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Family, Friends, and Foes
This hub is about no one in particular.
If you are feeling it may be about you, you may need to "check yourself."
There are many professionals you can talk with about this. I suggest your pastor, priest, or minister.
Our creator made us to love and care about each other; not hate and destroy each other.
I pray and hope that the words written here will open minds and create a spirit of change.
May God's will be done!
This hub delves into a controversial area. I hope any and all reading will read it carefully and not get defensive and spout opinions until they have read, and possibly reread the whole article.
For me, I have been looking in the mirror as I considered and wrote this.
Personally, I feel a major problem today is everyone trying to "fix" everyone else instead of "fixing" themselves.
Please, as you read this, consider yourself and not others.
The fact is: we cannot change anyone else; we can only change ourselves.
Using and Abusing
When it comes to family, friends, and foes, it can sometimes be very difficult to distinguish who is who and what is what.
Don't get me wrong, I have some very loving and wonderful family members, but I have also been used and abused by some. Looking back, I have not always been a good family member either.
We sometimes take our family for granted and even take advantage of their generosity.
We sometimes wonder why certain family members or friends don't want to be around us. Why don't they call?
Maybe it is because we treat them as we are their enemy. Maybe we use them and they are hurt. Maybe we have said mean and hurtful words. Maybe we offer opinions when they are not wanted.
What happens is we become foes; we are not friends or family anymore.
I can think of a couple family members and maybe a "friend" or two that has hurt me.
Are they my foes?
I hope not; I pray not, but that is their choice. I do have a choice to consider them foes or not, but they also have a choice on whether they will change.
I can change myself, but not them. If they read this and look deep within, I am sure they will know and realize, but I will not dwell on the hurts they have caused me. I will dwell on the hurts I have caused others and make changes to not make myself alienated from others.
Ok, now for a bit of confession.
I know that at times when one person makes me angry, I sometimes take it out on others who do not deserve it.
This is an issue with many people. We take our problems and put them on the backs of those who are closest to us.
To the love of my life: Maggie. I must say I am sorry. I know that I have done it with you at times.
To my wonderful Mother, I also must apologize; I have done the same to you. I also know that I have taken advantage of your love and generosity.
To other family and friends that I have hurt with actions or words...Please forgive me. I will try very hard not to do the same anymore.
Being a human, we all will have enemies. There are those who we just cannot see eye to eye with or who has wronged us in ways that will make us foes for life.
Should we dwell on them?
I know that at times I do dwell on people that have committed bad things against my family or myself.
By dwelling on them, it is I who is suffering. Not them.
I vow to move on and pray for them, forget them and live the life God has blessed me with.
Just a few hours until the New Year starts.
In a sense, this hub is a resolution for me.
Hopefully I will not make my family or friends my foes, and hopefully they will do the same.
What about you? Have you thought about this?
God blessed us with each other, not to be foes, but to be one together in Him.
I will do my part to change my words and actions. Will you do your part?
If we all use a little bit of empathy and consider what the other is going through; how they may take our words, we will develop and keep much better relationships.
Consider this: what you are posting on Facebook--who will it hurt.
Consider this: did you borrow or take something that belongs to another? Time to make it right.
Consider this: have you called or wrote that friend or family member recently? It only takes a moment.
Have you gave a hug to someone close who needs it recently?
Family, Friends and even Foes are all God's creation. He wants us to live with love; not hate and greed.
I want what God wants
Please watch the video at the end and I wish you a Happy New Year!
© 2013 Greg Boudonck