- Gender and Relationships»
- Dating & Online Dating»
- Online Dating
Filipino Women Dating and Marriage Scams don't be her next victim in the Philippines.
Clean You Out Quick Scam.
This is easy, right out of the gate you found the perfect women online, and in no time flat this sweet little flower blossom has professes her love and devotion to you and the only thing she asks for in return is once married she wants to live the Philippines.
After the marriage and a wonderful honeymoon period your seemingly devoted wife will ask to be put on all the credit cards and bank accounts. When the gentalman travels back to the states to take care of his affairs in order to move to Philippines the woman cleans out all of his accounts moves out of her rented apartment and disappears.
Jeckle and Hyde Scam.
This scam typically plays itself out over many years but pays off big. A Filipino lady will look for a wealthy older gentleman once married and back in the States she is very sweet and attentive appears to be the perfect wife. So while everything on the surface seems to be perfect she begins asking the man for money to build a home for her parents. After the home is built for the parents she will focus her attention to building a retirement home in the Philippines for you This is a great scam because although it sounds totally legitimate, you need to keep in mind as a American citizen you cannot own property or have controlling rights to property in the Philippines so anything you have built with her is essentially going to be all her's once she dumps you.
Once she tires of the marriage and believes she has reached the limit of what she can squeeze out of you she become very nasty, distant, withholding sex and eventually demands a divorce. Many of these Filipino women have boy friends and secret children back in the Philippines they support. Before she does any of this, she will be carful to wait the necessary amount of time to get her permanent residency or citizenship so the husband can't claim the marriage was fraudulent. Sometimes they will falsely report physical abuse as leverage to speed up the divorce and to get more money in the divorce settlement.
Travel to you scam.
The travel scam is very old and effective. This scam usually takes place locally in the Philippines while chatting online. You find a girl in the Philippines online and after a few tantalizing chats she asks where you live, really she says, that's where my parents live and I have been able to see them for a long time because I can't afford the bus. I have a great idea if you would send me the 1000 pesos for bus fair I could come visit you and my family. If your not sold yet she ups the ante. How about this If you can send me the money by Western Union I will come visit you first and you can have all the sex you want with me for 2 or 3 days, then I will go on my way to my parents. This is simple, she is counting on you being so fixated and worked up over the idea of having a sex slave for 3 days that you wire her the money. Once she has your money you will never hear from her again.
Another variation of this scam works like this. A girl will tell a man back in the states over the phone or online who is not aware of travel and visa limitations for Filipinos that she can come and visit you right away, and while your waiting go out and buy all the sexy nighties and other things you wish to see me in so I can make all your dreams come true. All you need to do is wire me the money so I can get a visa and plane ticket to be with you. Say goodbye to your money, and I have no idea what you're going to do with all that lingerie
Elderly marriage scam
In this scam Filipino's will search out a very old elderly gentleman preferably a disabled veteran with a good pension. This is because she can live off that pension for the rest of her life once you pass. The first thing she will do, is incest the man move to the Philippines to get him away from any family members so she can get total control of him and his assets.
Once married and in control she will buy a large private multilevel home in a fenced in compound because she does not want to be seen or heard abusing her victim. She will move her victim in the lower level of the home under lock and key while she moves herself, boyfriend, and other family members into the upper half of the home. She and the family will then live off of the victim cleaning out his accounts and living off of his monthly pension checks.
Family loan scam.
If your fiancé or wife's family in the Philippines are poor ( most are ) it's a very good possibility they will ask you for a loan. Fathers in Filipino society are very dominant and will apply pressure to their daughters to get you to loan them money. So don't blame or get angry at Daughter because they really don't have a choice. The mother and father will probably want assurances that you are aware that you will be taking away one of their main income resources and that you will be expected to replace that( this is quite normal). If you fail to give them a loan the daughter will be shamed and she may not get there blessing to marry you, she will constantly be told that you are cheap and not a good man.
Brothers and sisters will soon to follow. They will build you up to be the American big shot bragging about you to anybody that will listen especially to other family members. After they have stroke your ego there going to expect you to live up to the Billing.
Here's my advice to keep peace in the family, like all things in the Philippines everything is negotiable even a loan to a family member offer a lesser amount one that you can live with because in the end this is not a loan that is ever going to be paid back. Once given you most likely can avoid having to give them another especially if it's a family member other than the mother and father. It's not that they won't try they will the difference is you have good grounds to say no and the daughter will be off the hook.
Medical Emergency Scam.
One of the most common and lucrative scams you may come across in the Philippines is the medical emergency scam. This may involve a girl that you have just met online, a fiancée left in the Philippines, or a family member of your Filipino wife.
These are just a few of the possible scenarios that get played out. scammers usually don't beat around the bush they get right to the money question. You will receive a letter, text or Skype buy a girl telling you that their mother or their daughter is in the hospital and has a medical emergency. They will tell you it is a life-threatening emergency but they have no money to save them so basically it's all up to you.
The main problem here is you probably have no way of verifying the injury or illness or at what hospital they are being treated. Expert scammers in the Philippines have learned how to forge hospital documents showing treatments and dollar amounts billed on sketchy paper work mostly written in Tagalog that you won't understand.
It's not uncommon in the Philippines for your wife's whole family to be in on the scam. They will come down with all kinds of illnesses in need of medications and Doctor office visits multiple times year. Mysteriously all family members have no money so all their medical bills should fall upon you or so they think. This will continue to play out throughout her parents life time. Does this mean that every illness is a hoax no but I'm fortunately it's impossible to tell the real from the fake.
If you have been communicating online with a Filipino girl that has agreed to be your fiancé but you have not met her or her family yet do not fall for this old tried and true medical scam. The girls will continue to take you for as much as they can get right up to the scheduled time you are to meet. This is when she will finally tell you that she does not want you so don't come here.
The whole family shows up unexpected for a visit.
The Long Visit Scam.
One day totally out of the blue your wife's brother with his family all show up at your doorstep for a visit. Not having a clue whats really going on you welcome them and politely cook some food watch some tV and maybe have a few drinks in the evening. It's starting to get late and the next thing you know the kids start fall sleep and you feel obligated to put them up for night because they have traveled a long distance to come and visit.
The problem is this ends up going for two or three days and they don't seem to be in any hurry to leave. Meanwhile you are constantly having to clean up after them as they laying around doing nothing but eating you out of house and home. So when you finally get fed up and tell them they need to leave they get all upset and insulted. This is all just part of the scam to soften you up.
Convince now you are totally miserable and at your wits end they inform you they have no money to get back home because they spent all they had on transportation to come and visit you. This is meant to put the ball in your court it's now your problem. Eventually they come up with a solution, would you be willing to give them a loan. Time is completely on their side here because frankly they have nothing better to do. They will hang around making your life miserable until you finally cave in and negotiate an amount for them to leave.
Never Under Estimate A Filipino
Many western men still hold onto very strange perceptions about women from the East. There's still the old stereotype that these poor women will wait on you hand and foot speaking only when spoken too and happily live out their lives keeping your bed warm 24 hours a day. All of this in essence works to the scammers advantage
Never under estimate a Filipino woman, you have to realize that in the Philippines the daily wage in a factory is about five dollars a day with little chance to ever work their way out of poverty. That said, they are intelligent, hard working, and ambitious so when they come across others girls sharing their plight they naturally share tricks of the trade with each other on how to scam a rich foreign man.
Foreign men, mostly from the US are perceived by Filipinos to be walking, talking money trees, and it's their job to think up ways to scam you out of it. The girls are counting on you being so distracted and blinded by the thought of having their charms that you will do stupid things and many do.
In God We Trust Scam
From the smallest street hustlers to the heavyweight criminal scammers they commonly use religious relics, Christian jewelry and have religious pictures and such around their home or business. The scammers use these measures as a comforting backdrop to aid in their hustle. Strange thing is, they will even give you the biggest smile you ever seen and pray with you right in the middle of scamming you.
Filipinos Are A Tremendous Community Asset
I want to make this perfectly clear I am not trying to paint Filipino women with a broad brush here, that Filipino's are all scammers and only after your money. I personally have many honest and responsible Filipino friends here in the US and in the Philippines. I also know hundreds of Filipino-American couples through Filipino-American associations here in the states that have wonderful marriages and families.They are a tremendous asset to the communities in which they live. I have also been happily married to my Filipino wife for 20 years she is a very loyal and loving wife.
Would You Consider A Foreign Wife?
Would you ever consider marrying a foreign woman.
Part 1 Of 2 Romance Scams In The Philippines Articles
For more information about scams in the Philippines please be sure to check out my part two article. Thanks and God Bless