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Ending A Relationship - 5 Important Tips For Ending A Relationship With Dignity

Updated on May 9, 2011

Relationships End Everyday

Unfortunately, the cold hard facts are that romantic relationships fall apart on a regular basis. However ending a relationship gracefully can be a very difficult endeavor. There are plenty of ways that breaking up might go completely wrong, then again it does not necessarily have to be that way.

Here are some tips that will help you split up in a civil manner.

Tell Your Partner The Truth - It's possible that you believe that you do not owe your partner anything, however as another human being, they are entitled to the simple truth. Even though telling a couple of lies could make breaking up feel less difficult, ultimately it'll always come back to haunt you.

Stay Calm, Polite and Direct - If there is one thing that you need to be aware of, you'll find that feelings are going to be running high once you bring up the topic of breaking up. Stay relaxed, sincere and direct to help make things go more easily.

Remember that it's your responsibility to set the tone.

Anticipate the Unexpected - Chances are you'll imagine your partner getting upset and burning of all of your belongings on the front yard, or perhaps you may picture them sitting motionless, stone-faced and distant. Whatever you picture, you need to know a very important factor, it won't proceed how you believe it's going to.

This is exactly why it's so crucial that you understand your plan and adhere to it.

Be Cautious About Manipulation
- There is definitely the possibility that your soon-to-be ex girlfriend or boyfriend is going to do anything they can to get you to stay in the relationship. To be manipulated into staying around is only going to produce animosity.

On the flip side, they could bring up a legitimate matter of which you might not have considered. You need to be extra mindful whenever trying to figure out what exactly is actually happening.

To be honest, make sure that you are not the person engaging in the manipulation.

Don't Bring Up The Past - This key point is last mainly because it is the most challenging. Even though you will want to make clear the reason why you would like to split up, please don't mention past problems that can result in an argument. Both of you know already everything you can't stand about the other person; you don't have to bring it up at this point.

In the event you definitely need to bring up the past in order to make clear why you're leaving, do your very best to keep to the facts and never to individual attacks.

Make Sure That Breaking Up Is What You Really Want!

Before you even consider ending a long-term relationship, you've got to be absolutely certain it's what you would like to do. On top of that understand the reason why you need to do it. This is very important, because when you discuss the topic of splitting up, there isn't any plausible way to "un-say" it.

Ending a relationship gracefully isn't always easy. Adding insult to injury has never been classy. It requires planning and mindful execution to end it gracefully, but it is the ultimate way to deal with things - for all people involved.


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      Nikki Major 

      6 years ago

      Great Advice...breaking up is never easy...but it can be done tactfully.


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