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Forgiven, not Forgotten

Updated on October 6, 2013

Do you remember a time in your life when you only see fuzzy and blurry image of a person standing in front you, with a wicked smile on her face? Then all of a sudden you blurted out, "How could you!?" with a slight scream on the question.

Your heart was so heavy and broken. Your life was now ruined and you can't think of anything, your mind just went blank. Do you remember how she just stood there, with her arms crossed on her chest. Tears were falling so heavily that her face seems hazy.

"We're sisters by heart.” you sobbed.

"Not anymore." she sweetly replied.

Then she's gone. She left you alone, with a bleeding heart and with the worst feeling of betrayal.

It was 20 years ago. Now you've moved on, forget the scars did exist in your heart and you never saw her again. You lived a happy life. Since then, you've grown into a strong woman and know your limitations to everything.

But she's here again, back on her tremendous life adventure. You didn’t know her story anymore like you used to. Oh, it's been a while. You missed her back then because you treasured your friendship very much.

She approached you and as if nothing's happen, kissed you on the cheek. "Hi! Long time no see!" There were tears on her eyes and a smile on her lips, not the wicked smile you last saw from her.

"Want to go for a coffee?" you asked and she nodded.

You've learned that life was so harsh to her. She's been in and out of hospital for alcohol. She did not get married, her boyfriends always cheated on her. She got depressed and drowned herself in alcohol. She got no friends. They don't want her to their friend. She's a backstabber way back then.

Life did let her pay all her dues to everyone. Now she's alone and pretends that everything's okay. But you can see the pains and sadness on her eyes. Right there at that moment, you've forgiven her. Well, you did forgive her a long time ago when you already been up to the ground. You have to think of others things other than betrayals.

We can forgive, but can we forget?

Forgiveness does not change the past, but it does enlarge the future.

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    • MsDora profile image

      Dora Weithers 4 years ago from The Caribbean

      Your last sentence says it all. It's true whether or not we the suffering of the offender. It's our own lives we are saving. Good reading!

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      Deb Hirt 4 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      You've got that right, Mycee. It all comes flowing back, and then you wonder, "What's going to happen next?"

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      How apt Spy, "Forgiven, not Forgotten". It is almost impossible to forget, especially when hurt is involved but, forgiving is good not only for those we are forgiving but for ourselves. It lightens the heart and lets the love in.

      I agree with Faith, even in forgiveness we need to be careful and remember.

      Voted up, awesome, and interesting.

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      Genna East 4 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      It's all about forgiveness. But what does that word mean? I think you and Faith described it best. Lovely hub. :-)

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Forgiven, not Forgotten I always think and feel to forgive is easy but to forget it is most difficult so glad you wrote this hub got me thinking even more. To forgive is such power and you made a great mention of it.

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      Shauna L Bowling 4 years ago from Central Florida

      Spy, we can forgive, but I don't think wrongdoings will ever be forgotten. In the case of your friend, who I assume is now clean, I hope she never forgets how she was back then. Remembering will help to keep her on the path she is now and not give into the temptation to revert to previous behavior.

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      Kathryn 4 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I think it is healthy to forgive, but to never forget those lessons we have learned. Even the bad things that happen in our lives can be useful to us in some way, and can be a part of molding the person that we are, and will be.

      Thanks for sharing this with us, and have a great day!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Faith Reaper 4 years ago from southern USA

      Dear Spy,

      Thank you for sharing your story of forgiveness. Forgiveness is so powerful, maybe not to the one we are forgiving (for they may no even realize they have hurt you), but to our own mental health and physical being. It has been shown that harboring bad feelings or unforgiveness in our hearts actually can make us sick. God always tells us this very thing in His Word. It is so important that we forgive, no matter how hard it may be, and just because we have forgiven, does not mean we can ever trust that person again. Sometimes it is necessary to keep those boundaries set up for our own protection.

      Up and more and sharing

      Hugs, Faith Reaper