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Four Levels of Love

Updated on April 4, 2017
4 Levels of Love
4 Levels of Love

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Four Levels of Love

There are four (4) levels of love. Each one has a place in the order of things plus each one ties in with the rest.

The highest is the spiritual love that flows naturally from within. It is the deepest love anyone can experience. And it brings with it a gentle peace that is full of power. The more one is open to experience it- the more powerful it becomes and the more uplifting it is to ones being. Its power creates magic and big faces (smiles) with ease and grace. It flows through the soul in man. (Some call the super conscious mind) It gives the will power strength and the heart peace. It is eternal. JUST IS!

The next level is the emotional love. Emotional love is not unlike spiritual however the peace and strength it offers is shallow. It brings happiness but no true magic. It gives joy but without grace and without ecstasy. Harmony yes, but spontaneous MAGIC? NO. This level of love is of the subconscious mind and creates memories with this level of love re-experienced or felt upon recall. This love lasts for a lifetime.

The third level of love is the mental. It is of the will power. It is duty bound and difficult. To feel true happiness at this level of love is actually impossible because it is from the head… not the heart. Therefore not attached to the spirit in man. There can be contentment with this level of love since the will in man can find satisfaction in fulfilling duties. Satisfaction can bring peace to the mind but not the heart. This level of love is of the conscious mind. Memories are satisfying but never really felt from the heart as true joy… only satisfaction. From the Will, this love lasts as long as ones memory.

The lowest level of love is naturally the physical. Sex “without” a higher felt love is the lowest form of love, filled only with physical pleasure. Sex in the rain or snow or anywhere physically stimulating adds strength or power to the physical sensations. Invigorating? YES! Memorable? YES! Yet it is of the physical senses and is short lived after orgasm. Since this love is felt in the BODY ONLY, it’s lasting power ends shortly after orgasm.

Naturally- sex with the addition of any of the HIGHER levels of Love is closer to magic, but true magical love does not require sex, “although it is a most divinely beautiful addition.” MOST DIVINE!

In a true marriage of the universe or God, the emotional love two people experience is raised to the spiritual level…. Eternally. (Magic will normally happen before sex happens or at least at the same time.)

Magic just happens, because it JUST IS. The TWO SOULS UNITE AS ONE.

It is as eternal as heaven itself. It brings a piece of heaven to earth.

Two people married at this level of love radiate a light together that touches all those in tune with their vibrations at all levels of love and life. Life will be hard, yet they wont be each other’s problem. Truly this couple is “In Love”.


Added to the above it this truth. “Every person has the capacity to love at different levels.” It is easy to explain this by an example of comparing ones capacity to love with a light bulb.

Love compared to a Light Bulb

1- Spiritual For the 300 “plus” watt bulbs

2- Emotional For the 100 – 300 watt bulbs

3- Mental For the 60 – 100 watt bulbs

4- Physical For the 25 – 60 watt bulbs

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When a couple unite, and they are not compatible with the amount of Love they can give it is most ugly.

Typically this is the scenario

One party is capable of 300 watt plus easily. They (due to their giving nature) are attracted to a 25 watt person. They for some reason believe they will be able to show them a higher way to live. The 25 watt person is attracted to the 300 watt person, not because they are in love with the person; rather they are attracted to a love they do not know.

In this situation, the 300-watt person gives and gives… always giving second chances for mistakes made and constant forgiveness for lack of respect and appreciation shown. Eventually the 300-watt person burns out and has nothing more to give. They become disillusioned and pessimistic of finding a magical relationship… after all they say to themselves “ I have given so much why can’t they change and see”. Then they say… “Maybe I have simply not tried hard enough.”

Wrong!!!

Sadly they often go from one abusive relationship to another. That is if they do find the courage to leave the first one.

The 25-watt person, who is in love with LOVE, becomes nothing but a parasite to the 300-watt person and an endless cycle of unhappiness is sure to continue for the both of them.

Compare this to the light bulbs.

Place a 300 watt bulb in a room… add a 25 watt bulb and there will be NO DIFFERENCE…. But add a 300 watt with the 300 watt and you double the light given.

Add a 300- watt bulb to a 25-watt bulb in a room, and the 25 watt- bulb will be drowned out. The light from the 25 watt- bulb will be lost. But again add a 25 with a 25 and you will again double the light.

By this example it is easy to see why it is BEST for BOTH people to find another similar in their capacity to love.

Plus, if you are in a relationship that is not balanced in the capacity to love, simply END this type of relationship before one party burns. The other wont grow in this situation anyway so quit trying. “When the levels of love are so vastly different.” It will NEVER work, even if values and goals are the some! The capacity to love has to also be the same or it is not worth the effort.

Funny thing is, two 25- watt people together, by doubling their light will BOTH experience magic. Why? Because they will “both” experience the brighter (double) love.

In conclusion, find another with the capacity to love at the same degree as you can. Respect and appreciation will be a two way street ON THE SAME LEVEL… thus neither party will “burn out”

True magic can happen, be it at a 25- watt level or a 300-watt level, when both people are THEIR TOGETHER. True magic will produce Peace, Joy, Laugher, and all aspects of the magical experience of truly being IN LOVE.

Now- in the spirit of humor, I’m single at the present and I’m willing to start a relationship at the 4th level and we’ll work our way up. LOL


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Canada

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      Neil Sperling 24 months ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Joyette - Thanks so much for reading and taking time to comment - mucho appreciation

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      Joyette Fabien 24 months ago from Dominica

      Lovely. I like the light bulb imagery

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      Neil Sperling 3 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Heather - Thanks for taking time to read and comment - of course there is nothing negative about 25 watters - we are ALL extensions of source energy in the process of expansion. Beautiful world in every way. Thanks again.

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      Heather 3 years ago

      Hi Neil, fellow Ontario resident here!

      Great article, I really enjoyed the light bulb analogy. It's great that you are not placing a negative spin on the 25 watters, rather showing how we all relate to one another, and whom we are more likely to have a harmonious relationship with.

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      Neil Sperling 3 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Grand Old Lady - That was a grand comment - Thanks for taking time to read and share a comment...

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 3 years ago from Philippines

      Never thought of love in this way or analyzed in this manner, but it makes sense. Great article!

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      Neil Sperling 3 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Michael - thanks for the comment and taking time to read. I appreciate it. Wishing you Love - Light and Laughter

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Hello Neil Sperling.

      Absolutelly awesome and resolute introduction of LOVE, love and " love's" function . Great illustration of light-bulbas. A must read for many if not for everybody. LOVE JUST IS ! Great line. Love is genuine in GIVING, the only love experienced , meeting our need when we do not know what our need is / was. ( He loved world … so He gave… what we needed to save us for all the times…) The first lesson to the love is- "hard work"- we "both" have to be willing to enter each other's need and only want to give my best "TO YOU "... In that instant we both will ever be giving , receiving and having the best meeting our needs…

      Voted up and beautiful.

      Have a blessed weekend .

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      Neil Sperling 4 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      craiglyn - what a wonderful post..... think YOU for the kind words sharing depth and love. HUGE hugs!

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      Lynda 4 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I love, love, love this hub. It spoke to me on all levels. I relate to it so beautifully because I am still with my husband, who is in spirit, a true testament to that "spiritual" level of love. I do this believe this, because I am experiencing it. Years later, and just recently, I wrote a book about "us" and I realized that those many years ago when I met him, I recognized something in him. Thanks again for this beautiful hub.

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      Neil Sperling 4 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Ryanjhoe - Cool to have you drop by and read..... and a thank you for the kind words. All the best!

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      ryanjhoe 4 years ago from Somewhere over the rainbow

      Nice hubs! You have a wonderful thought of love. Thanks for sharing.

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      Neil Sperling 4 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      tooto - did we pass the test?

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      Neil Sperling 4 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      teaches -Glad I brightened up your day - thanks again for taking time to read and comment and flattering me with praise LOL

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      You have my vote on this article. What a great way to look at love. Your view using the light bulb analogy makes perfect sense. I agree with the levels, spiritual love is the highest and the purest form. You are very wise!

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Linda - LOL ... yes it does -- yet it also explains the pitfalls the 100 watters have in thinking they can brighten the 25 watters glow..... Thanks for the read and comment

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      Linda Cassini 5 years ago from Las Vegas NV

      Now that truely explains the 25 watt light bulb my friend...lol..loved it and the symbolism :)

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      anonymous - how true - try to experience spiritual love with life itself..... and continue to accept your spouse as they are..... shine one my fellow traveler on the path of life. Thanks for taking time to read and share.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      I haven't experienced spiritual love with a human being but I know I have emotional love w/ spouse. It's hard to experience spiritual love when spouse is negative.

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Patty - ,my thoughts and prayers are with ya

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      patty 5 years ago

      Neil I am trying to smile. I have a lot going on. I am doing a lot of meditation . I need your smiles and prayers especially on Aug 1st. thank Neil

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      patty -- sure - let's talk them out..... maybe i can help you discover the needed message!

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      patty 5 years ago

      Neil I am back in in your hub , It is so peaceful. You mentioned spiritual happenings. I have 2 at this time. I would like to talk about them sometime. Maybe you can help sort them out. I don't know . maybe not .Confused Patty

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Patty

      thanks for your kind words. For sure - ups and downs are always there and we need to both give and receive love. You are welcome and thank you for commenting.

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      Patty 5 years ago

      Wow Neil well written. You have really put a lot of thought into love. One goes through life with ups and downs. Some times giving love or taking love is forgotten. I like your light bulbs. Everyone needs love. Thanks Neil.

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Sheila Newton - I'll keep on shining... all because of people like you who pump me up.. :-)

      thanks so much.......... Shine on! mmmwwwaaa

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      sheilanewton 5 years ago from North Shields, UK

      Now here's a completely different take on love. Fantastic hub - keep on shining on with your lightbulb theory!! Love it.

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Cris - so glad you enjoyed this and found it interesting... and a huge thank you for sharing. I look forward to crossing paths with you... cheers back!

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      CrisSp 5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      This is indeed a very interesting hub. Voted up and definitely sharing. Thank you as well for leaving me an encouraging fan mail. I'll be back to check out the rest of your hubs. Cheers!

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      tillsontitan - LOL nope I have not found my 300 watt partner yet.... not even looking. Not sure I would notice if she knocked on the door even as I am focused on getting my financial house in order. Things are turingin around in that department so maybe I will fix my door and hear the knocking of a 300 watt babe soon LOL... Thanks so much for the comment - i enjoyed the chuckle ... and I am thrilled you have a 300 watt partner. Cheers to you both....

      Love - Light - Laughter

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      Mary Craig 5 years ago from New York

      I come here long after everyone has read this wonderful piece but it has lost nothing over time. I am lucky my husband and I are both 300 watts burning brighter and brighter.

      After two years have you found your 300 watt yet?

      Voted up and interesting.

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Brittany - Thank you so much for your kind words... hope to see you again!

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      Brittany 5 years ago

      You did a good job on this hub and you are very good at what you do!!!

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      msorensson - You are a wise lady - "requires MUCH work on oneself" - To Fly we have to

      F irst

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      Y ourself

      Thanks so much for reading and commenting.

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      msorensson 5 years ago

      I agree with your definitions..especially the duty bound mental love..being difficult..

      We all would prefer to have spiritual love..and this requires much work on one's self...

      Thank you.

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      Suelynn 5 years ago from Manitoba, Canada

      LOL! Huge hugs right back atcha, bright spark! :)))))

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Suelynn - Glad I sparked some light for you. I appreciate you taking time to comment and let me know your thoughts.

      Huge hugs!

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      Suelynn 5 years ago from Manitoba, Canada

      Neil, much depth and wisdom in the writing! It also explained quite a lot to me in terms of my first marriage... watt?? You're a bright spark and did shine a light on the topic for me. BRAVO! :)

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Gracenduta - I appreciate you taking time to so so.... thank you very much

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      Gracenduta 5 years ago from Kenya

      I like your informative hub'

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Lady_E - great to see you visit - thanks so muck for taking time to comment too. heart Chords are fun to strike aren't they? .. thanks again

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      Elena 5 years ago from London, UK

      A very interesting way of looking at Love and so true. I didn't know there were levels - but it makes sense.

      An overwhelming response from other readers too.

      You struck some heart chords.

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      nnnnnnnnnnnn 5 years ago

      kool love is amazing great message

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      tyra marieza - Cool - I brought a smile to your face -- that is an awesome compliment. Thanks for taking time to read and smile. Hugs

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      tyra marieza 5 years ago from Atlanta Georgia

      When I smile after reading a hub it's a good thing.

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      pan1974 - why thanks pan - appreciate you taking the time to say so.... hugs

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      April 5 years ago from Columbus,Ga

      Iluv this hub.

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      Neil Sperling 5 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      derdriu - yes - it is refreshing to find respect for humans as well --- thank you for the votes and comments

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      Derdriu 5 years ago

      Neil Sperling: Thank you for the caring thoughts and clear analysis. It is always refreshing to find respect for human lives well and fully lived.

      Voted up, with every single category too,

      Derdriu

      P.S. Thank you for the great videos!

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      PenMePretty - Cool -- Thanks so much Pretty pen :-)

      Very much Appreciate the vote and the praise.

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      PenMePretty 6 years ago from Franklin

      Voted: Awesome...so enlightening. I love it!

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      haikutwinkle - glad you loved it! :-)

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      haikutwinkle 6 years ago

      Love your hub ;)

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      days leaper - glad they are brighter already - keep on flickering

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      days leaper 6 years ago from england

      I wonder whether sometimes the 300 watt bulb that will try to entertain the poor 25 watter, is actually a clear bulb, or a "Pearl" (misty) -in which case the 300w. is on a power trip and the 25w. must grow to save itself.

      Great Hub, excellent analogy. Very bright as things are clearer already. -though still flickering.

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Sunnie day -- Hey glad you liked it. Hope to see you back again :-)

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      Sunnie Day 6 years ago

      Wonderful hub Neil..alot of truth written here. Thank you.

      Sunnie

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      Joel 6 years ago

      Wow, great article man! Great read, I enjoyed it all. I will be back for more! Thanks and see you soon!

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      marsha - glad you enjoyed the hub - I'ld love to spend more time on the island again - great place. I hope you enjoy long beach.

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      marshacanada 6 years ago from Vancouver BC

      Thanks for this beautiful hub Neil. Wish I had learned those lessons when I was younger-but better late than never.

      Also thanks for your fan mail. Hope you get out to Vancouver Island again sometime. I'm going to Long Beach on the island next month.

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      izettl - great to see you drop by and thanks so much for comment. Duty bound love is all to common and yet not understood as a comparison to spiritual for it will trap a person into believing that is all there is so higher love is never felt.

      Thanks again for comment

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      Lizett 6 years ago from The Great Northwest

      Voted up! When people talk about love we often don't think about spiritual love and that should be first and foremost.

      I almost mentioned the "duty" of love in my lust and love hub when considering love in certain relationships.I was thinking about the love we have for our family and marriage that can be emotional and/or dutiful mental love (without lust). So this is great info here.

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Bohemian rhapsody - I appreciate your comments. I hope the love you feel will continue and also allow you to be open to experience it with another.

      James - Good to see you here. I have great respect for your writing and your comment is most appreciated.

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      James A Watkins 6 years ago from Chicago

      Great take on Love, my friend. You presented an angle I hadn't read before and I enjoyed your thoughts on this lovely topic. Well done!

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      Bohemian rhapsody 6 years ago from New york

      I just wrote a long version and got screwed because I was editing it too long. Anyway you are very astute. My boyfriend died 1 and a 1/2 months ago and our love didn't die after he passed over. I believe love transcends all. I knew the day my father died that something was wrong. I sat straight up in bed and insisted my boyfriend drive to look for him. I knew because I had reached the 4th dimension of love. My boyfriend is the same.

      If you want to read 'State of the union' it would explain more. Thanks for a great hub please keep it up!

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      Bohemian rhapsody 6 years ago from New york

      You are quite popular on this site and I can see why. Its funny,but I know exactly what your talking about when you bring up the 4th love. My soulmate died 1 and a 1/2 months ago. But I tell you are love blew me away beacause it didnt end after his death it continued on. I don't believe in God but I believe im something. Anyone think alternate universe? Because I can't let him go, our love was too strong. Thank you for hearing me vent. Great commentary.Please write more in this venue.

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Susan - I appreciate your comment and compliment.

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      Susan Zutautas 6 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I have never seen love explained like this before...Well Done and so true!

      Look forward to reading more of your hubs :)

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Cool - now you are free of toxic parasites and can build your inner strength and shine on. You do shine your 1500 watts beautifully. I hope you will find a partner that shines like you and together lift others to higher wattage!

      I enjoy and appreciate your in-depth look at my stuff here. Thank you very much!

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      Amy Becherer 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      I certainly understand the "draining" factor. You are 100% correct. It will suck the life right out of you and those relationships tend to feel parasitic. So, although it is possible to grow to a higher level, it is the time involvement that dooms the off-balanced relationships. That is exactly what I based my decisions on in leaving toxic pairings, which never attained the level of partnership. Thanks for providing information that validates in such an interesting read.

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      acaetnna - After reading your inspiring poems on Love - I'm delighted by your comment "riveted to my words". Thank You very much!

      Amy - Great questions - why are some only capable of 25-watts and some of 300+? To answer that is a future hub on the progressing growth of character. In short the answer your question is "they have not achieved inner wisdom in character.... at this time.

      You state that a 25 with a 25 doubles the light, but with a 300 is drown out. Does that mean the 25 is always a 25? I believe we all eventually achieve higher levels of love within our character. One lifetime wont be enough to take a person from 25 watts to 300. The main point though is "having a relationship with a 25 watter if your are a 300, simply it takes too long for that wisdom to mature (in most cases) and therefore makes a very poor partner. A good friend maybe, as you can spend less time with them now and then when you simply are drained and until you get your wind back.

      Your statement about leaving a no win situation of a 300 with a 25 indicates to me that there is no hope of upping the wattage. Answered above - If you do not comprehend my reply and want elaboration let me know.

      Thanks a Lot for taking time to comment - looking forward to "chatting" more!

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      Amy Becherer 6 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Great write, once again, brilliant use of analogies that are relatable. My questions are, why are some only capable of 25-watts and some of 300+? You state that a 25 with a 25 doubles the light, but with a 300 is drown out. Does that mean the 25 is always a 25? Your statement about leaving a no win situation of a 300 with a 25 indicates to me that there is no hope of upping the wattage. Your writing is wonderful. It was like the light bulb turned on!

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      acaetnna 6 years ago from Guildford

      This was a great incite into love and specially because I simply adore this subject I was riveted to your words. I am fascinated and I am so pleased that I found your hub.

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      Neil Sperling 6 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Twentyfive - glad you liked it - thanks for saying so!

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      twentyfive 7 years ago

      Oh wow, I never knew love has diff levels ;) Thanks for sharing this.

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      CarollynnSue - traveling broken roads give us the opportunity to either become cold and bitter - or to grow and shine. Nice to see you chose the latter of the two.

      Sandy - Thanks you

      dallas - the fourth level actually embodies what you have written but I chose to keep that content out of this hub as that message is a hub all on it's own. Glad to see you got the underlying message. Insightful!

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      Dallas W Thompson 7 years ago from Bakersfield, CA

      I suggest a 5th love: AGAPE. The agape word represents divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional, and thoughtful love.

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      sandylongman 7 years ago

      Great Hub so true!

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      CarollynnSue 7 years ago

      So beautifully done! It took half of a century before Our Creator presented to me My Better Half! And, what a Magical Blessing! Can you imagine two 300 watts light bulbs shining brightly together? We both had to travel some rocky, broken roads before we could meet. It is our past experiences that have taught us to be ever mindful of each other; tenderly, carefully, always mindful that our union is most important!

      Thank you for your Hub! It warmed my heart, and made me say a Prayer of Thanksgiving!

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Coolmon2009 - thanks a Billion for commenting.

      Lynn in Florida - I know what you mean - Australia to Canada - too much

      Victoria Dubois - thanks for the added points re: trauma

      Jewels- where did you get the idea that I implied we can not break cycles. That is part of the reason for the article, to lift to the light. Knowledge opens doors to expanding and growing. I truly appreciate you sharing and agree with the basics of what you said. Just make sure your partner is close to you in the amount of love they can give..... it is rare for a 25 watter to grow enough to fully partner with a 300 watts plus. At least not in one life time.

      Love - Light - Laughter

      Neil

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      Jewels 7 years ago

      Your article is written with much awareness of how we function as people on a humanity level and I agree with everything that you expalin. BUT . . for me what is missing is it assumes that we can never break free from this cycle, that we are somehow conditioned and that it will always be this way. What about the fact that in essence we are all Buddha or God or Divine whatever term one chooses to use.When this is in the mix the picture seems a little brighter to me as I know I can transcend all of that conditioning I might be in. Without it I think I may well loose the will to live !!!!

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      Victoria Dubois 7 years ago from Temple Terrace, Florida

      Very thought provoking article. I think I've been involved with all of the lightbulbs! I totally agree that you will not be able to change a person who doesn't have the same "emotional" feelings as you. Many people are not capable of that. Some people, due to childhood trama will never be able to give of themselves fully to another; but sometimes they find a person so full of love & a strong sense of themselves that they can teach them how to love! Thanks for following me!

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      Lynn in Florida 7 years ago

      Great article and much needed. I was in a long distant relationship and we were at the 300+, but the distance (only 3 hours)got in the way. He found someone closer and here I sit heartbroken.

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      Coolmon2009 7 years ago from Texas, USA

      Interesting thought provoking article; thanks for sharing.

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      wavegirl22 - Cool - glad you were back. Thanks

      lctodd1947 - Thank you.

      Sandra - my home ph is in my profile

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      lctodd1947 7 years ago from USA

      Well this one is great also and I agree with most of it...and yes people who are abused usually go back for more. The eternal love within our spiritual self...I call that Jesus Christ and there is nothing like that love. Your highest on the list. I think we need most of the levels at some point our life and it makes us richer. Sometimes we learn something; sometimes we don't.

      Thanks for sharing

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      Shari 7 years ago from New York, NY

      told you up above I would be back here. . . just had to come by your pages while listening to the Joys! and I stumbled here ;)

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Wealthmadehealthy -- I do appreciate those words.. Timeless.

      Thank You Very Much!

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      Wealthmadehealthy 7 years ago from Somewhere in the Lone Star State

      This is a timeless piece...so beautifully written and so true...Thank you for sharing it with all of us!!

      God Bless!

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Run Down Battery - Thanks -- even with a run down battery 1000 watts is possible LOL

      Glistening Rose Pedals - Keep shining your light girl.

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      GlstngRosePetals 7 years ago from Wouldn't You Like To Know

      Wow great hub I see now why I was dumped because he had mental love and physical love for me but like you said the mind holds memory and not feelings so he was lacking the emotional and spiritual love for me and that's a shame but reading your article made me feel better and helped me understand. Thankyou

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      Run Down Battery 7 years ago from UK

      Certainly a lot to think about here... always the sign of an excellent hub!

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Anath - :-) No-one is ever really alone. hugs to you too.

      Princess-sisi - all is well - thanks

      Glad you all enjoy this hub!

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      Hilda 7 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      This is great, hope all is well!

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      Anath 7 years ago

      At least I am not alone at the 4th level :-)

      Happy new year Neil and thanks for a thoughful hub to start the year with.

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      J.O. - Thank you. I hope it makes a difference in a very positive way to you present and future.

      Neil

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      J.O. 7 years ago

      Thank you for writing this. It was exactly what I needed to hear.

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      Neil Sperling 7 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Sweetie1 - Cool - my first comment on the photo - Thanks so much for taking time to read and comment.

      Gabriella D'Anton - I'm delighted you took the time to read and post a comment. Illuminating eh! Turn the lights on high till you surpass 2500 watts :-)

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      Gabriella D'Anton 7 years ago from Los Angeles, Ca

      Great and "illuminating" hub. Just loved the parallel with the light bulbs. Thank you for writing it; it is obvious you know a few things about love