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Find Love at Age 40 or Over

Updated on April 17, 2015
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Helping others through her research and writing meets an important goal for Audrey. She has spent many hours on this goal in her career.

Where to Find Love After 40

What is it like for women and men who are trying to find love at 40 or over? The task may be difficult but not impossible. Thousands of people have succeeded, but many have given up, partly because of the inability to find that special one with all the desired qualities. The more qualities you desire, the less likely you may find someone who meets all those needs. Some men and women refuse to compromise, and that is one of the big problems in the search for a date or mate. You might take a look at survey results below, detailing where people meet, and then the many tips to try for attracting a prospective date.

Finding Love

Surveys Show Where People Meet

Surveys over the years have shown where men and women met their mates. A survey by eHarmony in 2010 revealed the following places where people met their mates, in order .The over 50s also met in the same places in the same order, but online dating increased for the over 50s, Ten years ago , online dating was much further down the line, but popularity has definitely increased.

1. work/school

2. friends/family

3, bars/clubs/social events

4. online dating

5. Church

6. Other

How to Show Interest

One of the most important factors in finding love in these environments is to show interest in the person. Men say that women play games, and you must be yourself. One woman in a club was conversing for a long time with a man. When she was ready to leave, she took her coat to him and asked him if he was going to help her with it.. The next week he called her for a date, and they are now married.. When you go to suggested meeting places, you can show interest by facial expressions and body language. Lean a little his way. Men seem to have a better way of showing interest than some women, especially shy women. Let's take a look at other environments to meet someone and use these techniques..

Other Meeting Places

Why not add some new places to meet people that could be successful. Join a gym or health club and exercise at your own speed. This could improve your health and confidence. If you are up to it, take up a sport or resume a sport such as skiing. Men and women are plentiful at such places, and, even if you don't ski, the clubs and lodges could be fun places to meet your match. You might consider doing volunteering, maybe at a hospital. Who knows, you could meet a doctor or at least a lab technician or another volunteer. If you're a woman and don't like to watch sports, try anyway to become interested in football or basketball, and you can converse with men and ask them questions to learn more. Many women become interested in these sports, and you may love it or meet a man in the process. Join a special interest organization, such as a toastmaster club. You might even gain confidence in your speaking and meet someone. Singles toastmasters clubs exist in many areas, as do single clubs as a whole or special clubs age groups. Go for It!

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Build Confidence

The most important factor is building your confidence. Eat nutritious foods and exercise to remain healthy, have a medical checkup, and then become a new you. Buy new clothes, have a makeover (women) or skin treatment (men) get a new haircut; make yourself so appealing to the opposite sex so that no one can resist you. Above all, smile and show that you are happy with the new you

Love is Everywhere


Seven People Find Love and Marriage at 40 or Over

A true story may make your day. Five woman friends and two men were able to find love after the age of 40 and marry. These are the places where they met their mates.

2 - Church


2-Through friends


All but one had never been married. One person found all the qualities she desired. You can find love after 40. These people made it work. Don't ever give up!

A Must Read Book to Find Love

How to Find Love Mid-Life by Andrea Con is a must read book with excellent ratings at Amazon. Ms Conn stresses you must be open-minded and give a person a chance. She also advises you to be very careful about the places that you frequent if you want to find the right person. If you visit undesirable environments, you may become discouraged and forget the idea of meeting someone. You must look your best, smile, and be a good listener. If you read this book and follow recommendations, you may meet someone and make a connection

by Audrey Selig

Find Love Mid-Life by Andrea Con - Great Book!

How to Find Love Mid-Life
How to Find Love Mid-Life

This book is a must read for men and women looking for love after age 40. The book has fantastic reviews


Dating after 40

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What If Love After 40 Leads to Marriage and Babies

Positive points when you find love after age 40 enter the picture. You or your partner may have waited to find the right person and may be a near match. In addition, by waiting so long, you may both be willing to overlook faults and enjoy being deeply in love. Financial independence may be a good factor. Sometimes, the two of you have established good incomes and may be able to choose to reside in one of your homes and sell the other one. Late love can sometimes be grand. Gone may be the immaturity and lack of self-confidence from your early dating years.

Barriers exist for the over 40 crowd in marriage. Often one or both partners are divorced, sometimes widowed. This may mean children, child support and ex-spouses are issues for you to consider. Inability to conceive and deliver a normal child may require new decisions. Instead, you may decide to adopt to overcome that issue. If you are older and single, you may value your independence and find it difficult to make a commitment. Many people in love have the ability to overcome these barriers and settle down and make compromises. Remember, thousands find love at 40 or over.

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      3 years ago

      A very well-rounded and useful article about dating after 40. I think the biggest hurdle is being "set in our ways," so I appreciated your idea to be more open-minded. Having at least some flexibility really is important. I must say, you have a very nice writing style. You're really good at keeping the article flowing, interesting yet succinct. Voting up.

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      Audrey Selig 

      5 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      Thank you for reading my hub ahorse. You are right, as I have heard people say how great a later marriage can be. You are living proof. A single relative is 42 and in a great relationship. The maturity is helpful. As you say, having babies, is pretty scary. Stop by again, and good luck with your writing.

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      5 years ago

      Something you'll probably not hear many men say , I found love after 40 and I believe that the most intense , all consuming , fulfilling kind of relationships are to be found by Mature lovers ! Take away all the game playing of young hearts , immaturity , and self centeredness and you end up with an everlasting relationship ! Awesome hub ! I can't say I'd want to raise a child after that but ..........!

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      7 years ago

      Brake - I enjoyed the information in the hub, and glad you addressed it!

      I meet many people who express that they're discouraged about being single in, or beyond, their forties. I think believing it can happen is the largest part of meeting the challenge when someone is still willing to be open to the possibilities of being in a relationship.

      I loved that you included that people should do those things that help them build self-confidence, be it a new outfit, a new haircut, or even a good talking-to in the mirror, lol.

      Self-confidence and being happy with ourselves is something that is noticed by others, and has an extremely attractive quality.

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      Audrey Selig 

      7 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      I answered this, but it disappeared. Anyway, thank you for reading my hub on love after 40. Just think how long you would be married, if you had married when you met him in your teens. It wasn't the right time, and now you are happy in your forties. That was a great decision. I am sure that you never regretted it. Congratulations on your happiness and your excellent writing skills. I hope to read more of your hubs.

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      Movie Master 

      7 years ago from United Kingdom

      Hi brakel, you are so right, love can still be found if you are over 40, I was 47 when my husband and I married, but we did know each other when we were 16!

      I really enjoyed reading, thanks for sharing and I look forward to reading more of your hubs.

    • brakel2 profile imageAUTHOR

      Audrey Selig 

      7 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      Hi Cathy I am glad you enjoyed my article. My inspiration came from someone who just found her true love at 40.I believe that anyone can do the same if they just go to the right place, look good ,act interested and listen. If you are looking for someone, I wish you all the luck in the world. It is fun meeting you on Hugpages. I believe you inspired me.

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      Cathy I 

      7 years ago from New York

      This was a really cool article....guess there is hope for me after all. First thing I would probably have to do is to change my body language...hard work eh???

    • brakel2 profile imageAUTHOR

      Audrey Selig 

      7 years ago from Oklahoma City, Oklahoma

      Hi again Cybersister - Thanks for reading my article. Yay, a success story about love over 40. I am so happy for you and hope you have many happy years together. I know so many people who found love after 40, that it is so refreshing. Good luck. And you met him at work!!!!!

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      your cybersister 

      7 years ago from Just relocated from Florida to the mountains of North Carolina

      You are absolutely right, love can be found after 40. My husband and I didn't start dating until I was 42 (he was 37) and we have been happily together for twelve years now. We had both been married before and had four boys between us from our previuos marriages, so we weren't tempted to try having any together. And, like so many other people, I did meet him where I work.


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