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Five Reasons Why You Should Not Lie

Updated on December 19, 2012

In a world that has become so morally loose, where everything goes, it is very difficult to stand out. It is so much easier for one to conform to popular thought than to transform it. Opinions are no longer purely personal. Unfortunately, this has also affected the way we relate with one another.

People no longer take relationships seriously. The "open relationship" syndrome has become readily acceptable by many, yet it is just another way to legitimize infidelity and a lack of commitment. You cannot build a lasting relationship based on an 'open' concept. A lack of commitment from the beginning is a clearly sign that the relationship is headed for doom. You are either committed or you are not. There is no in-between or checking it out.

Here are Five Reasons Why You Should Not Lie, especially if you are starting a relationship!

  1. Lying Erodes Your Self Confidence - whether done intentionally or by accident . You can no longer be as confident about yourself once a lie has been introduced into a relationship. You conscience is constantly troubled and you try to justify your actions by assigning blame.
  2. Lying Defiles Your Relationship. Your relationship cannot be said to be authentic anymore. Your relationship in now cheapened whether the other party is aware of the lie or not.
  3. Lying Breaks The Foundation Of The Relationship - The primary layer of every relationship is TRUST. Once your trust has been eroded, there is no possibility of a strong relationship, as the lie will always linger in the back of your minds.
  4. Lying Always Breads Other Lies - A lie cannot stand on its own, it needs the support of other lies. This is the beginning of your downfall. Not only will you be telling a lie, but you will now qualify as a liar.
  5. Lying Dismisses The Truth - You cannot embrace the truth and lie at the same time. Usually, individuals lie because they have less confidence in the truth. It is unusual for someone who believes in the truth to rely on a lie in order to produce the best outcome.

The best way to build a strong relationship is to be comfortable with the truth about each other. No matter how unattractive that truth may appear at first. Reality is what makes a relationship thrive. Love blossoms in truth, not romance. Romance is simply a way to discovering the real person.

So the next time you are tempted to lie, ask yourself, do you want a genuine relationship or do you want a defiled one?

Thanks for reading. I would like to hear your thoughts and experiences.


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    • Fuller-Life profile image

      Fuller-Life 5 years ago from Washington, DC

      True Zipper, I agree with you on the brutal truth. I still think that you need to be honest no matter how tough the truth is. However, Like every communication, it must be done with love and gracefully. You must be guided by wisdom.

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      Zipper 5 years ago from United States

      Another Truth Sayer, I love it. I agree the truth is the only way to go! Sometimes though, you have to be careful how you tell the truth when it can hurt people. It cannot be a brutal truth; the choice of good words with compassion can make it easier to take.

      I might add that through the years, I have learned that many people who lie do it out of habit and do not feel any remorse.