimes I felt like God was telling me to stay, but really He wasn't. I use to talk about marrying this man, but one day God woke me up and made me realize that this was not the man who was for me.
My life had changed quite a bit being with him, it wasn't until I left the relationship that I actually started going deeper into my purpose. God started connecting me with men and even women who had experienced Domestic Violence. That is really how I started learning about what I was going through, I mean that it actually had a title. Many times we think because we are not being physically abused that it is not domestic violence, but there are many forms of domestic violence and emotional abuse is definitely one of them.
Be with someone who appreciates you and accepts you for who you are, that is God fearing and God loving, that would encourage you and lift you up. Relationships take two strong people to make it work, there should not be domination or control in relationships.
If you are experiencing domestic violence, you can visit the Domestic Violence Hotline website at http://www.thehotline.org. I recently started a nonprofit myself dedicated to raising awareness for many causes(F.A.C.E. I.T. Friends Advocating for Causes Effectively Immediately Today) feel free to visit us at http://www.faceittoday.org
God Bless you all