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How To Have A Balance Of Healthy Emotions
Emotions are an important part of being human. They allow us to feel love and to feel pain. It's not fun to feel pain. There are times you just try to accept things which can take some time, especially if you love that person intensely.
I don't think suppressing one's feelings is a good thing to do, but they say love is a choice of the mind, even if we feel it, it's a choice to love someone and we must do it, without letting our feelings get in the way. This can be very challenging to do, as emotions are a strong part of our nature.
I would give someone time to get accustomed to how they feel in a delicate situation. It would be good to understand how both people feel on both ends and take into account how they feel.
I know emotions are a part of being human. As a passionate person, I often have strong emotions. I've been a sensitive person and emotional person most of my life.
I remember when my father was dying, that one of my brothers wanted everything possible to be done to revive him because he could not deal with the fact my father was passing away. He even went to far as to ask or demand that my father be forcefully resuscitated if could be, which I was told could possibly be very painful for my dad and even break his ribs.
I was ready to let my father go, for he had been sick for three years and it was a great deal of time and wonderful experience to see my father go from a hardcore man who I used to be afraid of to this gentle soul who eventually converted to Christ in a special way.
It was really a blessing to see these changes. But I was ready to let him go, because it was so painful seeing him sick for so long, and I wanted it to be over.
I can put myself in my brother's shoes, though, as he was so intimately close to my dad, so close was their relationship founded on love and support and similarity, that it was very difficult for my brother and I can sympathize on the pain he went through and still feels.
My mother felt a great weight lifted when my father passed, as it had been a reign of control or unhealthy yelling for nearly 52 years. While that seemed selfish to me at first I understand and she does grieve and feel very lonely now and thinks of him often, even though she doesn't say much about it.
She is a very strong woman emotionally but she is very impulsive at times too.
When I wrote a hub about how I felt about assisted suicide for example, I did have a strong aversion to it, and uncomfortable feeling towards it in general. But what really took precedence over the aversion to it, was the feeling I had of losing someone that was intensely powerful and I do not beat myself up for having reacted strongly.
We need to try and by sympathetic to others and sometimes this involves putting aside what we vote on that particular thing, be it abortion, gay lifestyles, or assisted suicide. Though we may not agree, we can agree to disagree but when it comes down to it, sometimes it's our own feelings that take the largest toll like being willing to give up a love who wants to leave this life early and it can bring back very difficult memories also of perhaps other people or person(s) who have proposed similar things.
Emotions are one reason why many people try to hang on in relationships tightly not wanting to let go or feel lonely or alone.