How to treat yourself in a relationship?
Being a human, everyone is different. Everyone has different perceptions and expectations. As a woman, you are a very important part of the human life cycle and hence you need to understand your significance. You are not less than a man is and you don’t need a man to feel good about yourself. You need to understand that you are different from others. Do not lament about what qualities other women possess and you don't. Learn to love and respect yourself as you are, instead of what others are expecting you.
Believe in Equal Responsibilities
A relationship is a partnership. Both partners have equal rights and responsibilities. Mutual understanding and compromise are two important aspects in a relationship, but not at the cost of your self-respect. There are no specific roles in a relationship. It is not a written rule that a man has to play the dominant part of a relationship. Responsibility belongs to both man and woman, for smooth existence of a relationship. It should not be that you do all the work and your man enjoys all the benefits.
Don't Change Yourself
Changes are inevitable in one's life. When you get into a relationship with a man, it affects every facet of your life. Not every change is favorable. It’s alright where minor changes are concerned. But if you have to change your true self just to please your partner, it’s just not worth it. If someone cannot love you for what you are, then what's the point of being in a relationship. You can’t always repress your true nature. It’s more like a business deal where your partner is a buyer and you are a customized product. Your partner is making changes in you as per his preference, and then he is taking you home. It’s not a very good feeling and sooner or later you would feel the burn of it.
Rather than depending upon your partner, it’s important to have your own sources of earnings, especially if you are moving in with your partner. It helps you in making decisions if things turn south in your relationship. Sometimes women are afraid to leave if they are entirely dependent on their partners, financially. Many times because of the financial dependency of a woman in her partner, she is forced to endure abusive relationship. It’s good to trust your partner, but its not wise to let them take over your life completely. Financial security acts as your backbone during tough times, helping you to take a stand for yourself.
Take No Nonsense From Your Partner
If your partner does not treat you right, don't take that attitude from him. You can try to change him, and make compromises. However, sometimes it can have an opposite effect. Your partner may start thinking that whatever he is doing is right and he is the sole reason for your existence, since you are taking whatever he is throwing at you, whether it’s abuse or infidelity. That is if you do not make your partner realize that they are doing wrong by you, if you don't oppose their lousy attitude, it will only get from bad to worse. Letting yourself be treated as crap leads to crappy experiences in a relationship.
What Do You Think?
Does a woman need to change her true self just to please her partner even if she is not happy with those changes?
Learn The Difference Between Want And Need
When two people are together in a relationship, it is because they want to be to in a relationship with each other. They like each other as they are. As a woman, you need to figure out why you are getting into a relationship with a particular man. There is a difference between when you want to be with someone and when you need to be with someone. When you want to be with a person, it is your heart's desire without any outside pressure. However, you may need to be with someone because others are expecting it of you. Sometimes people around you like your family or friends are always pairing you with someone and slowly that thing starts getting to you without you realizing it. You start feeling that this is what I want. Be aware of that feeling. Another thing is that sometimes women feel afraid of being alone, thinking that whatever they are getting, they won't get anything better than that and another chance in life to do better and hence, learn to accept whatever they get, good or bad. Do not think you have to settle for less than what you deserve.