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Unconditional Love That Heals A Marriage

Updated on October 16, 2013
Giving This Unity Another Chance.
Giving This Unity Another Chance.

Giving Love A Chance

Going through my life with memories of failed marriages and failed trials of relationships is supposed to strengthen me. There must be some reason why I had kept ending up in relationships where I was so depended on for the support of someone's emotional needs. I go to work and take care of others. But when I come home, I have the desire to rest into the arms of my spouse who I love and am always very attracted to. I have wanted to be pampered and comforted. I have wanted to be admired and complemented. The lusts of stranger's eyes are not for me. I have desired my spouse to be my secret admirer, to be the one who loves me for who I am.

I never thought that I would have ever been rejected by the most attractive man I have ever met: Lean, tall, quiet, relaxed, deep Israeli like eyes, strong and industrious, prophetic and methodical, sensitive and spiritual, warm and intelligent. But one night, as I tried to rest, after I had gone out of my way to go shopping for a new apartment, and even telling my parents, siblings, and children that the marriage was over, this beautiful man put his arm around me.

At first, I turned away, and I leaped to my feet and said, " I have to get out of here!" All I ended up doing is sit in the family room and cover my face with my hands. I started talking to God. "Why, Lord? Why am I so confused! I am already set, ready to move. Now he wants to cuddle up for the last time?" My eyes were so sore from crying, my throat had a lump in it and I could hardly breathe out of my puffy nose! I felt tormented. I felt dismayed. It was cold in that family room and I did not have a blanket to cover up with.

I then heard a voice which said, " Get up and go back in there." I just wanted to go to sleep, but I didn't want to be teased or fooled into anything physical. I went back into the room, where my spouse was quiet and alert. Then he turned to me and asked, " Do you believe God can change a person?"

At first, I thought he was referring to me. But then I found out he was referring to himself. I listened intently, only with a silent Spiritual conversation going on inside of me trusting in the Holy Spirit to cover me. I cried some more. But I realized that he had confessed his heart to me. This beautiful man that I vowed to live with forever apologized and told me that I was good for him. And then he wrapped his arms around me and kissed me. It was like the first time all over again.

"I love you." He said to me over and over. All I could do is say "Thank you." The tears were still flowing out of my eyes. I was still choked up from salty tear congestion, all choked up with surprise and shock that the man, who had protested against this marriage, decided to be Obedient to God's Words to him to love me and stay with me.


I realized that my resistance to him along with making efforts to agree with his mortal plans to leave me had left him feeling rejected as well. I know that only the Strength of the Lord with the Power of His Spirit in His Son Jesus' Name will hold this Marriage together. I realized that a relationship without Love will Die. Only did the Lord create this Marriage. And without Love, it is not worth anything at all.

A wife deserves to be loved as well as her husband. For God is Love. The Lord God has created man in His image; and God has allowed woman to be birthed out of man (Genesis, chapter 2, verses 7 and 22). So now we have to continue to Love Our Lord God by loving each other.

1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

"Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking, It is not angered, It does not keep a record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth. Love always protects, it always hopes, it always perseveres. Love never Fails......"


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    • Lori P. profile image

      Lori Phillips 3 years ago from Southern California USA

      Unconditional love is the key but it is more difficult than we know. We think we love each other unconditionally but it isn't true. Marriage sets a long list of conditions one must meet in order to receive the other person's love and commitment. Vows are broken and love is withdrawn.

      Unconditional love sets no conditions. It expects no return. Unconditional love just gives and gives and loves and loves more.

      Unconditional love endures, suffers and sacrifices.

      Can you see why unconditional love is hard to offer in marriage? But I strive for this in my marriage and is has changed both of us in ways we never could have imagined.

      God bless.

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      Steel Engineer 5 years ago from Kiev, Ukraine

      My wife and I heard from friends a few years ago, "Pray for more love, joy, laughter, and happiness in your marriage." They said it changed their marriage.

      It works for us, too. In fact, in the process of laughing and enjoying each other, petty arguments about where to squeeze the toothpaste, etc, went away.

      We have shared this with others, who also received a blessing in their marriage from the Holy Spirit through this prayer.

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      pennyofheaven 6 years ago from New Zealand

      When our will gets in the way of Gods will it can seem a very confusing time. How wonderful you let Gods will have its way! Thank you for sharing such an intimate story of life and love.

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      Judicastro 7 years ago from birmingham, Alabama

      Believe me I understand more than you know.

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      Christina M. Castro 7 years ago from Baltimore,MD USA

      Dear Judi, Fear- I guess of never being loved again has actually encouraged me today to reread my own hub, because I fought this bitter heart of mine to the point where I can not make any foolish decisions about a break up with the consulting the Lord on it. The other hubs I have written about the "Time to Make a Transition" are stepping stones to the healing of broken hearts, and Breaking Marriage Vows certainly are not encouraged when you are reading the "Good Book". I want to say this is the most challenging relationship I have ever been in. It is out of my character to treat someone coldly. I am more hurt by it than he is.

      Bottom Line, I Have reconsidered to Stay in this relationship and I hope that My Entire Family will just have to understand. That is where God comes in and We have to trust in Him on that. Thanks for caring. CM

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      Judicastro 7 years ago from birmingham, Alabama

      So Christina after reading this and it was written 2 weeks ago what has changed to take you in the direction you are going in now?

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      Christina M. Castro 7 years ago from Baltimore,MD USA

      I Changed The Title so everyone could understand the true meaning of what I am trying to say. Changes of heart can only be a sign of personal review of one's own weakness and admitting the wrong in a relationship shows strength. My husband listens to God. And to be obedient to God's voice brings His Love back into this relationship.

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      Dave Mathews 7 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      The last line of the standard "Marriage Vow" "Till death do you part." Says it all as far as I'm concerned. If I'm not dead, I'm sticking by my marriage, "Good Times" an "Bad Times"

      Brother Dave.