- Gender and Relationships
Fix Me, I'm Broken
"If you need to fix a broken heart, friends make the best glue."
It will take a little of your time to help a friend who had lost a heart. Just being there for someone can sometimes bring hope when all seems hopeless.
It’s such a simple 2-word thing but will take time to heal. We all experience heartbreaks in life, relationship, families and most especially on our loved ones. We tend to expect more and understand less, think more and say less. And if we don’t get what we want, our heart breaks. And it hurts. It hurts a lot.
So for the question, what advice will you give if your friend got his/her heart badly broken? I’d rather go for a hug than advices. They wouldn’t listen anyway and the only thing that matters to them is their heart being in pain.
I’ve been through a lot of heartaches and pains in the past and friends would give me advices. I think that they do not understand what “heartbroken” means.
They just keep babbling that you would find the right person someday or you can move on in no time. So I would rather give someone a hug and listen to the sobs.
I would rather sit with them on a backyard porch swing not saying anything but rather to let them feel that I’m here, that they’re not alone when times get tough. Listen to them first and answer if they ask. It’s not right to leap our points of view when they are feeling bad.
There’s a reason for everything. We don’t judge the person by the right or wrong things they have done because somewhere in the puzzle there’s a piece that explains everything why.
That piece is the most crucial part of the puzzle and the only thing that someone will try to hide on the picture.
A tear from a heartbroken person is so special. This is not just a water-form of pain but it brings with it the love and sacrifice one has to make. Giving advices when a tear is so fresh would make it all worse.
I remember a guy friend, who is almost like a brother to me, got his heart so badly broken with this girl whom he really loves so much. We were in the church and he’s there kneeling with tears on his eyes.
I haven’t said a word but pat his back and just sit there to make him feel he’s got a friend to lean on.
So after a day, he thanked me for just being there for him when no one else understands his situation.
Anyway, no words will make him better nor bring their relationship back at the moment. Fresh wounds if scratch will bleed pain much more. And believe me, once done, it cannot be undone. They will hate and never forget it.
The thing is they will speak when they are ready and no one will rush it. It takes time and sometimes, a very long time to get over it. So instead we lecture our friend about what to do, about moving on, let’s just give them time and space to calm down and let the wound stop bleeding first before we enter the picture.
In that way, they will have a clearer mind and fresh thoughts to listen to alternatives and reason. They will appreciate more the effort and solutions that you have and for being there when they need you the most.
Friendship doesn’t only revolve around advices and reasons, sometimes when you look deeply into those words, you will see a greater meaning than that.
Friendship doesn’t always need words, sometimes, actions are better to let them feel that we are here and that we always care.
A true friend can see your tears pouring while others believe the smile you're faking.
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