ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Family surviving divorce

Updated on July 13, 2011

Mother of a divorced son

Nothing is more heartbreaking than when your child suffers. Even when they are grown and no longer live at home. Divorce is one of those devastating events that seems to be happening more frequently in everyone’s lives. Being the mother of a son with a child that is even more difficult, especially when it involves a grandchild. Sons by nature are more reserved about their feelings and don’t ask assistance very much. The internalize and keep things to themselves so you watch as they keep it bottled up and suffer with no way of pulling it out of them until they are ready which may take a very long time.

When you are close to your ex-daughter-in-law the process is even more difficult when an extramarital affair is happening. You feel like you have lost a daughter and the friendship that was so close as well as betrayed. If you are feeling like this imagine what your son is feeling. You can do nothing but stand by as the family is torn apart and everyone’s whole world is turned upside down.

With your grandchild you wonder if and when you will get see them. You want so desperately to be a part of the child’s life, but don’t want to take away from any Daddy time. This is a fine line and severely limits your time with the grandchild. If your son lives at home then you get to see the grandchild on any occasion that they are visiting their Daddy which is wonderful, but if not it is much more difficult.

A whole new side of the ex-daughter-in-law emerges some Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde. They become hateful, resentful and vindictive rubbing salt into the wound all along the way. This is very hurtful to your son as well as those who love and trusted her.

I have no solutions to this horrific problem but I have something’s that have helped me copy.

1. Faith. God sustains all of us especially as watching your son blame everyone for this breakup of his family even God.

2. Exercise. Get out and move and work off your frustrations. Move and work out like you are beating up the ex in your mind and you will be surprised what you can accomplish.

3. Take up a hobby. This will get you out with other people and not sitting at home dwelling on the misery. You will meet new and interesting friends, some of who may be going through what you are.

4. Join a support group or start one if there is not one in your area for extended families of divorce. This will help those that are suffering come together and vent, and offer suggestions to each other.

5. Prayer. Pray and watch God unfold a whole new horizon for you. He probably has some one better and more suitable for your son and just pray he finds her and they start a new life together.

Most of all let your son know you will always be there for him and your grandchild and that you love them unconditionally. Hug him often and just smile when and sit in silence when he needs it. He will never forget you for your support and you are actually supporting each other just by being there together. Love and enjoy your grandchild and make the most of the time you have together. It is truly quality time not quantity time that makes a difference.


Comments

    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment

    No comments yet.

    working

    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, hubpages.com uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at: https://hubpages.com/privacy-policy#gdpr

    Show Details
    Necessary
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the googleapis.com or gstatic.com domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Features
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Marketing
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Statistics
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)