- Gender and Relationships
Eyes, Are Windows to Our Souls!
Reflecting eyes, how is your vision?
What do your eyes reflect?
It is hard to hide, behind your own eyes. So many of us, do try to hide our eyes, when things aren't going well.
Some of you may remember, when growing up....that when you got into trouble, one of your parents or an adult would say: "Look at me, when I talk to you!" Then they would ask you a question? Did you do....? Are you telling me the truth? Look at me, they would say as they focused on our eyes.
It is amazing how our eyes, say so much about how we feel, from the inside.Thinking on this subject, I recall people I knew, who used to wear sunglasses. I would see them hiding behind their shades, as they would hide their visible intentions. They seemed to think the sunglasses, shaded their eyes from the focus of their vision. While they indulged themselves in viewing another person, while their spouse was standing next to them. The false shield, they hid behind, was no shield at all.
Some of you, can remember when you were dating, how close you used to be.Real close, looking into each others eyes. There was no space between you, because you were so in love. Your faces connected as you talked, and so did your eyes. Your vision was not impaired, for you saw and felt love. There were no walls or shields to protect your heart from this new love of your life, at least none that you knew of at the time. Because you had a vision for love:) People around you could see the love in your eyes! You were so close, that you could see the reflection of yourselves in each others eyes.
A Mother's Love, A Father's Love, when they see their newborn baby. They can't wait to hold this new baby...who is a part of them. Waiting in anticipation to look into their eyes, wondering what color their eyes will be. Then there is a day, when the child too, can see clearly the now visible Mother and Father. They interact their young expressions to their parents, even through their eyes. They can now, express love, happiness, sadness through the windows to their soul.
Unfortunately, as we get older, we have taken in much vision to our soul. Good and bad, seem to enter in through our eyes. We try to filter the bad out, to only accept good. Without knowing it, our filter gets clogged. We then too, have a false shield to protect us from the hurts of this world. Sometimes the very thing, that we think is protecting our vision, is actually hindering our vision!
Our hearts are not so innocent anymore. So much hurt has been experienced through the knowledge of our eyes. Even the best of people, are not shielded from the dirt of this world. We need some eye wash:) Thankfully, we have tears that are connected to our soul:) For our souls need cleansed!
It does seem, that people who have been hurt, and those who did the hurting can not look at each other. Our eyes, do reflect what is within. Have you ever had an unresolved issue, where someone has hurt you in some way, yet doesn't want to talk about it. You understand that without working things out, that the problem will arise again. The other party, would rather just sweep it under the carpet, and put the blinders on, as if nothing has ever happened.
What do you do about this? If a person is not willing, to humble themselves, to admit that they could be a part of the problem. How can they become a part of the solution? Can we continue to have a friendship or a relationship with a person, who can never admit to any fault. This is like having a one sided relationship, it is fine as long as everything goes their way. When misunderstandings are not heard, surface relationships are best for them.
It does take two to communicate, so I have come to find out, that there is only so much a person can do. The repair of any relationship, does take two! I have to admit I do have to pray about this area with a couple of people. Step-mom's, who really care less about me...the rejection and hurt felt time and time again had to stop for me. I have forgiven them, I just can't keep putting myself in contact with them, for further injury. So I do pray for them, and I have literally given them up to the Lord.
What I have had to do, is to focus my eyes on God, He can see around the corner. He knows my past, my faults...and He does know what is best for me. When I start leaning to my own understanding, about why this happened or how could of things been different? I get myself into an emotional mess. So whenever I find myself worrying, or trying to understand things that have no answers...I start to pray.
If I start to get judgemental, I think about, how would Jesus look at this person? Right away my eyes try to refocus....to just, get a glimpse of how God might see them. This helps to put things into a different perspective. I know we can't always be close to all people, but I do want to be close to God.
When my life is not right, and when I have done something I know in my heart was not good, my vision with God too, is blurred.My communication to God, is lessened if I have unconfessed sin in my life. In order for me to see more clearly, things God is trying to show me, I have to clear my line of vision (communication) with The God in The Heavens:)
There were some things in my life, that surfaced...where I had no idea how to handle them?A friend told me about this book called "Bondage Breaker". One day I was looking through some used books, and there it was. I didn't even remember who told me about it at the time, but I did buy it. Then I read it, as the book walked me through a process of dealing with unconfessed sin in my life. It helps you to look at a variety of specific areas, that maybe you never even thought of as a sin or a problem.
To tell you the truth I was surprised, how the lines of communication seem to broaden in my prayer life, as I walked through these steps. God took me to a new level of freedom from my past.
Well I hope we can see eye to eye, on some of these things mentioned:)There has been a huge difference in my life, when my spouse and I were able to take the shades and blinders off. To really hear each others feelings, to learn to respond rather than re-act. In my personal life my spouse and I, can now communicate much more like when we were first dating:) For years I thought this was hopeless, yet I kept trying to find a way, that would bring these results. I thank God, that we now see eye to eye, and we get close again, when we talk. I pray that you too, may have anything removed that hinders your relationship with each other and with God.
How Is Your Vision?
Has your vision been obscured or maybe it is blurry, either way...find the best way to purify your vision, to enable you to see more clearly <3