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The Before Picture
Well, maybe. Divorce is by no means a pleasant occasion at anytime. If we look at the top 10 most stressful events that will occur in a person’s life, divorce ranks number 2 as the most strenuous and taxing situation one can endure, however, there is such a thing as an amiable divorce even if appearing far and few between. Sometimes it only takes the mature, well meaning actions of one party to lead the path to a favorable outcome.
Settle the mind and words
Regardless as to which person initiated divorce, deep residual feelings or love could remain on one or both parts. If this is the case ones thinking could be the key to quelling an already tense scene setting the atmosphere for more agreeable communications. It would be in “our” best interest to commit to positive thinking, finding varying methods on reaching a congenial mental attitude.
Divorce does not have to mean” the end”
Your attitude will determine how easily you will move into the next phase of your life. Reconcile with yourself and own up to each role in the marriage where mistakes were made. Whatever the issues leading to the parting of ways use them as a lesson learned, this way these same mistakes don’t continue showing up in new relationships.
Besides, if there is still a spark left, you might impress upon your husband or wife a newly adjusted and composed “you” generating a possible reconciliation in the near future.
Get to know “you” again
You are no longer the person you were when initially married. If there are still leftover feelings for your, “soon to be ex” allow yourself time to recover while working towards that recovery. Concentrate on the things that will contribute to building your self-esteem and increase becoming a better person inside and out.
Please s’plain it to the children Lucy
If you have children it is important to remember your divorce doesn’t only affect you. Make it a point to be attentive and help your children understand your divorce as you are going through it as your children are made to feel loved during the process, an additional weight is lifted.
When your mind is a clutter with divorce preceding it may be difficult to concentrate and for some it’s too much to orchestrate alone. There are a plethora websites and other sources where you can seek advice and consultation that assist in everyone seeing the way a great deal clearer. This way, the two of you can go forward leaving much of the drama in the rear view.