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For this reason

Updated on March 7, 2011

What is Marriage?

The social institution under which a man and woman establish their decision to live as husband and wife by legal commitments, religious ceremonies, etc.

But to me marriage is more than the above, people talk a lot about marriage, believe me just like my Bible made it clear to me that marriage is holy, I still also believe that it is platform for two strangers.

The basic factor of Marriage is acceptance, without acceptance, marriage will never work and this acceptance comes in the form of sacrifice and compromise.

A friend of mine, a Christian by religion agreed to have an Islamic wedding because his bride is a Muslim and so many people frowned at his decision even his immediate family members objected to it.

I sat down and asked myself this question; what would I do if I were in his shoes? Now ask yourself the same question. Of course, you know exactly what you will do that is why I came to the point that everything we do in life is based on CHOICE. A Christian and her Muslim bride sitting in front of the Imam is a matter of choice and this is where COMPROMISE that main ingredient that propels marriage takes effect however there will never be a sound compromise if there is no mutual AGREEMENT and agreement in Marriage always stand on the platform of Understanding.

Agreement is another factor that helps marriage to work perfectly because accepting to spend one’s entire life with someone else is a crucial engagement, it turns away all forms of disagreements and that was simply why though so many people frowned at his decision to honor an Islamic wedding, though his Pastor was heartbroken about it and his Mother considered it a Taboo yet he considered it honorable because his wedding is just for him and his soul mate. “JUST THE TWO OF US”

And the Bible made it clear “For this reason, a man should leave his father and mother and cling unto his wife, the two shall no longer be two but one body and soul” and it went on to give a strong advice to those around; it says; “THEREFORE,WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER,LET NO ONE PUT ASUNDER”.

The choices you make in your marriage are those which will suit a husband and wife, they are not meant to suit passerby(s), onlookers or rumor mongers, they are not for your parents, pastor or siblings that is why if you take a deep breath right now, you might want to figure out why so many relationship, marriage and unions are tearing apart.


Sometimes people encounter difficulties in their marital homes, of course’ there must be times of disagreements but the fact remains that the solution to work out things when they seems difficult in our home is not as difficult as the very first time one tried to use the keyboard, it is quite easy and all it takes is simply to TALK IT OUT.

Talk it out with your partner, sit down and listen to each other and basically this easy thing is packed in another factor known as COMMUNICATION.

Communication is essential for a marriage to be just as perfect as it is meant to be therefore, when there is forms of disagreement, dislike, when there seems to be a gap, do not wait for your partner to make the first move, simply do it and make it count.

There have been so many occasions where so many people walked out of their perfect homes and went into the world. Sometimes those who did walked out of their homes wakes up every morning with people they can’t even remember their names and at the very end came to realize that the only one person in this world to trust, love and adore is that very person abandoned.

“It finally dawned on her that the only man who truly loved her was that very man left heartbroken”.

There is nothing wrong in making a mistake in life but the wrong thing about it is if it left uncorrected and how do you correct a mistake?

A mistake can be corrected by first accepting the error made then showing a remorse about it and thus putting up a further step to correct it that is why when she finally realized what she did, she walked back home and on her bended knees, he stretched his hands and held her. You can picture the above illustration in every other way that suits you or your imagination but what I actually wanted to express is Forgiveness at work.

Thus the four major factors for a sustainable and perfect Marriage are Compromise, Choice, Agreement and Forgiveness. These four factors are all rapped up in one broad band network known as DEVOTION.

Devotion is the key that keeps every marriage on the go therefore, as for me, I have come to realize that “It is better to be a Rabbit in my married life because it is all about making holes for myself and my wife though most folks prefer to Be Lions and Elephants but since Marriage is actually based on oneness, one mind, body and soul, I wish to make it clear that it is about one man and woman who are structurally a head and a tail which means that though a man remains the head yet he is equal with the wife.

True love counts no error and love they say is blind but it doesn’t mislead therefore, in marriage, we must always make it a point of duty to show each other a good example, teach each other and support each other in every way we can, true love doesn’t walk away, it shows remorse, it doesn’t harbor grudges and it forgives all the time.

The points I made in this topic are all based on personal experiences though someone might find them wrong yet I wish to conclude the topic with this illustration/question.

A newly wedded couple were about to go for their honeymoon and the groom insisted on taking his sick mother along with them, the bride objected to it but the groom insisted that he would not leave his mother so instead of the honeymoon, the bride immediately filled for a divorce on the ground of what she called unbreakable bond between the man and his mother.

My question is this.

Was the man wrong or right?


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      Chibuzo Melvin Mobis 7 years ago from Biafra

      Thanks Lady_E, i also hope that many find it useful just like you did.

      Kirutaye,without you there would be no me so thanks for coming over.

      A M Warner, i appreciate your opinion regarding the question and thanks so much for sharing it.

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      Allen Werner 7 years ago from West Allis

      Great hub! I truly believe the Creator of the world made marriage for those who wanted to create their own nation in the world. It is a king and queen situation, a monarchy, and those outside the kingdom, even their parents before them, can give advice but should have no say in the kingdom structure itself. That is purely up to the couple. And I believe, for the couple to receive the blessings of the Creator, the man has to be the head - only in the sense that when a major decision needs to be made - one person has to take responsibility for making it. The Lord put this responsibility on the man. Was the man right or wrong in the question above? I don't think it is for us to say if it was right or wrong, but, simply, the wife should have respected her husbands decision enough to go with it. If that was all it took to break up the marriage, it was probably going to get worse later on anyway. But that's just my opinion. Peace

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      kirutaye 7 years ago from London, UK

      Marriage is a serious lifelong commitment and should be taken as such by both partner. Thank you for reminding us.

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      Elena 7 years ago from London, UK

      Very encouraging and inspiring. Marriage is taken light hearted these days. We now have men marrying men.

      I hope many find this Hub useful. I did.