Freeing Your Mind, Ending an abusive relationship
It's not fun to be in an abusive relationship, even if the damage is not physical. Emotional damage can be as bad or perhaps worse than physical in some cases as the person may be controlling you, hypnotizing you with their ideas, brainwashing you to think the way they think, act the way they do, watch the shows they watch, etc.
There's nothing worse than losing your true self, or giving in to a controlling, manipulative person who preys on innocent unsuspecting people. When I say losing your true self, I mean allowing someone to:
- make you forget about what you really want in life (beat down your goals, dreams, beliefs)
- distance you from friends and family (in order to control you more)
- discourage you from doing the things you loved (i.e. exercising, socializing)
- discourage you from work or independence (lowering your self esteem)
- change your appearance for their pleasure not yours
There are many things that can develop in an emotionally abusive relationship and this is something people need to be wary of or look out for as anyone can become a victim.
Freeing Your Mind
In order to come out of this type of "relationship", you may first find you have to drop the codependent attitude you've possibly developed, which means you can no longer depend on them for anything, and you can no longer feel sorry for them or insist on helping them or "curing them" or "converting them".
It's likely the person you are giving up is an alcoholic or "user" of things or people, could be a classic worldly person who's been involved with illegal activity at least in the past who knows people's weaknesses and picks up on them fast!
Once you give up your codependence to them and vice versa- you will have to be the one determined to break it off, and stay determined, no matter what. Then you start building your life again, block by block. You will notice in the coming days, weeks, and months, (almost like quitting smoking- the relief and healing starts immediately- you will feel LIBERATED! You will begin remember your previous life, before the abuser. Life will be rosy again, your attention to details, your outlook, everything will change. You will gladly reap the benefits of Freeing your mind!
Abusers are often insecure and place alot of control on their lovers. They may be very jealous and keep you from even talking to the oppositve sex, or drilling you about who you've met and talked to. It only gets worse and worse, so "get out when you can".