Forms Of Love
Love, what is it really?
When we speak those sometimes magical words, "I love you", do we truly understand what we are saying?
The English language can be very confusing itself. Other languages have multiple words for love, but not English. This is part of the reason that I believe we have so many issues with relationships in today's world. Man having sex with man and woman having sex with woman is not love. Many people these days think so though.
The purpose of this hub is to open the eyes of people to what love truly is. There are several types of love. To understand better, let us take a look at the Greek words for love. The Greek can also be misunderstood, but much less so than English.
In Greece it is written: στοργή.
This is probably the most uncommon word for love used in the Greek language. It means affection in general terms, but goes even deeper. It is the natural love for family members, with emphasis on people who are not really liked or are over-bearing, but you feel a responsibility to still love.
A good example of this kind of love would be the Father who left the Mother and child at an early point in their marriage. The child is now grown and has come across this Father who is now a drunk/drug addict. The child feels a sense of love for the man, but still wants no part of him. This, to me, would be Storge.
Storge would also fall into the category of a natural love for a woman to her child. So storge has multiple meanings in itself, but it is still broken down further than the English language.
In Greece it is written: φιλία.
Philia means friendship. Loyalty to friends, family and community is the definition of philia.
Have you told your fishing buddy you love him? Maybe you should. You then explain to him the philia way. I bet he will appreciate the compliment and your wanting to be around him.
Voting can be a form of philia. You care about your community; you love your community, so you vote.
At the yearly family reunion, you can see philia everywhere.
In Greece it is written: ἔρως.
Eros means passion. We get the word erotic from eros, but the eros form of love doesn't just mean sex. The definition goes to a much deeper realm. A love of beauty is a better definition.
Eros is a physical kind of love and a desire to satisfy urges that are natural to mankind.
It is my opinion that confusion between philia and eros is the cause of homosexuality which is unnatural to what love is all about.
In Greece it is written: ἀγάπη.
This is considered the purest form of love. Much like the love God has for mankind.
It is my goal and aspiration to use agape love in every part of my life. I long to feel that pure love for all people, animals and life.
We need more agape in this world and it starts with each one of us. Show some agape to the people you are around. It will rub off and agape love will be everywhere.
In November of just last year my wife of almost 30 years passed away. It is in her memory that I write this hub.
Jonda and I, throughout our marriage, experienced all of these forms of love. The last 10 years at very least, had been agape all the way. Our marriage wasn't based on sex, money, drugs or alcohol. It was pure; as pure as it could possibly be.
Jonda's smile, even now from afar, warms me with Agape Love.
I pray that you too will find and heed agape; it's the only way to live a worthwhile life.
© G.L. Boudonck
© 2011 Greg Boudonck