- Gender and Relationships
For old time's sake
Some of us have spent our growing years in various places and have had the opportunity to make new friends and meet people from various cultures and backgrounds. I have always felt it has made us richer people and people with broader mind sets and outlooks towards life.
I have always tried and still do to keep in touch and drop a note now and then, a short email, a text message, New Year card etc..anything to be in touch with old friends and acquaintances from years ago. Today with the amazing technological advances; the options to stay in touch with people no matter where they are in the world are so many! Besides email, one has Skype, Yahoo video chat, GTalk video chat and others to choose from. The delights of viewing and talking live from your very home in different parts of the world bridges the distance like nothing else and you don’t miss your close ones as much.
Yet, I have never understood, why is it so hard for some people to respond to an email or return a phone call. I do realize we all go through phases in life where we don’t want to socialize, where we are not in a state of mind to exchange news or share what is happening with our lives right now, but still, how hard can it be to get back in touch sometime later or just respond in brief?
I don’t even hold a grudge or question somebody if they do and when they do get back after ages, it is ok! I am glad you did now! But I guess once they don’t, then the fear of being asked to explain why makes them not to even try and then you’re in a vicious circle of never doing so.
There are times when old school friends or people you knew when you were much younger try and reach out to you. Some folks are shy and some apprehensive about responding, some just couldn’t care about old friends, but some of us are genuinely delighted to come across somebody you knew in 2nd grade or in college or when we lived in that town etc. What is the harm and touching base and at least giving the opportunity a chance to know more people, to share joys and sorrows, to rekindle old bonds?
I guess human nature is shy and secretive and not so open to sharing and expressing. Inherently most of us are moulded by society and what society thinks and live by it.
I wish more of us were willing to try and give it a shot, to have the courage to respond to that email, to call back, to catch up for coffee & laughs...just for old time’s sake!