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Spicin' Up Love

Updated on June 17, 2014

Falling head over heels is much more easier than staying in love in the same intensity everyday. Maintaining that loving feeling 24/7 takes a million effort. With this reality, spicing up your love and rekindling the sparks in your relationship that has turned into cold embers is important if you want to give both of you a reason to stay in a love relationship. Don't think it's possible? Do not lose hope.

Rekindling those loving embers takes two to tango. Loving looks won't last long when people are faced with the humdrum of daily existence. To keep the relationship dynamic and alive, check out these tips and find out which once works for you.

How to get that loving feeling

1. Think loving thoughts.

When you think loving thoughts, it becomes a habit and believe it or not, more likely, loving feelings will follow suit. That is the power of thinking. From now on, start to think of your partner in the most positive light.

Focus on the qualities which attracted you most to this person. Practice visualizing your partner in the most flaterring light.You may start by visualizing something about his personality, beauty, humor or smile which made your heart race the first time you met. Once it becomes a habit, it will come naturally.

Thoughts are very powerful, and what you put in your mind will automatically transform into action. Learn to make use of the power of your mind to create and think loving thoughts towards your partner.

2. Make sure to make your partner feel special

Making someone feel special is quite easy to do but sustaining it for the long haul, now that is the challenging part. Make him feel as if he is the only thing that matters, when you are together. When you are together, make it a point to stop fiddling with your phone or iPad or anything that obviously gets your attention.

3. Listen

Listening is an art. It is an act which is very simple and yet in itself shows how much a person cares for the other. Learn to listen first. You could start by asking the other person how his day was, and listen closely as the other responds. It is very easy to spot a faker when it comes to listening.

Your partner can feel how much you care if you listen closely and attentively to him. If he is having a rough day at work, try to listen if he rants about it. Caring for him also means you know how to keep your thoughts to yourself when he simply wants to not talk about. Remember that sometimes the best way to listen is to be silent.

4. Think of his needs before yours

Being attentive to the needs of your partner is one thing that people often neglect. Putting his needs over yours is one way to keep your thoughts and feelings attune to him. Learn to show him how much you care by being sensitive to his needs.

Learn the art of asking him your partner if he needs help with something. You might also take it upon yourself to get him things he needs if it does not require too much effort from you. This will then help create an atmosphere of love between the two of you.

5. Love him simply and unconditionally

The simplest thing you can do is to give your partner your unconditional love, accept him for who he is and revel in the fact that you have found each other.

Maintaining that loving feeling in your relationships can be done. Do not lose hope because anyone can do it. Just learn to follow the above tips and you are on your way to having that great loving feeling.


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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Thanks DDE, it is hard but with work and perseverance, maintaining that loving feeling in a relationship can be done. Love is one important ingredient though.

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      Devika Primić 5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great points and so true

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Hi there Paul! Thank you very much. Thinking of others needs before yours is easy when you are have great love for them. Have a good day and I hope you spread the love. Take care!

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 5 years ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      This is a great useful hub. Thinking of your partner's needs before your own is so true and important! Voted up and sharing.

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      Gei Moore 5 years ago from Pilipinas

      Thank you yssubramanyam! As they say love makes the world go 'round. Spread the love...

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      yssubramanyam 5 years ago from india, nellore. andhrapradesh

      Love is an interesting phase of life. this is the only game which do not have rules and regulations, besides no referee. you make it or break it , it is love which can not be erased in the dairy of life. good hub.