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Five Signs She's Going To Say Yes

Updated on February 8, 2008

Asking Her For A First date

Five signs that when you’re talking to her in person she will say yes when you ask her for a date.


The biggest hurdle most guys have about asking a woman for a date is their own self-confidence; their own fear of being rejected. Once you can conquer that fear of women you can ask anything of anyone.

Look at yourself and how you talk with other men. Basically you treat other men you talk to as equals. I have to ask, are women that different?

No, they aren't.

Once you can speak with women honestly, comfortably and as an equal, your personal success with women will skyrocket.

And, as a bonus, you'll be able to ask her for a date within minutes of walking up to her and starting a conversation.

Now that we've got that out of the way:


A woman's body language will tell you when it's the right time to ask her for a date.

Small touches on the arm, on your shoulder. When she's standing facing you, she'll pull her shoulders back, chest forward, and arms open at her sides or if she's seated her arms will be comfortably placed on the table, maybe apart, maybe with fingers playing with her fingers or hair.

A woman will look at you, in the eyes, and turn her head downward. Then up again, to be certain you're still there, showing interest in her

Crossed arms are a sign of defense, she's protecting her from you. Use humorous, cocky conversation at this time to relax her. Looking away, over your shoulder or twisting away to look behind herself or away from you are also defense and defiance body language motions. You're not gaining any attraction points here, you may have to take a walk and try again later. But don't give up, just give her a "pause" from you.

When a woman is defensive or defiant, she's looking for a better catch, a more interesting man.

By taking a "pause" from her you'll allow her the space and time she needs to confirm to herself that you are the right catch.


Watch her body language for these signs:

Eyes looking at yours, quickly, then looking down for a short time, then back at you;

Small touches to your arm, shoulder or hand;

Sitting close together she'll brush her leg against yours, slightly, not hard;

Laughing with you as you make jokes and actively responding to your conversation;

Keeping her arms in an open posture, playing with her hair, fingers, straightening her clothes, the glass on the table and other open, nervous, preening movements.


Within a few minutes of getting the "green light" of her body language you should be asking for your first date. A simple get-together for a coffee or snack within the next three days. And don't forget to her phone number or email to follow-up with her on the second day to confirm the date!

Have a great time!



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      mary lee i guess last mane 

      8 years ago

      Just ask her,shes just as nervous as u r.right:-) just ring Door bell.her Car well,ask her would she like too?than shes says u know how long i been in love with u since day 1,than she touch your handsome face,than she kiss your lips very gentle.true if real showed simple person i promise.

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      mary lee i guess last mane 

      8 years ago

      Just ask her,shes just as nervous as u r.right:-)

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      Robert Lee 

      9 years ago from Canada

      Me too!


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      11 years ago

      Thanks for the advice man. I would definitely recommend this info to anyone that needs it.


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