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Forgive Us Father
Author Vanessa T Williams VT Willi
It is all spiritual.
I can remember my grandmother telling me about how my grandfather courted her when she was a girl. I would listen and fantasize about some boy sweeping me off my feet, marrying me and together he and I raising a little boy and girl. It seemed that every value and moral she placed on the table for me was lost when I went to high school. Seriously, high school is a terrible place for young women-and by all rights we are women in this stage.
When I was maybe about 11 years old, my mother and I sat in the living and she asked me, who did I want to be like when I grew up? I didn’t have to think too much about this question because I had just sneaked and watched “Purple Rain”. My immediate response was, “I want to be like Apollonia.” My mother was not enthused about this answer- she got up and went into her room. She came back into the living room with her Bible. She sat down and said, “Let me tell you about Esther.” I will never forget this night and it was the first time that I was able to discern disappointment from my mother for me. She didn’t yell or chastise me, but she read to me some passages from the bible, then she prayed with me and asked God to always protect me.
Being like Apollonia was appealing to me because I saw her getting the guy and looking beautiful. I listened to her sing and I felt sorry for her when she cried. The movie was art trying to imitate real life. The real life in the movie was not the life that God designed for us. Yet the story was parallel to what young women and men go through every day. The bi product of lust is sin. Sin is not only the act of committing a physical deed but it is also the entertaining of thoughts that are not pleasing to God.
In my desire to be like this woman, I fantasized about wearing her clothes and having Prince on top of me- looking into my eyes, and kissing me. I was only 11.
The viewing of television filled with fornication and profanity penetrates innocence. It stirs up feelings inside adolescents that should not exist. The same is factual with music and photographs. So when young people view this type of material their spirituality is compromised. They begin to feel the fleshly impulses of the world and act upon them when they have the freedom to and this is usually around their peers.
So yes high school is the battle ground. This is where little women and little men spend the most time together. They study together, play together, and laugh together. During the course of their daily interactions lusty impulses arise.
The high school setting is also when you begin to see the ones you’ve known your whole life blossom into what they will most likely become. Puberty is has no friends and it effects women on a greater scale than men. I am no scientist but I remember when I began to develop and slim down. Boys who never would talk to me suddenly could not live without me. This gave me a feeling of vanity and pride. This produced jealousy from other females. I can remember walking in strife because I felt that they didn’t like me because their boyfriends did. The times haven’t changed much accept Satan is more direct and wastes no time in snaring our teens.
We were not designed to have multiple sex partners and to desecrate ourselves time and time again by jumping in and out of several relationships. The spirituality that coexists when a man and women are joined is reserved for the husband and wife. When God stated that husband and wife were to be one, this is not just for the sake of the covenant but also for joining of flesh thus producing conjoined spirits.
So then if the joining of the flesh is a part of making us one, then the joining of flesh contributes to and produces like or similar personalities(spirits). If lil Suzie sleeps with ten guys before she graduates how many different spirits (personality traits) has lil Suzie comes into contact with?
“Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For the two he says shall be come one flesh; but he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him. Flee sexual immorality; every sin that a man does is outside of the body; but he that commits sexual immorality sins against his own body” 1 Corinthians 6:16-18
When a man and woman sleep with one another spiritual manifestation takes place. This is why in the older days it was important to consummate marriage. Marriage is a fusion of two spirits. It is a ritual to solidify the covenant of marriage. When we partake in sex without the covenant of marriage we join spirits in an unhealthy way. We do not have God’s blessing when we sleep with our boyfriends. We have his blessing when we lay down with our husbands and wives.
The apostle Paul wrote these verses:
“The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.” Galatians 5:19-21
One must wonder why so much emphasis is placed on premarital sex.
“There is no specific prohibition in the Bible against sex between an unmarried man and unmarried woman. However, "sexual immorality" is denounced in about 25 passages in the New Testament. The word translated as "sexual immorality" or "fornication" in English versions of the Bible is the Greek word porneia, which means "illicit sexual intercourse." (CBR.org)
“Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
Because our bodies are the temple of Christ and we are supposed to be joined with him, even as husband and wife are one spirit joined for the glorification of God. If we sleep around, and invoke or channel spirits into our bodies it causes a disruption between us and our line to the Father. The covenant as husband and wife okays the joining of spirits.
Inviting unclean spirits into our lives causes a manifestation into the physical. Remember personalities are spirits.
High school dating opens the doors for broken marriages, mental anxiety, and drug and alcohol abuse. Old premises of the courtship have been erased and it’s a free for all-one big single’s mingling spot and parents and teachers allow it happen. As the generations pass righteous is being diluted. The devil uses the idea of peace and acceptance to usher in the abandonment of scripture. The Bible has not changed and neither has the meaning of its Word.
Acceptance is the splinter in society. Times have changed because people tolerate more. This tolerance is able to thrive because people have turned away from God-they do not fear him.
Once when teachers and ministers were the pillars in the community the average teenage had a support-structure. Going to church has become ritualistic and there is no substance to sustain the masses.
“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. Likewise, urge the younger men to be self-controlled. Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity…” Titus 2:3-8
Churches have now become flooded with plays, events, and all types of extra-curricular activities that leave less time for the Word of God. The scriptures are not open for your minister’s interpretation of them. The Word itself is sharper than a two edged sword and needs no fancy language swagger or stage presence to have an effect on the listeners.
“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” Hebrews 4:12
This is not a bashing on church activities-God has commanded us to fellowship. However, when the heartbeat of the church rests on the choir selection and not the administering of the Word then we are not doing as we were commanded.
This is where the breakdown exists. The church building has become a form of entertainment complex. Those who need shelter or a means to provide a meal for their families go to the church to find an empty stage and secretary who has to make an appointment for them to talk to their pastors.
“So I exhort the elders among you, as a fellow elder and a witness of the sufferings of Christ, as well as a partaker in the glory that is going to be revealed: shepherd the flock of God that is among you, exercising oversight, not under compulsion, but willingly, as God would have you; not for shameful gain, but eagerly; not domineering over those in your charge, but being examples to the flock. And when the chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the unfading crown of glory.”
What discourse this must cause among saints. What reflection does this generate to our children? What trust in God will they establish if the man of God is absent in their time of crisis?
So when our children began to feel the expression of lustful spirits in their lives who do they turn to instead of turning to God? They turn to their peers who 9 times of out 10 will deliver the incorrect answer.
When teenagers are allowed to date it inducts them into a world that is reserved for adults. The devil does discriminate with age so the weight of what they go through in a break up or in humiliation sometimes is never forgotten.