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Unconditional Love That Heals A Marriage
Giving Love A Chance
Going through my life with memories of failed marriages and failed trials of relationships is supposed to strengthen me. There must be some reason why I had kept ending up in relationships where I was so depended on for the support of someone's emotional needs. I go to work and take care of others. But when I come home, I have the desire to rest into the arms of my spouse who I love and am always very attracted to. I have wanted to be pampered and comforted. I have wanted to be admired and complemented. The lusts of stranger's eyes are not for me. I have desired my spouse to be my secret admirer, to be the one who loves me for who I am.
I never thought that I would have ever been rejected by the most attractive man I have ever met: Lean, tall, quiet, relaxed, deep Israeli like eyes, strong and industrious, prophetic and methodical, sensitive and spiritual, warm and intelligent. But one night, as I tried to rest, after I had gone out of my way to go shopping for a new apartment, and even telling my parents, siblings, and children that the marriage was over, this beautiful man put his arm around me.
At first, I turned away, and I leaped to my feet and said, " I have to get out of here!" All I ended up doing is sit in the family room and cover my face with my hands. I started talking to God. "Why, Lord? Why am I so confused! I am already set, ready to move. Now he wants to cuddle up for the last time?" My eyes were so sore from crying, my throat had a lump in it and I could hardly breathe out of my puffy nose! I felt tormented. I felt dismayed. It was cold in that family room and I did not have a blanket to cover up with.
I then heard a voice which said, " Get up and go back in there." I just wanted to go to sleep, but I didn't want to be teased or fooled into anything physical. I went back into the room, where my spouse was quiet and alert. Then he turned to me and asked, " Do you believe God can change a person?"
At first, I thought he was referring to me. But then I found out he was referring to himself. I listened intently, only with a silent Spiritual conversation going on inside of me trusting in the Holy Spirit to cover me. I cried some more. But I realized that he had confessed his heart to me. This beautiful man that I vowed to live with forever apologized and told me that I was good for him. And then he wrapped his arms around me and kissed me. It was like the first time all over again.
"I love you." He said to me over and over. All I could do is say "Thank you." The tears were still flowing out of my eyes. I was still choked up from salty tear congestion, all choked up with surprise and shock that the man, who had protested against this marriage, decided to be Obedient to God's Words to him to love me and stay with me.
FORGIVENESS GIVES LOVE A CHANCE
I realized that my resistance to him along with making efforts to agree with his mortal plans to leave me had left him feeling rejected as well. I know that only the Strength of the Lord with the Power of His Spirit in His Son Jesus' Name will hold this Marriage together. I realized that a relationship without Love will Die. Only did the Lord create this Marriage. And without Love, it is not worth anything at all.
A wife deserves to be loved as well as her husband. For God is Love. The Lord God has created man in His image; and God has allowed woman to be birthed out of man (Genesis, chapter 2, verses 7 and 22). So now we have to continue to Love Our Lord God by loving each other.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8
"Love is patient. Love is kind. It does not envy. It does not boast. It is not proud. It is not rude. It is not self-seeking, It is not angered, It does not keep a record of wrongs.Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices in the truth. Love always protects, it always hopes, it always perseveres. Love never Fails......"